xoNecole: So I hear you two have a pretty interesting story! Walk me through how you met the first time and how we got to the present.

Jayell Climpson: Initially, we met back in the day on MySpace. At the time, I was an up-and-coming music artist looking for public relations. Giselle and I connected on that, and before you know it we, were talking on the phone. The whole PR thing just went out the window.

We communicated long distance for almost a year before we met in person. I thought she was attractive from her pictures, but we’re both sapiosexuals - so we’re really all about mental stimulation. Still, it got to a head where she was like, ‘When are you going to come see me?’ So I looked up a Greyhound because she was in Alabama - and I came the next day.

Then we met up in Alabama, had a lot of fun, and I went home. After that, we dated for a while before separating. It wasn’t a bad breakup; we were just busy. I was on tour as a music artist, and she was traveling, on 106 & Park and doing all kinds of things through her dance team. So, it just ended naturally.

Giselle Climpson: Anyway, fast forward about ten years. It was Leo season, and I was living downtown, and decided to get on Tinder - because it was my birthday (laughs), and I saw him! He looked so cute! I did my Googles and saw all he was doing and was proud of him. So, of course, we swiped each other and ended up linking up later on. We’ve been together ever since and got married in spring of 2019.

xoN: Wow, and so much can change in ten years. So I have to ask, what do you think you both learned during your single season to prepare you? 

Giselle: I’m a manifester so I made sure to be very intentional. I didn’t focus on things I didn’t want in a partner, but rather things I did- and I was very clear. I mean, I was like, I want a millennial, music-lover, a man who is really a friend - like all of those things. I didn’t want to be with someone for survival, I knew I wanted to be desired and truly in love.

Jayell: Yeah, a lot of the same for me. Also, a big thing was I learned to trust my instinct. That’s part of the reason we linked back up. Like, I remember seeing something on TV that said the person you end up being with will most likely be someone you’ve been with before. So when I saw that, I started scrolling through my phone, looking at all my ex-girlfriends. I remember thinking it could be her or one other girl. That night, I looked at her Facebook and everything and fell asleep. Next thing you know, a couple of years later, we came back around.

xoN: That’s kinda magical. What was it like seeing each other again after all of those years? Do you remember your first date?

Giselle: Well like I said, it was my birthday weekend. So we met at Atlantic Station (a popular area in Atlanta) while I was just shopping. And I just remember being taken back because he used to be a bit more slender, but he had changed. I was like, oh, he’s a man now! I hadn’t realized how much we had grown because, back then, we were really just kids following our dreams. So now that we were in our late twenties, it was such a realization.

Jayell: I just remember thinking how crazy it was. One of the first things that stood out to me was her intelligence. I was just listening to her thinking, 'She’s a wife.' That was my famous quote. I actually told her that. She has that Goddess gene, she’s full of strength, but she’s also feminine. You don’t meet too many women in their divine feminine.

I just remember thinking how crazy it was. One of the first things that stood out to me was her intelligence. I was just listening to her thinking, 'She’s a wife.' That was my famous quote. I actually told her that. She has that Goddess gene, she’s full of strength, but she’s also feminine. You don’t meet too many women in their divine feminine.

xoN: Now you both are very in sync - even the way you move. That usually means you really have experienced life together. Can you talk to me about a challenge or adversity you’ve had to grow through together?

Jayell: Like I said we’re very spiritual and we had to learn to meet in the middle. What I mean by that, is her feminine had to embrace her masculine, and my masculine had to embrace my feminine. For example, when we first got together I was so in my masculine - all I wanted to do was work. But when you get married to a woman who revels in her feminine, that’s not going to work. So I had to learn to embrace my feminine by going on vacation, taking time off, and indulging in self-care and love. Loving your work doesn’t mean you’re loving yourself.

Giselle: Yes, just to echo him - I come from a very girly girl world. Like, it was all about me and my girls top-down riding around having fun - like, I didn’t know. There’s nothing wrong with that. But when you decide to get into a relationship with a, man you have to create space for the masculine energy he’ll be in 100% of the time. I still romanticize my life, but he’s really helped ground me. Sometimes girls live for their girls. But when you grow up, you have to be mature in your time and energy and decide what your priorities are. For me, my priorities are my family and our pets. Other things still matter to me for sure, but it’s all about finding balance.

xoN: Finally, I’ll close with this, how did you know this was something special, a relationship that would lead to marriage? 

Giselle: For me, I was very focused on my career and creating my dream life. I had never even dated seriously until me and him got together. That’s another plus that we have, we didn’t have serious relationships, or kids or anything like that outside of each other.

But I ’ll be honest, I wanted to like - have his baby, and I never thought about anything like that with another man. It was like, all of a sudden, I wanted to release all of that career-focused mindset. I just wanted to be with him. Also, I didn’t ask anyone any questions. You know how women always have to talk to our girls? I didn’t do that. Of course, I had friends for support. But I felt very grounded in my decision to be with him. It was internal.

Jayell: I’ll take you back to that first date where I said she was a wife. I had a long time to think about that. And I realized she’s not just a wife - it was because she’s my wife - the one for me. Before saying that out loud, I was not even thinking or looking for one. But the simple fact that she came to me so organically, I knew early this was for me.

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