
Until this year, there was no way anyone could drag me to a yoga studio. I mean, no way at all! As a plus-size woman, I had written yoga classes off as "showoff hour for lanky, thin, muscularly built and flexible people."
And who could really blame me? Prior to the Jessamyn Stanleys of the world (who I love following), yoga has been widely marketed representing the demographic.
When I was offered a free week of yoga at Tantris in Los Angeles, I was at a place in life where I knew I needed the physical activity. I suffered great loss early in the year, with the passing of my brother and then my grandfather one month after. I had about 80 lbs to lose, looked in the mirror and saw what needed to be fixed, was experiencing symptoms of obesity, but my strongest argument? I was on a budget and the class was free. So, I took the offer. I had nothing to lose.
I brought a friend along and went to class expecting nothing. I genuinely had no expectations other than to see the typical Hollywood model and actress types and to do a few Downward Dogs up in that bih. But to my surprise, I loved the class! It was challenging, but also surprisingly relaxing.
We chanted and followed that with a vinyasa flow. I wasn't great at the poses, but I felt my body asking for more yoga. I came back to class the following day, and the day after that, and the day after that. I continued coming back every day I possibly could, thus beginning the transformation and journey I'm on today. It's been five months of yoga so far and I'm absolutely loving it!
Here are five ways that yoga has improved my life:
I Feel Connected To My Body For The First Time In My Adult Life
For a very long time, I looked in the mirror to see what needed to be fixed...but never really felt like or saw myself. To me, my arms were just fat and weak and my legs were gigantic. That was the way they always were and I accepted them as such. But after beginning yoga, I started feeling strength and seeing shape in places I had so long ago given up on.
I started actually feeling every movement my body makes and am grateful for the ability. I see (and feel) my body's potential and know I'm putting in the work on the yoga mat to reach it.
I Participated In A 30-Day Challenge & Went Vegan
The yoga studio I go to (Tantris Center For Yogic Science) held a 30-day challenge, in which we were to eat vegan and attend class every day. I participated and felt so amazing afterwards that I continued being a vegan beyond the challenge.
I Lost Weight & My Body Started Reshaping
There are moments on a daily basis when I have to do a double-take. Whether I'm passing by a mirror, or looking at a photo someone else took, I am in shock that, for the most part, I'm not horrified, or I don't dislike what I see. I actually like my body. I haven't weighed myself in weeks, but after weighing myself in the beginning, I know I lost over 20 pounds in the first two months.
Daily, I see the results of the work I'm putting in on my mat. My posture has improved tremendously, my butt sits up higher (just being honest), and my cellulite is smoothing out.
I actually have a great relationship with fitness because I'm enjoying the activity that's helping me stay fit.
I Learned How To Meditate
I have a hard time sitting still. My mind just goes and goes. At the beginning and end of each yoga class, we have the opportunity to set intentions and meditate. The more I practice yoga, the better I get at putting myself into a meditative state. I'm able to tune out the craziness of the day, the list of things that need to be done, the stresses and the work. I can just sit in silence.
I Made Solid Like-Minded Friends
The people I practice yoga with are truly amazing. They are of all age groups and genders and races. They're so full of knowledge, wisdom, experience, and love. They'll celebrate with you just as quickly as they'll volunteer to work at a charity event with you. These people encourage your spiritual, physical and mental growth and when it comes down to it, they have your back.
*Article originally published on Thick Fab Life
Chel Hill started Thick Fab Life as a way to inspire people to love themselves, live well, and be the best version of themselves at any shape and size. Since discovering yoga in mid-2017, she is transforming her health & life through regular yoga practice, meditation & living a plant-based lifestyle. In addition to blogging, Chel is a Billboard-charting songwriter, a voice-over artist, and is passionate about all things creative.
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Aries and Aquarius have an instant attraction and connection with each other. The Aries woman finds the Aquarius man intriguing, intelligent, and even a little mysterious. The Aquarius man sees the Aries woman as confident in her own skin, free-spirited, and someone who is dedicated to love, life, and the relationship.
Aries Woman and Aquarius Man Love Compatibility
There aren’t many faults to this pairing, and this is a couple that can last the long haul if their egos don’t get in the way of the relationship and the connection. Aries and Aquarius are the type of couple to support each other no matter what, and they are also quite playful with each other. These two are drawn to each other and make a happy and dynamic couple overall, as they both try to make the best out of life.
