Even though I am dating a Virgo now, for a while, I vowed that I would never date a Virgo. My sister is a Virgo, and although we get along now, we fought and bickered when we were younger. Even more so, although I love my sister to death, we are two totally different people and I could never imagine myself romantically linked to anyone with the same personality. I'm a Gemini and from my experience, Geminis and Virgos don't pair well together. Having a sister as a Virgo is one thing, but the idea of dating a Virgo - those insanely blunt, perfectionists - was a complete 'hell no.'
Similar to reading your horoscope for love or for fun, there is a lot that your zodiac sign can tell you about yourself when it comes down to your work ethic and professional behavior. Now, I'm not saying that you should make all of your career and work choices based off of astrology, but after speaking with Astrologer Mecca Woods of mylifecreated.com, I have learned that there is so much that we can learn about our work behavior by just being knowledgeable about our zodiac sign.
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As Mecca told me, “By looking at a your birth chart (which is kind of like a cosmic map or blueprint to who you are individually) you can see the kind of career you might pursue, your natural born talents or gifts, what kind of work environment you would thrive in, and the kind you would run from."
Even more, depending on our sign and birth chart, the time of the year when our work ethic is the weakest can be determined. According to Mecca, “In astrology when the planets move through water signs, it's usually a time when people seem to be more low-key and less active. Those times of the year marked by the Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces seasons are when we tend to need more rest and privacy than usual. This is because the element of water in astrology tends to absorb whatever it comes in contact with and frequently needs periods of solitude/recharging in order to avoid burnout."
"When we're in these seasons many of us will be feeling the same way. Plus, water is a 'go with the flow' kind of energy. It's hard to buckle down and barrel through assignments under its influence."
I recently came across an astrological sign list by the University of California, Davis. Listed below, I have gathered the pros and cons of each sign, and I've listed how this can relate to a person's work ethic or behavior.
Also, don't mind the Beyoncé-inspired zodiac signs. I'm a proud member of the Beyhive.
The Work Ethic of an Aries (March 21 - April 20)
Pros: Adventurous, energetic, confident, and enthusiastic
Cons: Selfish, impatient, quick-tempered, and impulsive
In the workplace: You don't have to tell an Aries that they are the shit, because they know it. It's very refreshing to work with Aries because they have so much energy and their joyful attitude is refreshing to be around. However, their joyous attitude won't lasts long if you irritate them. Because they can be easy to anger, nagging them or not trusting their work is an easy way to turn an Aries employee off.
The Work Ethic of a Taurus (April 21 - May 20)
Pros: Patient, persistent, reliable, and warm-hearted
Cons: Jealous, resentful, possessive, and resentful
In the workplace: The Taurus employee is an ideal manager because they are kind and patient, which are two major qualities to have if you are a leader in the workplace. On the flip side, when you cross a Taurus, forgiveness won't come easy and this type of bad energy can bring negativity to the workplace.
The Work Ethic of a Gemini (May 21 - June 21)
Pros: Adaptable, lively, communicative, and versatile
Cons: Nervous, tense, and cunning
In the workplace: People say that Geminis are moody because of the dual personalities, but a Gemini's personality is just the best of both worlds. Geminis are amazing to work with because they have a natural ability to adapt to all types of people. Also, they are a likeable bunch and are natural leaders. However, Geminis can easily jump to conclusions and sometimes freak out at the slightest inclination of trouble.
The Work Ethic of a Cancer (June 22 - July 22)
Pros: Intuitive, imaginative, cautious, and sympathetic
Cons: Changeable, moody, and over-emotional
In the workplace: Cancers are naturally creatives and are great to include on brainstorming teams. Because of their nurturing personalities, Cancers are most likely able to make a positive impact in an organization. On the flip side, Cancers can be very moody and over-emotional at times because of their sensitive nature.
