It's always a good feeling to get a raise, so if you've been privy to one recently, take this time to pat yourself on the back. It's well-deserved, sis. But after the pat, take a deep breath and pause on getting that new car or taking that luxury vacation you've had on your vision board since the sixth month of the pandemic lockdown.
It's definitely not a game of deprivation to simply take a beat and plan to truly leverage that boost of income to its full advantage. If you were among those who got part of the expected 4.6% pay increase this year, consider a few tips on the smart way to handle getting a raise:
1. Invest the salary difference to make that money grow.
If you've already budgeted to use what's now become extra income for at least one dream purchase, why not take part of that and invest more in the stock market or other investments? This is a great way for your money to grow in the long run and for you to see the long-term benefits of the raise. You can ask your employer or financial services advisor to simply up the percentage (or amount) allotted from your paycheck for certain investments such as your 401k or Roth IRA.
For example, if your yearly salary is $45,000 and you've been given a raise that boosts it to $48,000, take that $3,000 (or at least part of it) and invest it in stocks. If stocks aren't your thing, consider real estate (REITs), art, or equity crowdfunding where you can invest in a startup you're passionate about seeing succeed. If those options are still not quite your thing, invest in yourself or your children's educational or career future. Start a college fund, pursue a certification, get a peer--coaching membership, join a professional networking group, upgrade your professional website, or start a side hustle with those funds.
andresr/Getty Images
2. Go ahead and pay down that debt.
If you've been on track with paying off credit cards, student loans, or other debt, you can also use the difference to pay down debt more quickly. When favorable, pay more on your balances, especially for student loans. This is an opportunity to put more than a dent in the interest. Reconfigure your budget to find out how you can pay a bit more per month in order to celebrate a bit earlier when it's time to say goodbye to those automatic payments and hello to financial freedom.
If you are living check to check, behind on paying credit card bills or loan payments, or just downright ignored loan repayments for whatever reason, now's a good time to start paying down the debt before creating more problems in the future. Get that free credit report, contact your creditors, and find ways to at least be able to get into the practice of getting rid of the elephant in the room.
3. Reward yourself whether big or small.
As much as we all should be responsible and cover our financial obligations, spending money from a raise should also be enjoyable. Once you've taken a second look at your budget and consider your investment options in order to stretch your raise even further, practice mindfulness and treat yourself, sis.
Consider what a reward looks like for you. Is it play (i.e. a trip, concert, or bi-monthly luxury dinners)? Is it something that benefits your whole family (i.e. getting a kitchen upgrade, trading in your old car for a new one, or booking that Disney cruise)? Is it something on the smaller scale (i.e. going to the spa, trying out that robotic vacuum you have on your Amazon wish list, or getting a mani-pedi combo after years of neglecting those fingers and toes)?
Whatever that reward looks like, incorporate it into your new spending plan and enjoy. You've worked hard and you should reap the fun benefits as well.
Let’s make things inbox official! Sign up for the xoNecole newsletter for daily love, wellness, career, and exclusive content delivered straight to your inbox.
Featured image by Morsa Images/Getty Images
Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
Let’s make things inbox official! Sign up for the xoNecole newsletter for love, wellness, career, and exclusive content delivered straight to your inbox.
Feature image by Franco Zulueta
There's something about snuggling up in your favorite blanket and watching a comfort show or movie on Netflix, and what better time to do just that than in December? As the weather outside gets cooler, staying in becomes more of the norm. Thus, Netflix and Chill is a go-to. Luckily, Netflix has released new Black films and series on their popular streaming platform.
From Tyler Perry's historical drama The Six Triple Eight, starring Kerry Washington, to the Will Packer-produced comedy starring Marsai Martin, Regina Hall, and Issa Rae, Little, this season is looking up.
See the full list below.
Little (12/1)
Regina Hall's character is a bossy tech mogul who has everyone scared of her, including her assistant, played by Issa Rae. However, when she transforms into her younger self (Marsai Martin), she learns how to be more kind to others.
Daddy Day Care (12/1)
Eddie Murphy stars in this film as a father who decides to open a daycare after losing his job.
30 For 30 Collection (12/2)
30 For 30 is an ESPN docu-series highlighting some of sports' legendary figures and moments. Some of the episodes include Winning Time: Reggie Miller Vs. The New York Knicks and Celtics/ Lakers: The Best of Enemies.
Jamie Foxx: What Had Happened Was (12/10)
In this special, the multi-talented Jamie Foxx returns to stand-up to give an unforgettable performance.
Blood, Sweat & Heels S2 (12/13)
The short-lived Bravo reality TV series documented the lives of a group of girlfriends making it in NYC. The show starred model-turned-podcaster Melyssa Ford, author Demetria Lucas, and the late TV host Daisy Lewellyn.
The Equalizer S1-3 (12/16)
The hit CBS show starring Queen Latifah is now available on Netflix. Watch the beloved actress kick ass and take names in this popular drama.
The Six Triple Eight (12/20)
The new Tyler Perry film starring Kerry Washington is a true story about the first and only Women’s Army Corps unit of color during World War II.
Christmas Game Day Ravens Vs. Texans (12/25)
While many will tune in to watch the Baltimore Ravens vs. Houston Texans game, others will tune in to watch Beyoncé perform during halftime.
Michelle Buteau: A Buteau-ful Mind At Radio City Music Hall (12/31)
Comedian Michelle Buteau's comedy special will focus on her life with twins, going viral, and much more.
Evil S3 (12/31)
While Evil was unfortunately canceled by CBS, viewers can rewatch the series on Netflix, with season three premiering December 31st.
Let’s make things inbox official! Sign up for the xoNecole newsletter for love, wellness, career, and exclusive content delivered straight to your inbox.
Feature image screenshot/YouTube