Mastering Soft Productivity: The 'Anti-Hustle' Strategy To Achieve More With Less Stress
In a world often driven by hustle culture and the relentless pursuit of productivity, there exists a quieter, gentler approach to life that speaks to the whispers of our heart that tell us to: slow down. This alternative path, known as soft productivity, champions the idea of aligning one's actions with one's deepest desires and commitments, all while honoring the rhythm of one's own life.
Soft productivity is a philosophy rooted in the belief that true fulfillment arises not from the relentless pursuit of external markers of success but from the deliberate cultivation of harmony between one's actions and one's innermost desires.
For many, the idea of living a soft, productivity life is all about recognizing that our dreams are not mere destinations to be reached through sheer force of will, but ongoing commitments to be nurtured and honored each day. As the one adage puts it, consistency will get you a lot further than intensity.
By putting soft productivity into practice, one can learn that progress is not always measured in monumental achievements, but in the steady accumulation of small, intentional acts aligned with our deepest passions.
What if success looked less like a frantic race to the top and more like a leisurely stroll through our imagination, hopes, and desires? Soft productivity invites us to embrace a holistic approach to living that honors the interconnectedness of exploring our interests while living a life that’s in alignment with our deepest values and aspirations.
To help you live a life of soft productivity, consider these five tips:
1.Clarify Your Values and Priorities:
Take the time to reflect on what truly matters to you. What are your core values? What brings you joy and fulfillment? By gaining clarity on your values and priorities, you can align your actions with what truly matters, allowing you to focus your time and energy on the things that bring you the most satisfaction.
2.Practice Mindfulness and Presence:
Cultivate a practice of mindfulness in your daily life. Take moments throughout the day to pause, breathe, and center yourself in the present moment. Whether it's through meditation, journaling, or simply taking a walk in nature, finding moments of stillness can help you reconnect with yourself and your innermost desires.
3.Set Intentional Goals:
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Rather than chasing after external markers of success, set goals that are aligned with your values and aspirations. Be intentional about what you want to achieve and why it matters to you. Break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps that can be marked by internal validation and growth over external factors, and trust the process.
4.Embrace Imperfection:
Understand that perfection is an illusion and that mistakes are an inevitable part of the learning process. Instead of striving for perfection, embrace imperfection as a natural part of the journey. Allow yourself to take risks, make mistakes, and learn from failure, knowing that growth often comes from adversity. Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion in your daily life — let go of self-judgment and embrace self-acceptance, knowing that you are worthy of your dreams and desires while going at your own pace to achieve them.
5.Focus on Process Over Outcome:
Shift your focus from the end result to the process itself. Instead of fixating on the outcome, enjoy the journey and savor the experience of growth and learning along the way. Celebrate small victories and milestones, knowing that progress is a journey, not a destination.
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Aley Arion is a writer and digital storyteller from the South, currently living in sunny Los Angeles. Her site, yagirlaley.com, serves as a digital diary to document personal essays, cultural commentary, and her insights into the Black Millennial experience. Follow her at @yagirlaley on all platforms!
Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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There's something about snuggling up in your favorite blanket and watching a comfort show or movie on Netflix, and what better time to do just that than in December? As the weather outside gets cooler, staying in becomes more of the norm. Thus, Netflix and Chill is a go-to. Luckily, Netflix has released new Black films and series on their popular streaming platform.
From Tyler Perry's historical drama The Six Triple Eight, starring Kerry Washington, to the Will Packer-produced comedy starring Marsai Martin, Regina Hall, and Issa Rae, Little, this season is looking up.
See the full list below.
Little (12/1)
Regina Hall's character is a bossy tech mogul who has everyone scared of her, including her assistant, played by Issa Rae. However, when she transforms into her younger self (Marsai Martin), she learns how to be more kind to others.
Daddy Day Care (12/1)
Eddie Murphy stars in this film as a father who decides to open a daycare after losing his job.
30 For 30 Collection (12/2)
30 For 30 is an ESPN docu-series highlighting some of sports' legendary figures and moments. Some of the episodes include Winning Time: Reggie Miller Vs. The New York Knicks and Celtics/ Lakers: The Best of Enemies.
Jamie Foxx: What Had Happened Was (12/10)
In this special, the multi-talented Jamie Foxx returns to stand-up to give an unforgettable performance.
Blood, Sweat & Heels S2 (12/13)
The short-lived Bravo reality TV series documented the lives of a group of girlfriends making it in NYC. The show starred model-turned-podcaster Melyssa Ford, author Demetria Lucas, and the late TV host Daisy Lewellyn.
The Equalizer S1-3 (12/16)
The hit CBS show starring Queen Latifah is now available on Netflix. Watch the beloved actress kick ass and take names in this popular drama.
The Six Triple Eight (12/20)
The new Tyler Perry film starring Kerry Washington is a true story about the first and only Women’s Army Corps unit of color during World War II.
Christmas Game Day Ravens Vs. Texans (12/25)
While many will tune in to watch the Baltimore Ravens vs. Houston Texans game, others will tune in to watch Beyoncé perform during halftime.
Michelle Buteau: A Buteau-ful Mind At Radio City Music Hall (12/31)
Comedian Michelle Buteau's comedy special will focus on her life with twins, going viral, and much more.
Evil S3 (12/31)
While Evil was unfortunately canceled by CBS, viewers can rewatch the series on Netflix, with season three premiering December 31st.
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