The Work Ethic of a Leo (July 23 - August 21)
Pros: Generous, creative, enthusiastic, faithful
Cons: Bossy, patronizing, and interfering
In the workplace: Leos are very energetic and when on a team, they are able to keep everyone pumped up and focused. It is not second nature for a Leo employee to take the lead in any situation, however, sometimes their take-charge personality can be taken off as bossy and demanding, and can be a turn-off to other employees.
The Work Ethic of a Virgo (August 22 - September 23)
Pros: Meticulous, reliable, practical, and analytical
Cons: Overly critical, perfectionist, and harsh
In the workplace: Virgos are very analytical, so they work well on projects that require detail-oriented characteristics. Because they are perfectionists, you can count on Virgos to get their job done well, with minor errors. On the flip side, sometimes their perfectionist mindset can come off as tense and demanding. When working with others that are not as detailed-oriented and analytical, Virgos unconsciously are overly critical and judging.
The Work Ethic of a Libra (September 24 - October 23)
Pros: Charming, easy-going, peaceful, and diplomatic
Cons: Indecisive, gullible, and easily influenced
In the workplace: Libras are one of the easiest types of people to work with because of their “go with the flow" attitude. Libras are known to exude positive energy and this can be felt among their peers, bosses, and clients. Because Libras seek peace and not conflict, at times they can easily be influenced and fail to voice their opinions.
The Work Ethic of a Scorpio (October 24 - November 22)
Pros: Passionate, magnetic, emotional, and determined
Cons: Secretive, obsessive, and resentful
In the workplace: Scorpios are very ambitious and driven. When a Scorpio has a goal, they will work hard and nonstop to achieve that goal. Sometimes because of their “can't stop, won't stop" attitude, they can be considered as opportunists. Also, once you cross a Scorpio, they can be unforgiving and can hold grudges.
The Work Ethic of a Sagittarius (November 23 - December 22)
Pros: Optimistic, good-humored, and honest
Cons: Careless, irresponsible, and tactless
In the workplace: Sagittarius employees see the good in others and are natural motivators. They possess a positive attitude and thrive in making others happy. However, because they work hard at being good stewards to others, sometimes their execution in handling projects isn't well thought through. They are also sometimes perceived as irresponsible because of their lack of direction for large-scaled, detailed projects.
The Work Ethic of a Capricorn (December 23 - January 20)
Pros: Practical, ambitious, and disciplined
Cons: Lack of imagination, grudging, and pessimistic
In the workplace: Capricorns are the ideal leaders in the workplace because they are self-disciplined, pragmatic, and go-getters. They work well in operational type roles because they can easily manage different types of projects and people. However, because of their straight-forward attitude, they can come off as too blunt at times.
The Work Ethic of an Aquarius (January 21 - February 19)
Pros: Friendly, honest, loyal, and independent
Cons: Unpredictable, unemotional, and detached
In the workplace: Aquarius' work well in teams and as individuals. They are also very trustworthy and believe in being loyal to the people around them. On the contrary, Aquarius' can sometimes lack empathy for others and can come off as distant when they get in their zone.
The Work Ethic of a Pisces (February 20 - March 20)
Pros: Imaginative, compassionate, and selfless
Cons: Vague, easily-led, and weak-willed
In the workplace: Because of their compassionate and selfless attitude, Pisces are great to work with because they are very likeable. They are creative spirits, and easily inspires those around them. On the flip side, Pisces fail at standing up for themselves and are sometimes easily talked into situations that they may not wholeheartedly agree with.
Whether or not you are an astrology lover, your zodiac sign can disclose a lot about your work personality and those around you.
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The Mecca Of Fashion: The Top Street Style Moments At Howard Homecoming
Outfits were planned, bags were packed, and cameras were ready to capture Howard University's collegiate spirit during its centennial Homecoming celebration. Not only does it hold the number one ranking as the most elite Historically Black College and University or its top performing academics, diversity of students and alumni, but the HBCU also leaves a legacy of style and grace.
