Why Stretch Marks On The Victoria's Secret Runway Give Me Hope For a Beauty Revolution
“It just means you was really, really small and you got big or you was really, really big and you got small. Either way, it means change."
Those were the words of my first boyfriend after expressing my fear of undressing in front of him. Around that time my stretch marks were fresh - the color of dark cinnamon - and nothing sweet to the taste of my own self-confidence. All the girls my age still had their baby-smooth skin and I was a walking case study for cocoa butter. I felt ugly and ashamed of my marks. My mother had stretch marks on her stomach after two children; I was sixteen and had just barely found out how a tampon worked.
Fast forward to 2017, when stretch marks are going through an unexpected glow-up.
Supermodel Lais Ribeiro infamously flaunted not only a bra that could outbid my student loans but her stretch marks on the Victoria's Secret runway. Missguided, a top brand in fast fashion, has declared that they are ceasing the of Photoshop to hide stretch marks on their models' bodies. This past fall, Victoria's Secret released an untouched photoshoot of Jasmine Tookes revealing her own stretch marks. Plus-size model Lucija Lugomer fully embraced her stretch marks and talked about her journey to self-acceptance. Model and Top Chef host Padma Lakshmi posted a photo of herself earlier this month with her stretch marks in full view. All of these posts were garnished with hype and praise. Why?
Why are stretch marks - these reminders of our growth and existence - receiving so much viral attention? But then again, why shouldn't they?
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The main problem, of course, is lack of representation. A rule of thumb: if it has to become a hashtag, it's because there's a need being called out. Body positivity is a movement that is taking over the internet simply because there aren't enough images of “normal" bodies in mainstream media.
When we think of the culture of beauty and high-fashion, we are conditioned to believe that imperfection isn't even supposed to exist. Between photo-editing and filters and apps that smooth our complexions with the touch of a button, we're constantly exposed to everyone else's idea of beauty. Out of this perfection-focused era comes a new one, in which women are recognizing the need to normalize their flaws and take matters into their own hands in beautiful ways.
In the same space of praise, I recognize the bittersweet reality that representation of such “oddities" is scarce. I'm hopeful that we will normalize the celebration of the woman's body in all forms, shapes, sizes, and marks alike so much that it becomes like breathing. I'm calling out a beauty revolution. I'm taking the initiative to look at these viral posts as a head nod in the direction of change in the way we view “flaws."
Call them what you will: tiger stripes, battle wounds, growth lines, marks on the tree.
Our scars have stories. They are reminders that we are superwomen and subject to our gravity here on earth.
Stretch marks are not a trend, but a sentiment of humanism that keeps us connected by embracing the nature of life. This should be viral and celebrated - to the point it becomes second nature. Embracing every inch, every line, every crevice of ourselves is what forms the nucleus of revolution. There is magic hidden in our perceived flaws that's dying to unfold, and I believe that those of us who were touched by the viral posts of stretch marks know it, too.
If the recent posts weren't enough of a reminder, I hope you know your scars are beautiful. I hope you know that your beauty doesn't have to harmonize with the ideals of others to be validated. I hope you know that you are not alone as you look in the mirror and wish for your outer thighs to get a clean slate.
Let the marks be reminders of how we stretched to love others and grew into the woman we were called to be.
For this beauty revolution I can only ask that you plant a seed in your wound and turn it into wisdom for the next woman to indulge. Allow others to reimagine the era of struggle they went through as a time of reformation and revolution, to reach a self that they had lost touch with in the fire of their pain. Remind yourself and remind others of their beauty. Being ourselves is the only beauty standard we need to abide by, and I hope every time women do this it goes viral. Cocoa butter kisses to our beautifully stretch-marked selves.
Are you learning to embrace your stretch marks or other body "flaws"? Share your experience with self-acceptance in the comments.
Olivia Jade is a writer and creative engineer, intersecting wellness, culture, womanism, and self-development. She waters the flowers in her mind so others can recognize their own internal garden. Link up: @akaoliviajade (Twitter and IG) oliviajade.co
The Mecca Of Fashion: The Top Street Style Moments At Howard Homecoming
Outfits were planned, bags were packed, and cameras were ready to capture Howard University's collegiate spirit during its centennial Homecoming celebration. Not only does it hold the number one ranking as the most elite Historically Black College and University or its top performing academics, diversity of students and alumni, but the HBCU also leaves a legacy of style and grace.
