

Usher first captivated millions of hearts everywhere following the release of his second studio album, My Way, over two decades ago.
Over the years, the singer became a household name and left an indelible mark on the entertainment industry after dropping two chart-topping albums, 8701 andConfessions, respectively, in 2001 and 2004. Both of which have earned countless awards. Since then, Usher would release four more studio albums and sold over 100 million records worldwide.
To date, Usher, who is considered one of the best-selling artists of all time, is currently performing all his hits and more at his widely popular Las Vegas residency. With nearly 30 years in the industry, aside from his success, many often wonder how Usher keeps his ageless appearance at 44-years-old.
In Vogue's Beauty Secrets, a YouTube series, Usher shared how he maintained his physical appearance and the products he used for his daily skincare routine.
Hot Washcloth

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At the start of the video, Usher revealed that he begins his everyday skincare routine by wiping his face with a hot washcloth. The singer also shared that during this process, he is cautious not to mess up his hairline.
"I start everyday prep with a hot rag. You know, Black men, we’re really are specific about our hairlines. So, I'mma be really, really careful. It's almost like paint, this work of art," he said.
Further into the clip, Usher disclosed that he incorporated a hot washcloth into his regimen because before developing a more thorough skincare routine and getting other products that worked well with his face, he only used the rag.
"I learned this technique by not having access to any of this s--t, to be honest. A hot rag will get you a long way," he stated. "But you do have to be very careful of what you put on your skin. What it does, it actually exfoliates."
Hand Sanitizer and Facial Spray

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In the next step, the "My Way" crooner cleans his hands with Jao sanitizer and sprinkles Mario Badescu facial spray containing aloe, herbs, and Rosewater throughout his skin.
The benefits of using aloe include acne reduction, slow signs of aging, skin hydration, etc. At the same time, Rosewater shares some similar properties as aloe. It can also help individuals balance their natural oils and promote a smoother appearance.
Cleanser

