Everyone needs a little validation once in a while.
And in a world full of filters and facelifts, we sometimes have a hard time recognizing our own true beauty. Of course we should love ourselves first and foremost, but a compliment now and then doesn't hurt, either.
That's exactly what happen recently on the campus of Spelman College in Atlanta. Twitter user @onlineva uploaded a video with the caption, "Told some black girls they were beautiful today." The video featured herself going around campus asking one simple question: “Did you know you're beautiful?"
The reactions ranged from surprised and thankful, to the self-assured and confident “Yes."
The video has now gone viral, and the comments are as beautiful as the students' reactions.
told some black girls they're beautiful today pic.twitter.com/pgf3fc5iXD
— eva sativa ☭ (@onlineva) November 7, 2017
Although there was one young woman featured that responded, "No" the twitterverse came together to remind her that she was gorgeous and better own it.
This video is reminiscent of a similar “social experiment" that previously went viral. The difference here is that this video is full of young, and of course beautiful, African-American, college-aged women. I remember that time of my life very well, and a simple compliment like that would have gone a long way. While I️ didn't go to an HBCU, the community itself was small with a lot of underlying competition and even more outright shade. A random act of kindness like this might have helped me along the way on my journey to self-appreciation.
This is the exact time where we are questioning ourselves, our beauty, our futures, and our worth. The transition between adolescence and adulthood can be full of self-doubt, worry, and even anxiety. That's why it is so important to recognize our own beauty and strength at this age, because without that strong sense of self, the years ahead will only continue to challenge your self-perception.
Self-love rules, but a little love from someone else can be the icing on the cake. That's why this video is so important. It shows that doing something as simple as telling another person that they too are beautiful can not only boost their mood, but can brighten the day of thousands of people around the world—especially if you make a video and upload it to Twitter. Random acts of kindness can be so simple but so fulfilling for everyone involved.
Here's a challenge that should go viral: tell someone they are beautiful today and everyday. You never know who might need your positive vibe and energy that day. Here's a quote that sums this up oh so nicely:
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." Leo Buscaglia
Are you aware of how you would respond if someone told you you were beautiful?
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Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Alistair Berg/Getty ImagesStep 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Getty ImagesStep 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
DMP/ Getty ImagesStep 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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