What attracts an Aquarius man to an Aries woman?
Aries and Aquarius are attracted to each other’s energy first and foremost. Although they move at different speeds, they value the energy that each is putting out there and they have a unique synergy together. Both Aries and Aquarius are more yang than yin and this brings a lot of excitement to the relationship. With both of them being more outgoing and free-spirited- this is a fun connection.
Aries is intrigued by Aquarius’ intellect and openness, and Aquarius loves to see Aries shine and take charge. The sexual chemistry between these two is off the charts and they are a couple that isn’t afraid to show how they feel.
What is the relationship like between an Aries woman and an Aquarius man?
The relationship between an Aries woman and an Aquarius man is one where there is always something happening. These two aren’t ones to push things to the side and they confront life head-on. This leaves a unique vulnerability and openness between the two, and the relationship tends to grow quickly. This couple is dynamic, original, and empowered.
Although, with a fire and air sign duo drama is especially likely, and tension can be thick between the two as well if things become shaky. If they can learn to handle minor disagreements when they happen, this will lead to fewer blow-ups in the relationship. Overall, however, these two often just get each other and move through life together well.
What is the sex like between an Aries woman and an Aquarius man?
As mentioned above, the sexual chemistry between an Aries woman and an Aquarius man is one of the best of the best. An Aquarius man does not open up to everyone easily, but something is enticing about Aries to Aquarius and they are ready to risk it all for them. An Aries and Aquarius sex life is passionate and progressive, and Aries tends to take charge here. They like to switch it up and try new things in bed, and their sexual chemistry does not burn out easily. An Aries woman seems to always have energy at her disposal and an Aquarius man likes when Aries takes charge here.
What makes a relationship between an Aquarius woman and an Aries man work?
The relationship between an Aries woman and Aquarius man works because they understand each other on a level that most don’t. Both of these signs value their freedom, independence, and authenticity, leaving enough breathing room for them both to feel comfortable emotionally. This isn’t the type of couple to smother each other, and they often build a strong network of community and friendships around them that they both like to spend time with together. Aries and Aquarius are a fun couple who values each other’s company.
The thing about both Aries and Aquarius is that they are both the type of people to stick up for someone and have someone’s back. This is the type of energy they put into their relationship as well, and they are the type of people to be there for each other through it all. Nothing is too weird or unusual for Aries and Aquarius, and they create a safe space within the relationship for both individuals to feel comfortable opening up, being vulnerable, and living in the heart space.
What may cause an Aries woman and an Aquarius man to break up?
The downfall of this duo is that they are both strong-willed and often don’t see themselves as being wrong or at fault. Aries, the first sign of the zodiac, is a leader naturally. Aquarius despises the idea of following anything or anyone, and will often try to challenge Aries' ideas and perspectives, no matter how innocent they may be. Egos are likely to clash from time to time with this duo as they both have strong ones.
Aries can also be quite possessive over their partners and this is the worst possible thing that can happen to freedom-loving Aquarius in a relationship. They can have difficulty feeling seen by one another at times even though they have many similarities, and when challenges do arise, things can get tricky. Things can get heated between the two, as energies can clash. Aries will want to address any issues head-on, and Aquarius doesn’t want to go there and will prefer to escape or focus on something else entirely. They both tend to have short attention spans as well, which can lead the relationship to trouble if not worked through.
Summary: Is an Aquarius man compatible with an Aries woman?
Aries and Aquarius are one of the best duos in Astrology. Air signs and fire signs often have this unique chemistry that is interesting not only to be in but to witness as well. These two often meet serendipitously and spend a lot of their time keeping up with this type of energy and enjoying their life together. Even if things get stressful, whether that be from life in general or the relationship, there is enough chemistry and connection here to help them overcome these times.
Overall, the compatibility is strong here and even when challenges do arise, the passion and true love is there to help navigate the relationship. This is a couple that wants to have fun, travel, spend time with friends, and be the best power couple they can be. This is a charming relationship where they both encourage each other and help each other grow in many ways. The love is definitely there, and this is a relationship in which they are both willing to fight for each other.
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Originally published on March 21, 2023