
Fat Nwigwe Says ‘Family Order’ Is How She Is Able To Balance Being A Mother And Wife

The Nwigwes are legendary within their own right and we stan everything about them. Everything.
If you're unfamiliar, Tobe Nwigwe is a Nigerian-American rapper and singer known for his mint minimalism, in collaboration with his wife, Fat. They've built a cult following for years but the two gained popularity last year with songs such as, “Try Jesus" and “I Need You To (Breonna Taylor)".
The duo brings family dynamic to the forefront in all that they do, often incorporating, and feeding off of, each other in their artistry. The entertainment industry has certainly come knocking on their doors, as they have built a powerful brand, their way—and only, their way.
Recently, the two sat down for an episode of OWN's They Call Me Dad where each of them opened up about the importance of men being a present in a child's life. It was here where Fat profoundly described their family, and how she is able to balance being a mother and wife despite their booming careers.
“I never questioned if [Tobe] was going to be a good father because he was a good man. Tobe loves on his children hard. He loves them and he plays with them often but most of all, he believes that he is the one that has to lead his children."
And by lead, she means being the leader of their household. She continues:
“The way our family is set up is God, Tobe, me, and kids. And so, when situations arise, he leads. I support him, I tell him what I think, and we go. I am able to know what I need to do as a woman and as a mother and as a wife, because we have that order. And so that order allows us to have peace, happiness, joy, so I can fully support him, he can fully support me because we know who we are individually in this relationship and as parents."
Tobe goes on to say Fat loved him even when he was broke and all he had was a vision. “And she love me, despite me.”
Whew.
Well, the conversation of 'family order' dates back to the end of time, where many believe in today's society, the lines are blurred. Should kids come before everyone? Or should families align in biblical context: God, man, woman, and child?
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Regardless of what you believe, no one can deny that the Nwigwes have put in the time, and work, to establish their foundation—from family to music. And whether you believe in their order or not, at the end of the day that's what it's all about.
Do you believe in having a family order?
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Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
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They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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To kick off this game-changing launch, BLK teamed up with TV personality and socialite Reginae Carter for the ultimate Girls’ Night In, proving that sisterhood is just as important as romance. The exclusive event was a celebration of the new feature and the power of Black women coming together to uplift one another.
“Your circle is everything,” Reginae shares with a smile, and she’s not wrong. She’s all about creating spaces where we can come together, let our hair down, and vibe with like-minded women. “We deserve spaces to meet, uplift, and vibe with each other. BLK is making that happen,” she adds.
A New Era for Friendships—Social Mode Is Here!
Gen Z is all about building meaningful connections, whether it’s with a date or a new brunch buddy. That’s why Social Mode is such a big deal. Research shows that 65% of Gen Z values friendships just as much as romantic relationships. With BLK’s new feature, users can easily toggle between “Dating” and “Social,” opening up a world of platonic connections—no swiping right required.
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Reginae Carter Hosts the Ultimate Girls’ Night In—Powered by BLK Social Mode
What better way to show Social Mode in action than with an exclusive Girls’ Night In, hosted by Reginae? The event brought together top influencers, tastemakers, and press for a night of luxury, self-care, and real talk about love, sex, and relationships. From tarot readings to perfume-making and signature cocktails, the evening embodied the “soft life” vibe that many Black women are embracing in 2025—peaceful, intentional, and full of joy.
Guests mingled, laughed, and bonded over the importance of finding a tribe that supports you. It wasn’t just about fun (although there was plenty of that!)—it was about creating a circle of inspiring, strong women. “We need to stick together. We need to be each other’s village,” Reginae says, emphasizing the power of community over competition.
Sisterhood: The Real MVP
For Reginae, it’s all about friendship—and not just the surface-level kind. “We need friends who keep it real with us. The ones who can tell us when we’re right, when we’re wrong, and when we need to calm down,” she says. As someone who navigates the spotlight, she’s got the best of both worlds: friends who understand the grind and those who can give her an honest, grounded perspective.
Her advice for building strong, intentional friendships? “Be confident in yourself and know your worth,” she explains. “Also, hurt people hurt people, so make sure you’re coming from a good place when you’re building relationships. It’s not always about being nice—sometimes it’s about being real.”
Reginae couldn’t have summed it up better: “When you have the right circle, the right tribe, everything just feels easier. And that’s exactly what BLK is giving us—space to connect, laugh, and grow with each other.”
To learn more about BLK’s Social Mode, download or update the BLK app in the App Store or Google Play Store today. Who knows? You might just find your new bestie or your next brunch crew.
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