The Miseducation of Black Women: What Lauryn Hill Means To Women Of Color
In 1998, a 23-year-old lyricist from South Orange, New Jersey released a project that would influence and inspire women of color for years to come. Every chance we play Lauryn Hill's record-breaking solo album, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill, we experience the magic all over again.
The relevance of her first and only solo studio album is undeniable and is especially relevant to the narrative of women of color. The album takes us on an authentic and raw journey through what it means to be a Black woman. In commemoration of the album's anniversary, we've taken the time to give you an analytical track-by-track review of what Lauryn Hill's album meant and still means to women of color.
"Intro"
This 47-second track sets the scene for Lauryn's narrative, where a teacher, played by politician and poet Ras Baraka, takes attendance in a classroom setting. At the end of the role, Baraka calls Lauryn's name as the audio fades out. Her absence implies the overall theme of her "miseducation" in the project. Genius.com implies that this could be an analogy to her, like all of us, missing some of life's most important lessons by not staying present.
"Lost Ones"
"Lost Ones" is the audience's first time hearing Lauryn's signature Caribbean influence on the album, and also serves as one of the greatest diss tracks of all time. The subtle innuendos throughout the track elude to her messy break-up from a former lover, as well as her split with her longtime group members after leaving the Fugees. "Lost Ones" is a bold f*ck you and a testament to women's increasingly progressive emancipation from their oppressors.
"Ex-Factor"
The definition of insanity is continuing to do something repeatedly and expect a different result. We're all pretty f*cking crazy because I don't know one person who can't relate to the eerily familiar lyrics to "Ex-Factor."
"I keep letting you back in/ How can I explain myself?/ As painful as this thing has been/ I just can't be with no one else"
The song has been frequently sampled in popular songs, including recent hits like Drake's "Nice For What" and Cardi B.'s "Be Careful," frankly because it's so damn relevant. We are all guilty of being swindled of our hearts from someone who said they would die for us, leaving us to wonder: But would you live for me tho?
"To Zion"
"To Zion" answers a question that has been relevant to women since the dawn of time. Can we have both? Women are often told that once we decide to have a child, our professional and personal lives are no longer worth fulfillment. In the song, Lauryn candidly discusses the decision she made to keep her baby, Zion, despite her dreams, and in return, Zion has given her the greatest joy in her life.
Lauryn really lets all of her femininity hang out on this track. She refutes critics who told her to use her head, and did what women do best: used her heart. In this track, she depicts the love between mother and child and proves that this connection is the truest reflection of God's grace.
"Doo Wop (That Thing)"
This track is the quintessential 'check yourself, before you wreck yourself' anthem for people of color. "Doo Wop (That Thing)" is a requiem of protest for exploited black bodies, and the lyrics still ring true today; especially in the age of social media, where women are so often caught up in mainstream media's depiction of who we are supposed to be that we forget who we are.
"Superstar"
Now, this side of Lauryn, I love. Yes, we know her as the ultimate soul songstress of many generations, but she also spits heat on this album, yo. She checks the mainstream music industry for transforming hip-hop into an inauthentic commodity that encourages mark ass tricks that aren't true to the game to get a foot in the industry.
"Final Hour"
We see a more theoretical Lauryn on this track as she discusses the juxtaposition between spirituality and materialism. She continues to relay biblical references on this track and warns us to be careful about what we value. She mentions Psalms 73, which says that in the end, living a life close to God is imperative because prosperity, if evil, is temporary and will receive their judgment in the "final hour."
"When It Hurts So Bad"
So often, we are told to trust our gut. But everything that feels good, ain't good for you, sis. Lauryn touches on the vulnerability of a woman and her emotions, and how the combination will lead us to seek out things that aren't good for us. Lauryn loved a man, like we all did. But how often are we caught up chasing what we want so much that we miss out on what we truly needed.
"I Used to Love Him" (featuring Mary J. Blige)
This duet between the songstresses, who were both super hot and going through very public break-ups at the time of the album's release, was straight flames. Lauryn and Mary were faced with the conclusion that we all eventually have to realize: true love shouldn't hurt. The vocalists sung a tune of pain and redemption that is all too relevant to the realities of black women.
