Tamron Hall received a bachelor's degree in journalism from Temple University at only 22 years old. At 37, Tamron secured a position on MSNBC's national news syndicate and landed an exclusive interview with the only president we acknowledge, effectively catapulting her career into the spotlight. Little did she know, only a decade later, at age 47, Tamron would see everything that she had worked for come crashing down.
After the very public termination of her relationship with NBC, Tamron Hall was left out of work, out of patience, and out of options, leading her to take some serious personal inventory when it came to her priorities. In an exclusive interview with O Magazine, Tamron explained:
"I was 46 years old, and suddenly my dream job wasn't there, and I was unemployed for the first time since I was 14. I saw a photo of me that day walking out of the studio. On the outside, people saw someone who is confident, who was walking out like a boss—and it helped that I was wearing a coat that was sick, okay?! But inside, I was very vulnerable. I was not afraid, but I was worried. I wasn't clear on what was next, though I was hopeful. But absolutely, it was unsettling."
Although initially, Tamron was devastated by the news of her layoff, she soon learned that the breakup she was experiencing in her professional life was the key to breaking through to her true destiny. Like many of us, the talk show host said that her epiphany came after coming to terms with the fact that she wasn't valued in the relationship:
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"I think that people relate to what I experienced because we've all been there. We've all been in a relationship where it didn't work out—where we felt we were giving 100 percent and the other person was giving just 10."
After some time away from the industry, Tamron is back in full effect to shake up the industry with a new baby, talk show, and perspective on life, but she says it's all thanks to two very important words: f*ck it:
"Yes. It took me some time, but I've finally reached a f*ck it stage. In fact, I've been firmly in my f*ck it stage since my early 40s. I've never been more myself and more at peace!"
Tamron graduated at 22 and reached what she thought was the pinnacle of her career at 47. Today, at 49, Tamron is the mother, wife, and career woman that she always dreamed of becoming, but first, the host says she had to realize that her value was worth more than all of the titles she's had combined:
"So I think that in my journey, people have seen my ability to bounce back, and that makes them want to cheer me on. They see that it's okay to not be defined by the title on your business card."
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Skylar sees things differently. At the time, she was shooting content on her iPhone. Temi came into the picture with a new perspective, an understanding of tech, and, eventually, a camera. “He doesn't give himself enough credit,” Skylar says. “He wasn't just my tripod. He wasn't just standing behind the camera and going ‘click.’ He was giving advice. He was giving me insight to how I could look at things from a different perspective. And I was like, 'Oh, he’s an artist.' I think it was maybe a heartbeat of that kind of energy of like, ‘Baby, can you take this picture?’ And it turned so quickly into, we're partners. We can work together in a way where we're advancing each other's creative thinking.”
The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Temi and SkylarCj Hart @hartbreakToday, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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