The essence of effortless poise and refinement shines bright through the iconic university colors of indigo blue, red, and white. Every October, Howard University students, alumni, staff, and friends gather on the prestigious campus in Washington, D.C. to take part in time-honored traditions and events, which is Homecoming. This year's theme, “The Meccaverse,” was a week-long celebration of Howard University’s heritage, including the Homecoming football game and Bison Pep Rally, the Fashion Show, Greek Life Step Show, Homecoming Day of Service, Lavender Reception, and the iconic Yard Fest Concert.
As 2024 marked the 100th anniversary of the Howard Bison trek back to The Mecca and after two years of virtual events due to the COVID-19 pandemic, this was to be a celebration of a lifetime. We enlisted HU alumnus Sharmaine Harris, a luxury retail buyer, as she revisited her alma mater as eyes on the yard for fashion-forward outfits mixed with personal style and campus pride for the weeklong celebration.
Before we get to the looks, discover how attending Howard University impacted her career in fashion and her day-to-day style:
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xoNecole: Describe your personal style. Did attending Howard have any impact on developing it?
Sharmaine: Howard taught me that there’s no such thing as being TOO dressed. There’s always a reason to “put it on” and look presentable, even if it’s just for a day of classes. Standing out was celebrated and encouraged with my peers embracing the opportunity, giving me the confidence to try new styles and trends.
xoNecole: How did Howard shape your career as a luxury buyer?
Sharmaine: I studied Fashion Merchandising, through which I was fortunate to have professors who were very connected to the industry and able to give first-hand accounts of opportunities and what to expect post-college. I was also able to build a network through my peers and other Howard Alum, which has opened doors to endless possibilities both within fashion as well as daily life.
The same confidence instilled in me through my style has also been rooted deeply within me as I step into any role or project I’m faced with throughout my career.
xoNecole: This year marked Howard’s 100th-anniversary Homecoming celebration. Can you describe what the weekend looked and felt like?
Sharmaine: I’ve gone to many Howard Homecomings since graduating, but this year’s 100th anniversary felt like a huge family reunion filled with nothing but love. It was beautiful to see so many Bison return home looking great and radiating joy. It was beautiful!
xoNecole: What makes Howard fashion different from other HBCUs?
Sharmaine: Being that Howard is The Mecca, we have such a diverse population with each individual having their own spin on fashion. Getting dressed is second nature for us, but the layered confidence is our secret ingredient to make any look come together. Through that comfortability to push barriers, we have a legacy of setting trends, as indicated by the many alumni we have in the fashion and entertainment industry.
Keep scrolling for the top street style moments from The Mecca's Homecoming weekend:
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So…I wanna say that it must’ve been when I was either in the seventh or eighth grade that I participated in a series of etiquette classes.
As antiquated as that might sound to some these days and although I don’t remember a ton about them, what I am forever grateful for is learning how to properly set a table and what utensils to use at big formal dinners. When you’re a kid, you think stuff like that is totally unnecessary. Oh, but grow up, move in some circles and you’d be surprised how much random tips will hold you down in a pinch.
Anyway, in my personal opinion, when it comes to sexual activity, there should also be etiquette that should be applied — you know, “rules of conduct” (or engagement) for how we should expect to be treated and how we choose to treat others. Because, even if you don’t hear about sex being presented in the form of needing to have manners, having a certain level of decorum, and/or requiring a mutual level of dignity, that should absolutely be the case.
And just like some of the lifestyle etiquette tips that I learned back in the day have stayed with me all of this time, it’s my hope that if you aren’t applying (or requiring) the following 10 sex etiquette suggestions (all 10 of ‘em too) that you will start…so that they will remain with you as well.
1. Discuss Sex-Related Things That Will Directly Impact Y’all’s Health
GiphyDoes even one day go by when someone on Instagram, X, or TikTok isn’t talking about why someone should or should not know another person’s body count (check out “6 Things About The Whole 'Body Count' Debate That Should Be Discussed”)? Although I have been known to say that the kind of things we’re proud of, we tend to brag about without hesitation, that doesn’t mean that I think people are owed that type of information.
