

First comes love, then comes marriage, and I think we all know the rest of the story. But where exactly does moving in together play into all of this? Is it better to live with your spouse before marriage so that you know exactly what you're getting into? Or do you have a more traditional perspective that forbids shacking-up before you jump the broom? If you ask South African comedian, Trevor Noah, the answer is "Nah", and that's a whole sentence. On a recent episode of The Howard Stern Show, he was asked about his perspective on marriage, and Trevor had this to say:
"I'm not opposed to it. I don't know. I can only know where I am now in life and that's what I've learned to enjoy."
According to Trevor, although he can see himself as a married man in the future, he definitely doesn't plan on sharing a home with his one-day spouse.
"I'm a big advocate for not living together ever, even if you're married. I think one of the biggest reasons people get divorced and relationships breakup is because of this cohabiting bullshit that we've come to believe is the way relationships are supposed to be. You cannot tell me that everyone was designed to live the same way. Our intimacy can be expressed in different ways, and that's what's beautiful."
The Daily Show host was romantically involved with model Jordyn Taylor from 2015 until last summer and says that while dating and making new connections hasn't been difficult for him, doing the self-work has been his first priority. To Trevor, being her most authentic self is the sexiest trait a woman can have:
"When we meet people, we should tell them who we are, be honest. [Do] you know why? You should have the person love you or hate you for who you are. Not for who you portray yourself to be. How many people go into a relationship like a used car salesman, bullshitting about who they are?"
The actor empathized with the fact that sometimes our dating profile bio doesn't match up with who we are in real-life. Instead of selling yourself as a fun-loving, risk-taker who loves adventure, Trevor says you should keep it a buck and let your potential partner know you're actually more of a Netflix and Chiller because honestly, honesty is the best policy. He explained:
"I'm trying to be honest all the time, that's what I'm trying to be. That is true romance. When you lose the naïveté and you just enjoy it all."
What do you think? Would you be up to consider living in two separate households with your husband? Let us know in the comments!
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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A Black-Owned Mobile Spa Turned My Home Into A Luxury Retreat—Here’s My Experience
There’s nothing quite like a spa day, but what’s even better is when you can enjoy one right at home. I recently had my first at-home spa day with The Party Spa, a Black-owned mobile spa founded by Asher Wilkins.
Asher’s team of 25 professionals offers a wide range of services, including massages, facials, body scrubs, and more. Asher, a licensed massage therapist, stumbled upon a unique opportunity to combine massage services with the vibrant nightlife scene.
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"I noticed there was a need in the New York City night life, especially with the after work parties and I felt that I had that answer in regards to bringing what I did, because I'm a licensed massage therapist," he tells xoNecole. "So how could I incorporate this into what I like to do, which was socialize and network, and party.
"I went to some club owners and some promoters, and I told them about the idea. I said, let's include the chair massage along with what you have going on and it worked." At that time, the clientele was primarily women who needed a massage after a long night of dancing, especially in heels.
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The Party Spa, having expanded its services to cater to a diverse clientele, including business professionals and celebrities like Mary J. Blige, has even graced music tours like the I Love the 90s tour. Their extensive travel across the country led them to my doorstep, where I eagerly awaited my pampering session.
Asher and Miss Jazz arrived at my home and began infusing the space with a relaxing spa vibe. They set up an essential oil diffuser and provided me with a cozy white robe for a comfortable change. While I had the option to choose my preferred music, I opted for the soothing melodies of traditional spa music.
Asher skillfully administered my massage, applying medium to deep pressure that perfectly suited my preferences. He effectively worked out the lingering pain in my lower back and hips, leaving me feeling rejuvenated and pampered. The delightful aroma of the massage oils intensified as he continued rubbing me down, enhancing the overall sensory experience.
London receiving a facial from Miss Jazz.
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Once Asher finished, it was time for my facial. Facials are rare for me, so this was a delightful treat. Miss Jazz began with a facial massage, a new experience for me that I thoroughly enjoyed.
It felt like a continuation of the body massage I had just received. From there, she applied various products to my face, including a scrub, cleanser, vitamin C serum, and cream. She also gave me a honey and sugar lip scrub, which I desperately needed.
The result was radiant, smooth skin. The Party Spa transformed my first at-home spa experience into a blissful one. I found myself in a tranquil state of mind and relaxed the rest of the day.
The Party Spa is expanding its footprint by launching a podcast, Confessions of a Celebrity Massage Therapist, and working with non-profits to donate beauty and wellness services to survivors of sex trafficking and abuse. To learn more, visit their website thepartyspa.com, or follow them on Instagram @thepartyspa.
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