The essence of effortless poise and refinement shines bright through the iconic university colors of indigo blue, red, and white. Every October, Howard University students, alumni, staff, and friends gather on the prestigious campus in Washington, D.C. to take part in time-honored traditions and events, which is Homecoming. This year's theme, “The Meccaverse,” was a week-long celebration of Howard University’s heritage, including the Homecoming football game and Bison Pep Rally, the Fashion Show, Greek Life Step Show, Homecoming Day of Service, Lavender Reception, and the iconic Yard Fest Concert.
As 2024 marked the 100th anniversary of the Howard Bison trek back to The Mecca and after two years of virtual events due to the COVID-19 pandemic, this was to be a celebration of a lifetime. We enlisted HU alumnus Sharmaine Harris, a luxury retail buyer, as she revisited her alma mater as eyes on the yard for fashion-forward outfits mixed with personal style and campus pride for the weeklong celebration.
Before we get to the looks, discover how attending Howard University impacted her career in fashion and her day-to-day style:
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xoNecole: Describe your personal style. Did attending Howard have any impact on developing it?
Sharmaine: Howard taught me that there’s no such thing as being TOO dressed. There’s always a reason to “put it on” and look presentable, even if it’s just for a day of classes. Standing out was celebrated and encouraged with my peers embracing the opportunity, giving me the confidence to try new styles and trends.
xoNecole: How did Howard shape your career as a luxury buyer?
Sharmaine: I studied Fashion Merchandising, through which I was fortunate to have professors who were very connected to the industry and able to give first-hand accounts of opportunities and what to expect post-college. I was also able to build a network through my peers and other Howard Alum, which has opened doors to endless possibilities both within fashion as well as daily life.
The same confidence instilled in me through my style has also been rooted deeply within me as I step into any role or project I’m faced with throughout my career.
xoNecole: This year marked Howard’s 100th-anniversary Homecoming celebration. Can you describe what the weekend looked and felt like?
Sharmaine: I’ve gone to many Howard Homecomings since graduating, but this year’s 100th anniversary felt like a huge family reunion filled with nothing but love. It was beautiful to see so many Bison return home looking great and radiating joy. It was beautiful!
xoNecole: What makes Howard fashion different from other HBCUs?
Sharmaine: Being that Howard is The Mecca, we have such a diverse population with each individual having their own spin on fashion. Getting dressed is second nature for us, but the layered confidence is our secret ingredient to make any look come together. Through that comfortability to push barriers, we have a legacy of setting trends, as indicated by the many alumni we have in the fashion and entertainment industry.
Keep scrolling for the top street style moments from The Mecca's Homecoming weekend:
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Ciara Talks Motherhood & Future Kids With Russell Wilson — Meet Her Growing Family
Ciara has been popping out babies, it seems like every year, and we love that for her. According to her latest chat with PEOPLE, she ain’t done yet. In an exclusive interview at the 2024 Baby2Baby Gala held on Saturday, November 9, in Beverly Hills, the popular singer opened up about motherhood and the hectic schedule she maintains due to her four children.
She admits that the Wilson house is all the way turned up. “I have a kid on every corner. Oh my Lord, pray for me sometimes," Ciara shared. The "Goodies" singer and Russell Wilson, the Pittsburgh Steelers quarterback, are parents to three children: Sienna, 7; Win, 4; and Amora, 10 months. Additionally, Ciara has a 10-year-old son, Future, from her previous relationship with rapper Future.
In the midst of the prevailing chaos, the Grammy-winning singer surprisingly expressed her openness to having a fifth child, albeit not immediately. "Russ keeps walking around going like this, like, 'Cinco.' And I'm like, 'High five, I love you too.' I mean, listen, I think we'll make it to five, but this mom needs a little time. Just a little bit."
In July, the couple, who wed in 2016, commemorated their eighth wedding anniversary. To honor the occasion, Wilson compiled a sentimental video showcasing some of the couple's most romantic moments, which she subsequently shared on Instagram.
During an episode of the I Am Athlete podcast, Wilson talked about how he sees fatherhood as a direct reflection of what God has done for them. He said, “Unconditional love, to be able to love us in the midst of it all, to be able to be there for us, to be able to provide, to be able to care for us, to be able to show up for us every day. Not just physically but also mentally and spiritually.”
An insider described Ciara as a mother with remarkable energy during her pregnancies. They noted that Ciara refers to her life as "organized chaos," but she takes it to a higher level. The bright and shiny couple has always desired a large family, and being a mother is something she loves and has always wanted. You can feel the love this family has for one another. Let’s learn more about the beautiful bunch.
Meet Ciara and Russell Wilson's 4 Kids:
Future Zahir, 10
Ciara and her ex-fiancé Future welcomed their son Future Zahir in May 2014. On Mother's Day 2020, the rapper expressed gratitude to Ciara in a heartfelt message, writing, "Baby Future is Life, Preciate u." Young Future currently resides with his mother, stepfather Russell Wilson, and his three younger siblings.
