As a firm believer in energy, crystals are something I naturally gravitate towards. There is a crystal for everything: crystals for luck, crystals for money, crystals for stress relief, crystals for healing. For this reason, these naturally-occurring wonders of the world make excellent tools for manifestation and intention-setting in your life. What you manifest in life is based on your vibration, so crystals act as a perfect caveat to raising your vibration and therefore attracting what you want most, including love.
You can wear your crystal around your neck, carry them in your bra, place them near you or underneath your pillow while you sleep, or hold them while you meditate – there are a plethora of ways to incorporate crystals into your day-to-day life and benefit from the energy they naturally emit. It's also worth noting that regularly cleansing your crystals, or clearing them, is necessary to amplify their properties.
Some ways you can go about cleansing your crystals include planting them back into the earth in your garden or a potted plant, fully submerging them in a body of water (ocean, lake, river), practicing visualization, and using palo santo or sage to smudge your crystal. If possible, make sure you do this after each use of them in order to restore the crystal's energy.
If you are looking to manifest more love in your life, below are the best crystals for attracting the love and romance that you seek.
The Best Crystals For Attracting More Love And Romance Into Your Life
Rose quartz.
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For attracting love through self-love: Rose quartz.
Rose quartz is a very popular crystal and is probably the one from our list that you are most familiar with. Rose quartz is a crystal of unconditional love used to balance and open the heart chakra. The deep sense of healing it brings helps in cultivating self-love, romantic love, and connection. Because it opens up your heart, rose quartz not only helps with attracting love, but it also deepens your relationships, including the one with self.
For attracting love through protection: Amethyst.
Amethyst is another well-known crystal that can attract and promote love into one's life, as well as provide protection to the overall emotional stability in a relationship between two people. Because of this, amethyst is also regarded as a protection stone for love. Although it has other properties and uses, amethyst is considered to be at its most powerful when involved in matters of love and relationships.
For attracting love through healing: Rhodonite.
Speaking of healing, rhodonite is a great gem to use in order to attract love because of its heart-based energy. If you are experiencing relationship or emotional issues, the rhodonite crystal helps facilitate forgiveness, acceptance, and loving compassion that is needed in order to radiate and operate from a space of unconditional love. For this reason, rhodonite is a helpful tool for balancing heart and root chakras.
Moonstone.
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For attracting love through authenticity: Moonstone.
The moonstone is all about goddess energy and feminine energy. Symbolic of love, the moonstone is also known to evoke balance, harmony, and the ability to connect with our truest and most authentic selves. Even though tides change and emotions change, the new beginnings the moonstone represents also provide inner peace amid the sometimes chaotic nature of life.
For attracting love through connection: Pink kunzite.
Also called 'the Woman's Stone,' pink kunzite radiates peace and calms emotional turmoil. Because it is also deeply connected to the heart, pink kunzite is a healing stone that offers many emotional benefits. It amplifies softness, sensuality, self-care, and self-compassion. It also assists with our ability to connect more deeply to others by decreasing feelings of worry and fear. Of note, pink crystals are said to be associated with new love, femininity, and romance.
For attracting love through compassion: Malachite.
Malachite is a balancing stone that can be used to balance the heart and throat chakra. Its properties amplify feelings of security, stability, and safety. Because of its balancing properties, malachite can help with accepting all types of love and loving unconditionally.
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The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Temi and SkylarCj Hart @hartbreakToday, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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