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Following the facial spray, Usher uses Acne Expert Skincare's cleanser to remove any excess dirt on his face. The father of four revealed that this particular product is one of his favorites because of the cleanser's lather.
"When you use cleansers that don't necessarily lather. You almost feel like you're not really cleansing your skin," he said.
Usher added that another benefit of using the cleanser was that it was easy to use and keep up with after struggling with acne for many years.
"I went through a great deal of really, really bad acne as a kid," he explained. "I mean my face broke out so bad I had to find something that was simple enough to be able to keep up."
Eye Mask
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In the fifth step, the "Burn" vocalist shares how he maintains his ageless appearance. Usher reveals that he likes to use Peter Thomas Roth eye masks when he has extra time for a more detailed skincare routine.
"If you have enough time, which today we happen to, I'm getting calls. They're trying to pull me away because they didn't want me to share this incredible life-changing experience for you to keep you looking young like I do forever. These are really cool because they are like golden. Peter Thomas Roth eye mask," he said.
While removing the mask and massaging his eyes, Usher opened up about why individuals need to find time to take care of themselves, whether through a daily skincare regimen, meditation, or prayer.
"This whole purpose and point of taking a moment for you. Some people choose to meditate. Some people choose to say a prayer," he stated. "Whatever it is, you got to take care of you in order to be able to take care of anybody else. You gotta straighten your own mask before you get anyone else's straight."
Vitamin C Serum
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Following his advice, Usher used a rejuvenating toner before applying Acne Expert Skincare's vitamin C serum with a brush. The "Superstar" singer disclosed he uses a brush instead of his hands to preserve his hairline.
"This is a daily [vitamin] c antioxidant serum that I use for my skin. Now this is a personal moment. I said I was going to let you in on the secret. I use a brush for my face," he said. "Most people, they use their [hands]. Ain't nothing wrong with you using it. I'm particular about my [hair] line. I just really can't mess with this [hair] line."
Moisturizer
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Toward the end of the video, the "You Remind Me" songster explained some of the products he uses are beneficial for different seasons, including Acne Expert Skincare's moisturizer.
"Summertime, you do know that you are going to sweat or perspire a little bit more. So there is a difference in terms of how much product you use and what type of products you use on your skin," he stated. "Typically, I use what is called a calming moisturizing gel...It has like cooling properties inside of it that actually chills the skin out."
Usher continued the conversation by expressing how much he enjoys taking care of himself.
"I really like to take care of my face. I like to take care of myself. Can I say I'm vain? Yeah, because I care about myself. I care about my skin. I care about how I look. This thing, I'm preserving for you," he said.
After applying the moisturizer, Usher proceeds to do face exercises to reduce the appearance of wrinkles. The "My Boo" crooner wraps up his skincare routine by spraying Caudalie face mist on his skin, applying La Mer and Jack Black lip balm on his lips, and Chanel La Créme Main on his hands before heading out to the venue where he performs his residency.
Usher's Pre-Show Skin Care and Wellness Routine | Beauty Secrets | Vogue
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Are Your Relationships Serving You Or Sinking You? It’s Time To Take Inventory.
Relationships reflect our inner world and what we believe is possible for us. As we navigate our lives, relationships serve as invitations to do inner work with others. When we are unaware of what is happening internally, it can be a recipe for disaster. You are no longer authentic.
Sooner than later, you may feel drained, depleted, and resentful due to unmet needs and boundary violations.
When your needs aren’t met, you will serve someone else's standards while neglecting your own. This is why it is so vital that we take inventory of our relationships and assess if they are relationships that honor our needs, our boundaries, and our truth.
1. You allow yourself to build more intimacy in your relationships.
Intimacy is the heart of a healthy relationship. When we understand our partners, we build intimacy with them. Vulnerability is a conduit for emotional intimacy in safe relationships. Our relationships thrive when we feel emotionally connected and supported by our loved ones.
Nevertheless, a healthy relationship does not mean a perfect relationship, and sometimes we need to assess and address what's working in our relationships and what may need some fine-tuning. When we are open to learning, growing, and developing deeper bonds with our loved ones, we invite them to preserve our relationship through open dialogue centered around honesty, love, respect, and safety.
2. You are choosing yourself and are being honest with yourself.
When you consider spring cleaning your relationships, you offer yourself a token of love. You are communicating that YOU matter, and your feelings, energy, and the overall health of your relationships matter. Spring cleaning your relationships allows you to be there for yourself.
When we choose ourselves, we advocate for ourselves.
So many of us are starting to realize that we have every right to advocate for ourselves, even if the environment we grew up in did not support our emotional or physical well-being.
Now that we can advocate for ourselves as adults, we get to choose our relationships, not from a place of obligation or fear but from a place of reciprocity, love, and respect.
3. It can help you to get clear on things you may have suppressed.
Suppression happens when we actively push uncomfortable thoughts and feelings out of our minds. When something painful happens, and we are left with no resolve, we can suppress how we truly feel as an act of self-preservation for the relationship.
Nevertheless, with honesty also comes vulnerability with yourself. Maybe you have been unhappy in certain relationships for a while, but it was too painful to address, or maybe you have been suppressing how you feel because that is what is expected of you in your relationships.
Although concealing your feelings may protect you from experiencing them, keep in mind that the body stores all of our emotions. There can be serious long-term side effects of emotional suppression, such as physical ailments linked to autoimmune disease.
Our mind, body, and heart are all interconnected, so assessing your relationships through spring cleaning not only improves your overall wellness but can also prevent anxiety, depression, and other chronic illnesses.
4. You can reflect on how you’re showing up in your relationships.
This one is my favorite! Spring cleaning your relationships gives you an opportunity to see yourself more clearly. If you are going through an imaginary checklist of what everyone in your life is doing wrong, you may be a part of the problem. Spring cleaning your relationships is not about what everyone else is doing wrong; it’s about accountability.
Take this time to reflect on how you show up in your relationships.
Are you kind and respectful to your loved ones? Do you honor their boundaries? What can you do to improve? How can you become a better listener? A better communicator?
Use this time to put a flashlight on your heart and take inventory of the places you love people from. Relationships are co-created, meaning both people play a role in the dynamic. Assess your role in your relationships and be the change you want to see.
5. Setting boundaries will reveal the health of your relationships.
Nedra Tawwab, the author of Setting Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, defines boundaries as a "verbal or an action that you communicate to someone to feel safe, secure, and supported in a relationship." As we are spring-cleaning our relationships, it’s imperative that we check in with our boundaries.
As humans, we are forever evolving, growing, and changing. As we grow, the boundaries that worked for us ten years ago may no longer serve us today. This is why it is important that we communicate our boundaries as they change. People cannot read our minds, and it is unfair to expect them to, no matter how much you think they should just “know” you.
All relationships need boundaries because people need to know how we want to be treated. In healthy relationships, boundaries are honored, and differences are respected. In unhealthy relationships, boundaries are constantly violated and not taken seriously.
When you learn to set healthy boundaries and you start communicating them through your season of spring cleaning, allow your boundaries to reveal the health of your relationships. This may come with a sigh of relief, or this may come with immense grief, but I once heard someone say, “Struggling with the truth is much better than being comforted by a lie.”
Let your relationships reveal themselves to you so you can form healthier bonds, repair broken bonds, or release connections that no longer serve you.
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Originally published on March 24, 2023