

I love black women. I came from a black woman who came from a black woman and I feel that melanated femdom is God's most valuable gift to earth. Women like Rihanna, Nicki Minaj, and Beyoncé are reminders of how blessed I am to be in the skin I'm in, and I'll stan for them any day with no shame. I've literally ended friendships because people didn't respect the true power of their magic. Don't @ me.
No, I don't know these women, and they don't know me, but they are undeniable and indubitably the sh*t and I unapologetically stand by that statement. With so many people in the world trying to devalue and demean women that look like me, it's a breath of fresh air to see us winning in a major way. But, with that being said, I can't help but notice a dangerous culture of divisive and sometimes abrasive admiration of these celebrities that has evolved on the internet over the past few years.
We all know that people can talk crazy from behind a keyboard, but the concept of toxic fandom has taken cyberbullying to a whole new level. Before I get a sh*tload of bees in my comments, I f*cks with the Beyhive. I'm an avid hottie. I'm a part of the Rihanna Navy. And I've been a Barb since day one; but according to Beyoncé's publicist, y'all gotta chill.
Recently, some internet gangsters deeboed the f*ck out this poor white lady's Instagram after a clip went viral of her leaning over Beyoncé to talk to Jay-Z. The clip, which has since amassed millions of views, featured the wife of Warriors owner, Nicole Curran, who said that the encounter was not what it was made out to be. Nicole spoke with ESPN writer, Ramona Shelburn, who later tweeted and explained the situation at length:
"Curran said she had no idea anything was even amiss until she got home and started seeing texts from friends and checked her social media. She's invited Jay Z and Beyoncé to the game 3-4 times before. Last night she says she asked if they wanted drinks. Beyoncé asked for water. Curran says Jay Z asked for a vodka soda. She asked if he wanted lime with that. But it was loud in Oracle and she couldn't hear, so she leaned over. That's where the photos of Beyoncé looking askance at her come from."
According to Nicole, she's recieved hateful messages and even death threats in abundance after the incident, and expressed that she, like other users that have been stung by the Beyhive, is severely traumatized by the incident. Nicole told Ramona:
"There was no hostility. I was trying to be a good hostess. I've never experienced cyber-bullying like this. I can't believe our players go through this. That kids go through this."
Since the incident, Bey has been tight-lipped about the situation, but a member of her team recenly relayed a message from the queen about her hive's wildly unacceptable behavior. Beyonce's pubicist, Yvette Noel-Schure, wrote on Instagram:
"I am looking back today at the start of The OTRII tour, one year ago. It was a place of joy, unimaginable entertainment from two of the best performers in the world, and a place of love. Every single day on that tour I saw love. Which is why I also want to speak here to the beautiful BeyHiVE. I know your love runs deep but that love has to be given to every human. It will bring no joy to the person you love so much if you spew hate in her name. We love you."
That's polite for, "wtf is wrong with y'all?". While some feel that Beyonce should have made a statement herself, typically, artists aren't vocal about the actions of their fanbase, and quite frankly, this whole situation is far too wild for words. If you ask me, this is a prime example of why we should all just mind our own damn business.
I love me some Beyonce, but I'm pretty sure she wouldn't want my love for her to be so intense that it's deadly. Because that would be dangerous... Black women are godly and it's okay to show admiration. But when it gets to the point that your love looks less like admiration and more like worship, it's time to take a step back, sis. That's unhealthy.
What do you think? Did the Beyhive go too far? Let us know in the comments!
Featured image by Instagram/@Beyonce.
Taylor "Pretty" Honore is a spiritually centered and equally provocative rapper from Baton Rouge, Louisiana with a love for people and storytelling. You can probably find me planting herbs in your local community garden, blasting "Back That Thang Up" from my mini speaker. Let's get to know each other: @prettyhonore.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Swipe Right For Sisterhood: Reginae Carter Talks Teaming Up With BLK To Make Friendships Front & Center
You know the vibes: dating apps aren’t just for finding romance anymore—at least not for Gen Z! As young people continue to redefine connection, BLK, the leading dating app for Black singles, is shaking things up with the launch of Social Mode. The new feature allows users to toggle between dating and platonic connections. Yep, you read that right—friendship is now just as easy to find as love.
To kick off this game-changing launch, BLK teamed up with TV personality and socialite Reginae Carter for the ultimate Girls’ Night In, proving that sisterhood is just as important as romance. The exclusive event was a celebration of the new feature and the power of Black women coming together to uplift one another.
“Your circle is everything,” Reginae shares with a smile, and she’s not wrong. She’s all about creating spaces where we can come together, let our hair down, and vibe with like-minded women. “We deserve spaces to meet, uplift, and vibe with each other. BLK is making that happen,” she adds.
A New Era for Friendships—Social Mode Is Here!
Gen Z is all about building meaningful connections, whether it’s with a date or a new brunch buddy. That’s why Social Mode is such a big deal. Research shows that 65% of Gen Z values friendships just as much as romantic relationships. With BLK’s new feature, users can easily toggle between “Dating” and “Social,” opening up a world of platonic connections—no swiping right required.
Bahja Rodriguez, Reginae Carter, Breaunna Womack, Lourdes Rodriguez and Zonnique Pullins attend OMG Girlz "Make A Scene" Single Release & Video Viewing Party at Trap City Cafe on March 27, 2025 in Atlanta, Georgia
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Reginae Carter Hosts the Ultimate Girls’ Night In—Powered by BLK Social Mode
What better way to show Social Mode in action than with an exclusive Girls’ Night In, hosted by Reginae? The event brought together top influencers, tastemakers, and press for a night of luxury, self-care, and real talk about love, sex, and relationships. From tarot readings to perfume-making and signature cocktails, the evening embodied the “soft life” vibe that many Black women are embracing in 2025—peaceful, intentional, and full of joy.
Guests mingled, laughed, and bonded over the importance of finding a tribe that supports you. It wasn’t just about fun (although there was plenty of that!)—it was about creating a circle of inspiring, strong women. “We need to stick together. We need to be each other’s village,” Reginae says, emphasizing the power of community over competition.
Sisterhood: The Real MVP
For Reginae, it’s all about friendship—and not just the surface-level kind. “We need friends who keep it real with us. The ones who can tell us when we’re right, when we’re wrong, and when we need to calm down,” she says. As someone who navigates the spotlight, she’s got the best of both worlds: friends who understand the grind and those who can give her an honest, grounded perspective.
Her advice for building strong, intentional friendships? “Be confident in yourself and know your worth,” she explains. “Also, hurt people hurt people, so make sure you’re coming from a good place when you’re building relationships. It’s not always about being nice—sometimes it’s about being real.”
Reginae couldn’t have summed it up better: “When you have the right circle, the right tribe, everything just feels easier. And that’s exactly what BLK is giving us—space to connect, laugh, and grow with each other.”
To learn more about BLK’s Social Mode, download or update the BLK app in the App Store or Google Play Store today. Who knows? You might just find your new bestie or your next brunch crew.
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