You probably already know that the most popular time of the year to catch a cold or come down with the flu is during the fall and winter seasons (if you want a brief rundown on the differences between a cold and the flu, you can check a list out here). However, were you aware of the fact that the flu virus actually moves, full speed ahead, right around October?
If you add to that the fact that late August thru late March/early April is when the common cold prefers to show all the way out the most, this is the perfect time to talk about what happens to your body whenever you catch a cold — oh, and to add a bit of “the more you know” to this piece, I’m going to also share what your vagina goes through whenever a cold decides to temporarily take over your body.
Why is this relevant? Well, the way I see it is, if whenever you find yourself getting sick, it seems like your vagina isn’t “at its best” either, you should know that it’s definitely not all up in your head. When your immune system is working in overdrive to get your viral infection under control, sometimes your vagina has to struggle (just a bit) to get through that.
And now that you know, for a fact, that oftentimes there really is something up with your “her” whenever you are under the weather, you can learn about what you can do to make dealing with a cold easier when it comes to your vagina — and, ultimately, you too.
What Happens to Your Body, Overall, When You Catch a Cold
GiphyIsn’t it wild that there still appears to be no cure for the common cold (that partly may be because there are over 200 different viruses that can give you a cold)? This means that if you happen to catch one, all you can really do is treat the symptoms and hope that it lasts closer to two days than two whopping weeks (which tends to be the sliding scale of how long a cold chooses to stick around).
And although I’m sure that you are very well aware of the fact that a cold brings with it things like coughing, congestion, and sometimes a fever, have you ever stopped to think about what is actually going on inside of your body when you have a cold?
From what I’ve read and researched when a cold-causing virus gets into your nasal passages/sinuses, it takes a couple of days for your immune system to get the message that something is up. Chemical messengers within your body, known as cytokines, are what put your immunity on notice. As your blood vessels start to swell up in order to fight off the virus/infection, that’s what causes congestion.
Then, as your white blood cells begin to get involved, that can lead to inflammation which sometimes results in things like a runny nose and cough. Some other things that can happen to you while you’re dealing with a cold are you may experience body aches, a sore throat, headaches, sneezing, and a fever.
What Happens to Your Vagina, Specifically, When You Catch a Cold
GiphyNow as far as what happens to your vagina while you’re dealing with a cold, the main thing that transpires is your blood vessels become wider in order to make way for more white blood cells to fight the virus. As a result, you may see an increased amount of vaginal discharge. On the flip side to this, if your cold ends up dehydrating you (which isn’t uncommon), that could result in you experiencing a noticeable level of vaginal dryness.
Also, something else to keep in mind is, that if you are stressed out a lot, that can actually make you more susceptible to catching a cold, and if stress is your “cold culprit,” that can significantly increase your chances of having a yeast infection — and both at the same time is the absolute worst.
Now, here’s where it really gets kinda wild. Although it makes no sense to take an antibiotic for a cold (because antibiotics treat bacterial infections, not viral ones; you can read more about thathere andhere), if you do end up with a yeast infection and a cold at the same time, the antibiotics could end up throwing off your vagina’s pH balance even while treating the yeast overgrowth; unfortunately, that could still lead to some level of vaginal irritation.
Oh, and as far as antihistamines and decongestants that you may be taking to treat your cold? Those typically will narrow your blood vessels, even in your genital region, which can also result in vaginal dryness. The same goes for any sedatives that you may take to make it easier to sleep more soundly while you’re healing from your cold.
It should also go on record that certain cold medications can come with side effects like rashes, redness, and itchiness — and that could include your vagina and/or vulva. Yeah, like I said, your vagina and vulva are not always or automatically exempt from the cold that you may be experiencing.
How to Soothe Your Vagina While You Have a Cold
GiphySo, even if you can’t cure your cold, is there anything that you can do to either lower the chances of your vagina experiencing all of what I just mentioned or make the symptoms far more bearable? Indeed, there is.
Consume probiotics and vitamin D.
As far as preventative measures go, something that you and your vagina need are probiotics and Vitamin D. Probiotics are dope because they help to fill your gut with the good bacteria that it needs to fight viral infections (you know, since 80 percent of your immunity is in your gut, to begin with) and vitamin D is awesome because it helps to make your immunity “activate” quicker; plus, it helps to prevent viral infections from transpiring in the first place.
As far as your vagina goes? Probiotics decrease the chances of your pH balance being thrown off (which could lead to a yeast infection) while vitamin D reduces the risk of vaginal-related infections as it also helps to decrease vaginal dryness.
Hydrate.