That being said, that doesn’t mean I’m not aware that there is science to back up that the more sex partners men have, the more that they increase their chances for being diagnosed with cancer; that a higher amount of sex partners can impact whether or not you get married (and that it tends to lead to divorce more often as well), and that an uptick in partners can even increase your chance of becoming a substance abuser.
Not to mention the fact that, as Dwayne Wayne once said on A Different World episode (that featured a great performance by Tisha Campbell), “the longer the list, the greater the risk” (of contracting an STI/STD) — however, if we’re looking at this point from nothing more than a sexual one, really what someone deserves to know is if you’ve been tested for STI/STDs within the past 6-12 months and, if not, if you’re willing to get tested prior to having sex with them. Anything else really is privileged information and totally up to the individual to share — both directions too.
2. This Includes Afterplay. Beforehand.
GiphyChile. I can’t tell you how many times someone has told me that they found themselves either embarrassed or flat-out pissed about how a sexual experience went. It wasn’t because of the sex itself; it was more about how things were handled afterward. Now, if you’ve never seen the (wow) 35-year-old film When Harry Met Sally (Billy Crystal, Meg Ryan) before, there’s a scene where Billy Crystal’s character talks about men trying to figure out in their mind how long they should hold a woman after having sex with her.
To me, the modern version of this is after sex, when someone asks, “So, what are you about to do?” because that sounds like code for, “You ain’t got to go home but…” Listen, when two people have real feelings for each other and/or are in a long-term dynamic, this point is — or at least, should be — pretty irrelevant.
However, if you’re in a casual sex dynamic or a situationship, I promise you you're putting yourself in a position to “feel some type of way” if you merely assume that afterplay means cuddling all night long while he thinks it’s more like polite convo for 10 minutes and then bouncing (or vice versa). If you don’t want to be bedside blindsided, discuss beforehand how you each prefer to get down.
3. Ask Before Sexting
GiphyI don’t care if the two of you have never had sex before or if you’ve been doing it for a while at this point, but if sexting has never (pardon the pun) entered the chat, you both really should ask before you start sending NSFW stuff into each other’s devices. Some people don’t like it. Some people prefer to know when stuff like that is coming because they don’t want what is being said or shown to be exposed to those around them.
Some people prefer not to “shift gears” (as far as their energy field is concerned) when it comes to being in one mindset and all of a sudden receiving sex-related content that they weren’t prepared for. Believe it or not, there is data to support that the art of sexting can improve coitus overall. However, the same research says that it needs to transpire under the umbrella of mutual respect and clear communication. I agree 1000 percent.
4. No Means No. This Applies to Us Too, Ladies.
GiphyMedia culture can be so…irresponsible, sometimes. Since we’re talking about sex, specifically, today, take when it comes to men and sex. Contrary to popular belief, no, that is not all that they think about and no, they aren’t always in the mood — for a myriad of reasons. And that’s why, I think it also should go on record that just like it’s wrong for a man to try and push a woman past her “no,” women shouldn’t do it either.
It truly isn’t said enough that you shouldn’t simply call it seduction if a guy doesn’t want to and you keep trying to get him to anyway while defining it as coercion when the shoe is on the other foot. The saying “no means no” shouldn’t have a gender bias on it. Everyone should have their boundaries respected — at all times too. Full stop.
5. A Clean and Comfortable Scene
GiphyFresh bedding. A clean bathroom. A washcloth and towel for your partner. Flip-flops (to walk around and/or take a shower in). Lubricant. Bottled water. These are the kinds of things that immediately come to mind when I think of what should automatically come with someone spending intimate time in your home. It’s also what you should be fine with requiring should you choose to have sex at someone else’s house too.
Because even if there aren’t things like scented soy candles and a ton of ambiance, you and your partner at least need to feel like you both are in a space that is clean. This should be a hands-down non-negotiable, by the way.
