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The essence of effortless poise and refinement shines bright through the iconic university colors of indigo blue, red, and white. Every October, Howard University students, alumni, staff, and friends gather on the prestigious campus in Washington, D.C. to take part in time-honored traditions and events, which is Homecoming. This year's theme, “The Meccaverse,” was a week-long celebration of Howard University’s heritage, including the Homecoming football game and Bison Pep Rally, the Fashion Show, Greek Life Step Show, Homecoming Day of Service, Lavender Reception, and the iconic Yard Fest Concert.
As 2024 marked the 100th anniversary of the Howard Bison trek back to The Mecca and after two years of virtual events due to the COVID-19 pandemic, this was to be a celebration of a lifetime. We enlisted HU alumnus Sharmaine Harris, a luxury retail buyer, as she revisited her alma mater as eyes on the yard for fashion-forward outfits mixed with personal style and campus pride for the weeklong celebration.
Before we get to the looks, discover how attending Howard University impacted her career in fashion and her day-to-day style:
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xoNecole: Describe your personal style. Did attending Howard have any impact on developing it?
Sharmaine: Howard taught me that there’s no such thing as being TOO dressed. There’s always a reason to “put it on” and look presentable, even if it’s just for a day of classes. Standing out was celebrated and encouraged with my peers embracing the opportunity, giving me the confidence to try new styles and trends.
xoNecole: How did Howard shape your career as a luxury buyer?
Sharmaine: I studied Fashion Merchandising, through which I was fortunate to have professors who were very connected to the industry and able to give first-hand accounts of opportunities and what to expect post-college. I was also able to build a network through my peers and other Howard Alum, which has opened doors to endless possibilities both within fashion as well as daily life.
The same confidence instilled in me through my style has also been rooted deeply within me as I step into any role or project I’m faced with throughout my career.
xoNecole: This year marked Howard’s 100th-anniversary Homecoming celebration. Can you describe what the weekend looked and felt like?
Sharmaine: I’ve gone to many Howard Homecomings since graduating, but this year’s 100th anniversary felt like a huge family reunion filled with nothing but love. It was beautiful to see so many Bison return home looking great and radiating joy. It was beautiful!
xoNecole: What makes Howard fashion different from other HBCUs?
Sharmaine: Being that Howard is The Mecca, we have such a diverse population with each individual having their own spin on fashion. Getting dressed is second nature for us, but the layered confidence is our secret ingredient to make any look come together. Through that comfortability to push barriers, we have a legacy of setting trends, as indicated by the many alumni we have in the fashion and entertainment industry.
Keep scrolling for the top street style moments from The Mecca's Homecoming weekend:
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And when you're smart, ambitious, and more than capable, this can have career-killing consequences. It's one thing to quit a job simply because it's time to move on or move to another country because it's something that's always been on your bucket list. It's another when you've hit crash-out mode and are on the verge of throwing a computer out of the window due to the anger and sadness that has built up because you've been ignored, disregarded, and underutilized at work.
If you've ever felt unmotivated, resentful, or just plain tired all the time, and it has nothing to do with your health, stress from bae and the kids, or a deep hatred for your boss, read on for signs that the type of burnout you're experiencing is not burnout, but actually boreout:
What Is "Boreout"?
Boreout is the result of working in demoralizing environments, only doing tedious grunt work, being understimulated mentally, or having feelings of being under-challenged for long periods of time. Many people quietly quit when this happens or simply check out from doing their best at the office.
I once stepped away from a gig because of this, gladly sending in my resignation email simply because, after bringing my years of experience and stellar work results—along with having recently earned a master's degree—I felt like I was being treated like an intern who's expected to just mindlessly take orders.
I also felt like the person managing me at the time prioritized nitpicking whenever I'd make a minor mistake versus actually tapping into my strategic skills to make larger decisions that would benefit the company. I was often left in the dark about larger projects or budgets (something someone in that type of role at the time is traditionally included in because they can't do their jobs effectively without it.) I'd ask questions and even present ideas but would be given the brush-off or gaslit.
When I'd initially taken on the role, what was sold to me at the onset as a real leadership position actually turned into a role primarily focused on monotonous, archaic routines, vague feedback, mind-numbing proofreading work (which I'd advanced beyond more than 10 years ago) and a blatant disregard of the creative and sales skin I had in the game. (To be fair, many roles related to what I do include the aforementioned tasks, but at my experience and educational level, those tasks should not have dominated my workdays.)