We dim our light for the sake of our lovers and over time we forget that we can shine without them.
By the end of the song, Mary and Lauryn find healing and strength in knowing that their life was more than being the lover of a foolish man and that their creator was in full control.
"Forgive Them Father"
This song depicts a story about the forgiving hearts of women. Although she has been oppressed and betrayed by those she loved, this song is a prayer that those who hurt her seek blessings. This is another nod to biblical context as she references Cain and Abel, as well as Jesus and Judas.
"Every City, Every Ghetto"
We dive into Lauryn's nostalgia and get a peek at her adolescence in this track. She reminisces about the challenges she encountered and the memories she garnered after growing up in what she calls "New Jerusalem."
Nothing Even Matters (featuring D'Angelo)
This song encompasses her overall theme that love conquers all. She and D'Angelo's soulful melody creates an image of intimacy that is relatable to anyone that's ever been in love.
"Everything Is Everything"
Lauryn hasn't shied away from getting political on 'em, and this track is no exception. The track discusses social injustice and the challenges that inner-city youth encounter daily. The song is host to a comforting message that even though things are f*cked up now, change will come eventually.
The track also features a young John Legend, who was virtually unknown at the time on the keys.
"The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill"
This song is about the progressively feminist idea that women should be able to choose their own destiny. She, like many of us, went out in the world to find herself and found out that the answer she was seeking was inside of her the whole time.
"Can't Take My Eyes Off You"
This Frankie Vallie and The 4 Seasons remake is a tribute to pure infatuation. "Can't Take My Eyes Off You" is not only a love song, but a piece of hardcore gentrification in the name of black love. What more can you ask for?
"Tell Him"
This is probably my favorite song on the album, as it relates to my own personal relationship with God and the man I plan to spend the rest of my life. To me, God is love. Love is patient, love is kind, and love is forgiving: the same qualities that I seek and hope to exhibit in my every relationship that I encounter. Lauryn compares the love that we share with others to the love that was shown when Jesus spared his life for us. That's pretty deep.
I grew into womanhood listening to this album, but only now can I understand why each song resonates so deeply with me. She was telling my story. I, too, have loved and been loved by a man, scorned and betrayed, and found my own piece and joy within myself.
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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Alaska Wasn’t On My Bucket List, But My Glacier Adventure Made Me A Believer
We all have bucket list destinations at the top of our lists. I visited one of those at the top of 2024: Japan! But what happens when you get an opportunity to go someplace that wasn’t on it? For me, that was Alaska. Now, I’d submitted my short film to the Anchorage International Film Festival, genuinely thinking it would be a long shot to get in with a short film about fibroids and Black women’s health.
However, to my surprise, I received an email that read: “It’s with great excitement that we announce your film, Super High: A Period Piece, has been selected for the 24th Anchorage International Film Festival.” After looking at the flight distance from Atlanta to Anchorage—a solid 10 hours one way— I’d decided this would be one I wouldn’t attend.
That was until there was a follow-up email that shared that the festival was sponsoring two excursions for filmmakers: A Northern Lights Tour and A Glacier Hike.
With that, I knew I had to make the trip to the 49th state! I flew Delta, which offered the shortest layovers—just 50 minutes each way. For a more comfortable flight on the longer legs that were about six hours between my layover city and Anchorage, I upgraded to first class with an in-app discount for $256 (the regular price of a first-class ticket runs about $2,100), which was so worth it for additional space and service for the six-hour trek.
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"So What’s Alaska Like? Did You Have To Wear a Snowsuit? What’s the Food Like?"
These are among the major questions I’ve gotten. Anchorage reminds me less of a bustling major city and more of a small town with an easygoing feel. When I arrived, they’d just had snow a few days before, so it was cold, and the streets were slick. So, I was so happy I’d invested in a pair of snow boots. For my first few days, the locals said it was warm. Warm to them being 20s at night and mid-30s during the day.
However, by the time I left, fresh snow was on the ground, and temps were well into the single digits—and it felt like it. Oh, the sun doesn’t rise until 10:30 a.m., and it sets around 4 p.m. That was among the most challenging things to experience because I felt like I never really woke up. So, between the lack of sun and the four-hour time difference, I felt tired the whole time I was there.
