

With all of the magazines and TV commercials touting the latest skincare product, it's easy to believe that a jar of miracle cream will solve all of your skin issues. And like a true skincare and product junkie, I've definitely bought into my fair share of gimmick and hype. No doubt about it, products can definitely help, but for me, nothing is more important than knowing the science behind my skin, and using that knowledge to get my glow on, for real.
I've struggled on and off with adult onset acne since my mid-twenties, but by far my worst experience was when I moved to Vietnam almost two years ago. I had painful, cystic acne breakouts that would not go away. I had tried everything, and my skin just seemed to get worse. Around the time that I'd pretty much resigned myself to having awful skin again, I read a blog post by Kerry from Skin and Tonics. In her post, she discussed how she eliminated her acne and skin sensitivity by balancing her skin's pH. I researched, and decided I would give this whole balancing my pH thing a try.
We've all heard about pH in school, but as a refresher, the pH (or the potential of hydrogen) is a measure of how acidic or alkaline a solution is, on a scale from 0 to 14. Water has a pH of 7, so it's neutral. Anything below 7 is acidic, and anything above 7 is alkaline, or basic. The pH of your skin should be between 4.5-5.5, but really the goal is to have a skin pH of 5.5. This is important because a lot of us use products that completely raise the pH of our skin, which can result in irritated, hypersensitive, acne prone, or dry skin.
How do you know if your skin's pH is a mess? It's pretty easily determined just by looking. Skin with a balanced pH is smooth, plump, and slightly dewy, not oily. If your skin is too basic or alkaline, it'll look dry, oily (typically at the same time!), and you're more than likely to be suffering from some sort of breakout. If you want to be completely sure, please see a physician who can test your pH for you.
Our skin has a protective layer called the acid mantle. It's a thin, slightly acidic and protects you from bacteria, pollution, and other toxins that can penetrate the skin. When your acid mantle has a too high pH, it can cause major harm and damage to your skin. Like I said earlier, the best pH for your skin is a 5.5. Anything higher causes your skin to stop being effective at defending itself against bacteria, allowing them to penetrate the skin, causing breakouts.
Diet, the environment, smoking, and age can all contribute to your skin's unbalanced pH, but usually people have acid mantle disturbance because of their cleanser. Most commercial cleansers and soaps have a pH that is entirely too high. Ingredients such as sodium laurel sulfate (or SLS), a common foaming agent in most cleansers, have a pH of 9! When you wash your face, does it feel dry, stripped, and too clean? Not good. Your cleanser is likely too basic and is causing damage. Using a cleanser with a high pH basically washes off your acid mantle, leaving you wide open for a host of problems. Long-term use of damaging, high pH cleansers can prevent your skin from maintaining its ideal pH. This is how people can end up with perpetually dry, oily, acne-prone, or hypersensitive skin.
Armed with my new knowledge, I stopped using my problematic cleansers and switched to using low pH cleansers only. And as miracles would have it, my skin cleared up. Once my skin cleared, I started using acid treatments, and incorporating oils into my skincare routine. I haven't had a single major breakout since last year. I don't have skin sensitivity of any kind, and my skin is plump, dewy, and smooth!
So how can you balance your skin's pH?
Use the Right Cleanser
Ditch the harsh soaps and chose mild cleansers with a pH of 5.5. My favorites are the su:m37 miracle rose cleansing stick, acwell bubble free balancing pH cleanser, and the CeraVe hydrating cleanser.
Check the Ingredients
Ingredients like baking soda and lemon may seem to be helping your skin, but in reality, both are potentially damaging. Baking soda has a pH of 9, and lemons have a pH of 2. Frequent use of either can cause damage to your acid mantle, sometimes permanently changing your skin's pH. I used to be an avid baking soda fan, and I definitely don't use it anymore.
Get Tested
Test the pH of your current skincare products. You can find testing strips pretty much anywhere, but these on Amazon come highly recommended. If your products are above 6, it's probably wise to find other options.
Add A Little Acid
Incorporate mild acid treatments that can help make your skin more acidic. As I mentioned in my previous article, I'm a huge fan of AHA products. If you're into the natural skincare route, using diluted apple cider vinegar as a toner is a great option as well.
Keep It Greasy (With Natural Oils)
Use oils in your skincare routine. Oils are my life. I cleanse with them, add them to my existing moisturizers, or use them alone. My skin always looks super radiant the day after I use oils!
Balancing my skin's pH has been absolutely crucial in eliminating my acne and keeping me acne free. I'm so glad I made the switch! Now go forth, and get your glow on!
As a disclaimer, I am not a doctor or a medical professional. I'm just a woman who loves skincare, and wants to share my tips and tricks on what has worked for me personally. Please see your physician or dermatologist before beginning any new skincare regimen.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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From Dull To Dewy: These Spring Skincare Tweaks Make All The Difference
Spring cleaning isn’t just for your home, it can also apply to your skin.
When transitioning from the cold winter to the warm spring, your skin may require a different skincare routine such as lighter creams or overall less product. Brianna Kelly recently opened up B Beautiful Medical Spa in Atlanta, GA over the weekend and she shared with xoNecole about her skincare journey and how to treat your skin when the seasons change.
On her skincare journey.
"Yeah, so at the time, I would say mid-20s to late 20s, I was very self-conscious about my pore size, and I always used to feel like when I was talking to people, people were staring at my pores. So I was trying to find different skincare treatments. I also tried microneedling and some laser treatments as well, to try to address my pore size and the texture of my skin. I even went as far as traveling to different states to see different experts in the field for that.
"Over time, just maintenance with facials and premium skincare, I started to feel confident and better about how my skin was looking."
On the treatments her spa offers.
"We have all esthetic services, microneedling, microdermabrasion. We have chemical pills. We'll be doing some Botox and fillers, some lip injections, some IV hydration as well. And of course, we are going to be specializing in facials. From our seven-step classic facial to our 10-step everything beautiful facial."
On transitioning from winter to spring skincare.
"Moving into the spring from the winter time, I would definitely say, make sure you're using the right products. A lot of times we shouldn't be using the same products that we use in the winter, in the spring, or in the summer. You may want to get a different cleanser, or you may want to switch to a lighter moisturizer.
"You also want to make sure you have a good SPF to protect you from any sun damage now that we’re gonna be outside a little more during the spring and the summer, so I would definitely say focusing on making sure you're using the right products. Treat yourself to a facial. Get a good facial that exfoliates the skin, getting rid of all of those dead skin cells that you may have accumulated during the winter, and most importantly, make sure you're hydrating, drinking water, [and] maintaining a healthy, balanced diet."
"Moving into the spring from the winter time, make sure you're using the right products. A lot of times we shouldn't be using the same products that we use in the winter, in the spring, or in the summer. You may want to get a different cleanser, or you may want to switch to a lighter moisturizer."
On advice she would give others on their skincare journey.
"I would definitely advise them to see a professional. Definitely go to a spa and book a facial appointment with an expert aesthetician to get some feedback on the type of skin that they have, get recommendations for different products and treatments, and just [allow] a professional to address their concerns. What I noticed is that a lot of women are using the wrong products.
"They're going to the local CVS or local Walgreens, and getting products off the shelves and taking them home and using them. They're not really using the right product. So I would definitely say it's important to consult with an expert first to give you some sort of guidance on what to be using on your skin."
For more information, follow B Beautiful Medical Spa on Instagram @bbeautifulmedicalspa.
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