6. Turn ALL Devices Off
GiphyI don’t know if this means that the sex is/was really wack or you’re just a phone addict in denial but if you are “one out of every five individuals” who checks their phone during sex, I’ve got a bevy of questions for you. SMDH. For this one, in general, though, I don’t have a lot more to say other than, I don’t know how anyone could think that checking their notifications during sex — any kind of sex — isn’t rude as hell and definitely a reason for someone to hard pass on wanting to “engage” with them ever again.
So yeah, for this one, let’s go with an automatic “all devices off” rule. Since most people only want sex to last somewhere between 7-13 minutes anyway (is that per round…or???), I’m pretty sure that whatever IG Live that you’ve been waiting on can wait. Goodness.
7. Have Your Own Stash of Condoms on Deck
GiphyAssuming that the guy should always bring the condoms is about as sexually irresponsible as a guy thinking that he doesn’t need them because the woman he’s about to have sex with should be on birth control. My point here is that you really need to have your own condom collection. One, so that you’re always prepared. Two, so that you can select the condoms that you prefer (most guys are totally fine with that). Three, no matter what you might think that it implies, mature folks get that it means you are serious about protecting your health and well-being.
And what if discretion is what you’re the most concerned about? No worries, there are all kinds of condom carriers out here that basically look like tiny wallets (for example, here).
8. Keep Cleansing Cloths Around
GiphyHygiene is important, is it not? Although going into graphic detail about it may be something that most people would want to avoid, sometimes sexual activity happens spontaneously with no bathroom close by. And listen, even if the movies act like (for instance) oral sex after getting all sweaty from dancing all night in the club is hot, my mind automatically goes to it being kinda gross. So, at least keep some rinse-free cleansing cloths on deck if you don’t want to wait until you can hop into a shower. A pack in your purse or glove compartment can go a really long way. Straight up.
9. Don’t Be a Show-Off
GiphyOne guy who I had sex with back when I was in college, I was so excited about — initially. At the time, he was fine, and then some mo’ fine. To be honest, although we were very cool and spent a couple of years on campus together before I — eh hem — indulged, the main reason why I wanted to sleep with him is because I thought that his looks were a preview of his performance level. Boy was I wrong. Any time I refer to our, umm, time together, I call it “Cirque du Soleil sex” and even that is being generous because that man was trying to put me into every twist and turn that he could in under 20 minutes.
It’s like he was trying to prove that he could hold it down…and all that ended up doing was backfiring — supremely so. Moral to the story here: sex should be about two people enjoying each other, not low-key trying to compete or “outdo” one another. Anyone who says otherwise is truly bringing poor form to the bedroom, whether they realize it or not.
10. Watch Your Words. Afterwards.
GiphyOn the heels of what I just said, if sex with your partner was pretty much the equivalent of watching paint dry, it’s still important to be thoughtful about what you say. Lack of empathy, being inconsiderate of their feelings, talking to them in a way that would damn near cause you to blow a gasket (or melt into the floor) if they did the same thing to you — all of this files under hella rude behavior.
And while we’re here, please watch your body language — you know, heavy sighs, eye-rolling, stonewalling…if you don’t want to have sex with them again, that is totally your right; that doesn’t mean that you have to humiliate them in the present, though. You know, A LOT of people carry their ego in the bedroom — male and female.
That’s why I write articles like “So, 10 Women Sat Down And Told Me Why They Fake Orgasms...More Times Than Not” and “Men Fake Orgasms (And 14 Other Semi-Random Things About Them In Bed).” So, whatever transpires, try to be kind and compassionate. Karma shows up, even in the bedroom. Make sure it’s proud of how you handled yourself. One way or another, you’ll be glad that you did.
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Sex etiquette. As you can see, it’s a very real and necessary thing. I’m curious, though. When you get a chance, hop in the comments to share some other “copulation manners” that you think are important, along with how you handle matters when they are missing or go awry. Hey, when it comes to having better sexual experiences, we’re all in this together.
Kinda. Sort of. You know what I mean. LOL.
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