Since having a cold can cause you to lose fluids and electrolytes (including in your vaginal region), it’s wise to drink more water and orange juice while you have a cold. Not only will that help to replenish what has been lost, but it can also help to flush out toxins. Plus, orange juice contains a lot of vitamin C, which is an antioxidant that can help strengthen your immunity. By the way, other drinks like a turmeric latte or matcha tea can help your immune system to get to a better place as well.
Take (and apply) some flaxseed oil or grapefruit seed extract.
As far as vaginal dryness goes, something else that you can do is take some flaxseed oil as a supplement and/or apply it directly to your vulva. Not only will it provide moisture to both your insides and “outsides” without any chemicals, but there are also properties in flaxseed that help your skin retain its pH balance.
Oh, and if you gargle with some grapefruit seed extract, that can fight your viral infection up top, while if you add a bit of it to your vulva (with the help of a carrier oil), that can help to rid your vulva of any cold-related germs down below.
Use a lubricant.
If you’re the only one who is sick, it’s probably best that you try and steer clear of your partner as much as possible because colds are hella contagious. However, if you’re both on the icky side yet you can muster up the energy, sex can give you the kind of endorphin boost that will help you to feel better while orgasms can temporarily clear up your congestion (just sayin’).
That said, since oils and latex don’t exactly get along if you do have some vaginal dryness going on and flaxseed isn’t going to work for you personally, try a silicone-based lubricant — just to get you over the hump (umm, so to speak). Because even if a cold has the rest of you feeling kind of blah, at least your vagina can get a bit of a pick-me-up, right? Yeah…that’s what I’m sayin’. LOL.
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As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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Yara Shahidi Shares Her Formula For Manifesting The Career Of Her Dreams
Yara Shahidi is a walking testimony of what it looks like to live out your wildest dreams, and she has managed to do it all in the harsh limelight of Hollywood without selling her soul. From acting and producing to hosting The Optimist Project podcast with SiriusXM to being a full-time college student at Harvard, now graduate, the 24-year-old has built a career that inspires while staying true to her values.
But how does she balance such a demanding yet "well-rounded" life while continuing to manifest new opportunities?
In a recent episode of The School of Greatness podcast with Lewis Howes, Yara opened up about her unique formula that has been instrumental to her success: following her curiosity. When asked how she manifests things in her life, Yara explained to the host, “There are many different ways. For some of the bigger things, it really is kinda getting downloads and moments of like, ‘Oh, I think that’s next.’”
She added, “Chasing curiosity means that my purpose is constantly unfolding in front of me. All I have to do is pay attention.” She described these intuitive “downloads” as waves of excitement or curiosity, deeper than that, as moments that spark her interest and give her clues about what to pursue next.
"Chasing curiosity means that my purpose is constantly unfolding in front of me. All I have to do is pay attention."
“A lot of what I think I’m interested in tackling comes from a wave of curiosity,” she said. “Like, for some reason, this is grabbing my attention, and I really couldn’t tell you why.” For Yara, those seemingly random sparks often turn into something deeper and more meaningful for the Bloom actress. She even recalled her podcast The Optimist Project flourishing as a result of a seed planted in her mind as a result of those waves of curiosity.
Whether it’s exploring new roles in her career or partnerships in the world of fashion and endorsements, her method of following the lead of those curiosities has led to incredible results.
One story Yara shared illustrated the power of curiosity-driven manifestation. Seemingly out of nowhere, she wrote down every endorsement deal she thought of having, not as a goal-oriented thing, but more so just writing down on a whim different brands that came to her head as a result of the sparks she is often led by.
Two years later, she realized she and her team had accomplished every single one. “It truly starts as this vision board,” she explained as she recounted the power of her and her team’s alignment on their curiosities. By letting her curiosity guide her, she’s been able to align those visions with the right opportunities. “What do we see?” she asks herself and her team, emphasizing the importance of shared alignment and intention in calling in the right opportunities for her life.
Curiosity is more than just a passing feeling for Yara, in fact, it’s a practice. From her TED Talk on the subject to her daily approach to life, she’s made it clear that tuning into what sparks joy and excitement is her formula for success. She noted that the curiosities are the true start of it all and the analytics or the “how” of achieving the goal comes later.
For Yara, it’s simple: let curiosity lead and trust the path to reveal itself.
Her journey reminds us that curiosity is often the key to uncovering our true purpose. By paying attention to what excites us, we can create a life that aligns with our values and dreams. As Yara’s story shows, following our curiosity might just be the first step toward manifesting the career and life we’ve always imagined.
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