In 2022, Ciara gushed over her “loving” son, telling PEOPLE, “Future is just like the kid with the wisdom who's probably the calmest but also is like, ‘Hey, I'm the biggest one, so keep that in perspective.’” In addition to showcasing his dance moves with his mother on the red carpet, Future Zahir has been receiving top-notch football guidance from his stepfather, who can be a demanding coach. Ciara remarked about Wilson in 2022, "He disciplines with love." Future Zahir has also inherited his parents' musical talent, having collaborated with his mother and sister on the song "Treat," a partnership with Kellogg's.
Future’s relationship with Russell is one of fairytales. The proud father reminisced about meeting his stepson for the first time as an infant on the I Am Athlete podcast. "He crawled into my lap, and I just knew, this is going to be my responsibility," he shared. "I remember leaving that night, and God spoke to me, saying, 'Raising this child is your calling.' I prayed, asking, 'Are you sure this is what you want me to do?' And He replied, 'Yes, this is meant for you.'"
For Wilson, becoming a stepdad was a special "opportunity," especially once he realized that Ciara was "the one" for him. He embraced the role wholeheartedly.
Sienna Princess, 7
On April 29, 2017, in Los Angeles, Ciara and Russell celebrated the birth of their first child together, a baby girl named Sienna Princess Wilson. The couple drew inspiration for their daughter's middle name from Ciara's own middle name, Princess. In a sweet post announcing her birth, the couple shared a photo of Ciara sitting on the beach, writing a note to their daughter that said, "No matter how big the wave, we will always be your calm in the storm."
As a toddler, Sienna, whom Ciara affectionately refers to as "SiSi," truly started to display her unique personality. Ciara shared on Instagram that beyond Sienna's adorable sassiness, they shared an unanticipated bond that has become undeniable, evident in their adorable matching photos.
Sienna quickly assumed the role of a devoted guardian to her younger brother, Win, once she was no longer the baby. "She thinks that he's her baby sometimes, especially when he was smaller, so that's really cute." The loving mother is eager to emphasize that her daughter, who resembles her in many ways, is not hesitant to express her fierce and independent nature as the only female among the children.
This year, when the mommy mogul asked SiSi who she wanted to be for Halloween, baby girl proudly said CiCi. "I can’t tell you how much this means. My baby girl went on tour with me and by the end she had every detail locked!" she continued in her caption. "Lil SiSi as Big CiCi. My sweet Sienna Princess Wilson 🥰🖤🎤"
Win Harrison, 4
Born on July 23, 2020, Ciara and Wilson welcomed their youngest son, Win Harrison Wilson, into the world. The name Win was Wilson's top choice, while the middle name served as a tribute to Wilson's father, Harrison. Shortly after Win's birth, a heartwarming video emerged of Ciara serenading her newborn with "Happy Birthday" in their hospital room.
Dr. Katz, Ciara's trusted doctor, who had delivered all her children, suggested that they sing "Happy Birthday" to the new baby. The act of singing brought great joy to Ciara, who mustered the energy to complete the song despite her postpartum state. Ciara recalled a similar experience with her daughter, Sienna, when she was born.
Win was warmly embraced by his older siblings, who eagerly showered him with love and attention. Thanks to their guidance, Win's development accelerated, and he soon reached a significant milestone by taking his first steps on the sidelines of Wilson's football practice.
According to Ciara, in an interview with PEOPLE, she attributes Win’s rapid development to his desire to keep up with his siblings, especially his older sister, from whom he has inherited a sense of fearlessness. Win also appears to have inherited his father's energetic nature, as previously shared by Ciara on Jimmy Fallon's show when he was only eight months old.
Win continues to impress with his sweet, energetic, and humorous personality. His presence brings joy to every room he enters, as described by Ciara in a heartfelt tribute on his second birthday.
Amora Princess, 10 months
The last Wilson baby is sweet Amora, who was born on December 11, 2023.
On Instagram, the couple expressed their immense love for their newborn in a post accompanied by an adorable photo of the little one. Ciara announced her fourth pregnancy in August 2023 through a heartwarming video shared on her Instagram. In the video, she is seen dancing by a pool, flaunting her baby bump. The caption read, "If you look at me like that again, we'll have another kid... You are my heart, and I am your rib."
According to a source who spoke to PEOPLE, Ciara remained active throughout her pregnancy with Amora, both working and traveling.
She even shot the music video for "How We Roll" while pregnant, showcasing her energy by dancing on set for an entire day. They also mentioned that she shot another music video when she was nine months pregnant with Win.
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