As for food, I didn’t explore a ton because I was so cold. But I found two gems! First was Whiskey and Ramen. If you enjoy ramen and exceptional service, this is a must-visit. I’d make a trip back just for their Wagyu ramen and their special take on an old fashion!
And, for coffee, I thoroughly enjoyed That Feeling Co. The coffee was great, and being surrounded by plants helped to perk up my spirits.
The Northern Lights
Iceland is one of the most popular places to see the Northern Lights, so I was very excited to know that Alaska also gets to see the Aurora Borealis light show. Typically, many people visit Fairbanks to see them, but there are tours offered in Anchorage too! When prepping for the late-night tour, we’d heard that the night we were heading out to see the lights, the cloud coverage likely meant we wouldn’t be able to see them. Bummer. I know. So, we could sit the tour out or still try. But, in my mind, I was like, why would I come all the way to Alaska not to try?
So, at about 9:30 p.m., we piled into vans and headed out to chase the Northern Lights. We traveled about an hour and a half from Anchorage, and when we stepped out of the van, it was cold and pitch black. And unfortunately, after a couple of hours in the cold, those clouds in the sky never parted for us. I know that when we see the posts of people who do get to see Mother Nature do her thing, we don’t have all of the context of the science, which is Aurora Borealis.
Sometimes, the weather just doesn’t do what we earthlings would like, which can lead to disappointment. However, our guide did give a recommendation. When you book a trip to see the lights, give yourself four to five days to see them. Don’t bank on one day because, at the end of the day, this is science.
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Now, On to the Glacier!
Just six hours after returning from the Northern Lights tour, we were up for the glacier tour because they were back-to-back! I was exhausted and so excited. If someone had told me I’d hike on a glacier, I would have given them a mean side-eye. I mean, where on earth does one climb a glacier? Let me share a few destinations with you, just in case you want to plan an icy adventure: Switzerland, Norway, Iceland, Chile, Argentina, and Alaska.
Aside from the fact the Matanuska Glacier is 22,000 years old, it’s the largest glacier accessible by car in the United States—27 miles long and four miles wide, making it one of the easier ones to see IRL. As a girlie with generalized anxiety disorder, I get anxious about doing this kind of thing because I know that to see these world wonders is usually a mountainous trek.
This one was two hours long, one-way, up snow-capped, windy, mountainous terrain. However, my therapist always reminds me to push myself to do what scares me (as long as it’s for a reason, of course). I held my breath for the journey there and back! And white-knuckled it from time to time, too.
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Once we got there, we were surrounded by fresh, fluffy snow, and it was COLD! In the negative cold. I was thankful, I’d over-prepared. If you even go on a glacier tour, I recommend a few things: Balaclava, heavy-weight gloves, cashmere socks, snow boots, and lots of layers.
Here’s what I wore. My first layer was Ann Taylor leggings and a Wolford Turtleneck. Then, I layered a cashmere turtleneck and cashmere joggers. A COACH down vest, which I’d recommend anyone own just for winter, in general, because it’s SO warm! For my feet, I wore Ann Taylor cashmere socks (I love these because they’re affordable and so warm) and Adidas Adifom Superstar Winter Boot and topped all of that with a Brandon Blackwood ankle-length parka. I know BB is known for his accessories, but the brand’s outwear is truly amazing and worth the investment. After two hours on the ice, I felt great!
If you’re open to adventure travel, I highly recommend putting a glacier tour on your list of things to do. There are a few reasons. First, standing on an ice age-old massive piece of glacier was my 2024 version of touching some grass. I was reminded that I’m a speck on this spinning rock and need to spend more time grounded in that fact as I move through the world. I looked to the sky and thought of how proud my ancestors would be, even though I know they’d be telling me to get my butt home and off a dog on a glacier!
Secondly, I gained an ever-large appreciation for Mother Nature as I learned that glaciers are the world's largest reservoir of freshwater, containing around 69% of the world's freshwater. Again, another fact that helped me gain perspective. Lastly, it’s just fun and stunningly beautiful!
After this, I’m looking forward to my next cold-weather adventure! Iceland and Argentina are at the top of the list!
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