Now, I'm not comparing myself to LeBron, but do ya'll think he'd take millions to sit on the bench? Nah. Y'all think Beyoncé would take millions to sing backup or do the concert budget paperwork? Hell nah.
Y'all think Issa would be jumping up and down with joy to spend the entirety of every day emailing script revisions and updating cast schedules for a living? What ambitious, talented person do you know wants to stifle their creative growth and waste their talents, even for a paycheck? And funny enough, the pay didn't even match the efforts and extra hours I was putting in to accommodate the constant menial asks.
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I asked, very directly, about whether certain tasks could be delegated so that I could focus on the broader leadership tasks the job description originally reflected. In so many ways, the effort to accommodate that request was subtly sabotaged or made to seem like an inconvenience for the company, resulting in my having to go back and do those tasks anyway.
I felt drained, disrespected, and underpaid. I also started to question my strategic and leadership abilities, almost reversing years of therapy wins. I'd told myself I'd never allow a person or a job to have such an effect, so I quit before things went too far.
I had other options, so I decided to lean more heavily into roles with teams that respected the leadership skills I actually brought to the table and showed that respect through action (i.e., real autonomy, a pay raise, duties that matched my job title, and projects that allowed me to try new things and make real groundbreaking decisions.)
I also decided to level up academically —since my brand of petty includes over-achievement—pursuing even more formal education in order to further challenge myself intellectually. I just felt like people were playing in my face. (And hey, maybe they weren't, but that's how I felt at the time). The Capricorn in me sees that as a challenge to beat myself by doing more. (And the TikTok streets might call this "Black Girl Boredom," but that's a totally different thing. I love being a student and love everything that comes with traditional studies.)
Here's more on how boreout can show up and how to address it:
Signs You're Experiencing Boreout and How To Cope
1. You're triggered into angry fits over the simplest ask.
If you find yourself, every day, having to fight the urge to read somebody in an email response, the boreout has gotten its claws into you, especially when the email is a simple request or follow-up.
I found myself having to do this since I'd gotten tired of doing menial work and becoming the point person for putting out numerous small fires every week. I'd literally be at my home office desk (or at a beachside restaurant) cursing aloud, rewriting emails to force politeness and remain professional. I'd have to take deep breaths and re-read emails multiple times to calm myself down and recenter my thoughts so that I could offer an appropriate response. I'd rewrite responses or simply use very stale AI replies. It became toxic and impacted my productivity.
At this point, it's time to make some changes because you don't want to become bitter and allow this to impact your quality of work or your reputation.
Like I mentioned earlier, I quit, but if you don't want to do the same (or simply can't, for various very valid reasons), try talking to a therapist, coach, or another trusted person in your field first. Get things off your chest and process through the triggers. Then, write down why the emails are becoming a problem and solutions that you can present to your boss to delegate tasks or update systems so that you can refocus on other work that empowers you.
2. You're oftentimes late and you no longer care.
You used to be happy to come to a meeting with your big ideas, but now, since it seems like your boss has relegated you to the status of intern or assistant (despite those not being your job titles), you're not motivated to show up and you dread even attending. Why care? Your input is not acknowledged or respected anyway, right?
Wrong. Come to meetings at work on time and prepared, and do it for the future you, with the understanding that you're not going to let anybody stop your career advancement or cause you to give up your values and integrity.
I've found that when we tolerate and normalize adjusting to toxic situations for too long, we take on bad habits, and at the end of the day, those bad habits are only going to hurt you in the long run. Nip this in the bud by finding another advocate you can partner with to get your ideas in front of the right people.
If that's not possible, take on a lunchtime or after-work hobby or a service position outside of work where you can use your leadership skills and be affirmed in them.
And take the personal out of it. If the company doesn't want your ideas, use them for something else (i.e., finding a new job, starting a side hustle, or volunteering). Maybe your boss is an asshole, but that fact isn't going to pay your mounting therapist bills, pick you up off the toilet after a night of drinking to cope (been there) or help your professional development.
3. You find yourself with a lot of free time at work and you're doing nothing about it.
Some people see this as a good thing, but when you're an ambitious, smart leader, this is career death. As much as I love the soft life and having ease and flexibility, I don't enjoy the effects of brain rot. I can't stand wasted time, money, and potential.
You could really ruin your future by just sitting in a position doing close to nothing to collect a check. While financially, it might be beneficial, think about how this impacts your actual growth, intelligence, and future opportunities. The goal for an ambitious woman is to continue to rise, and the higher you go, the less easy it is to fake excellence. You can't build excellence through inaction, and you need projects that challenge you in order to level up.
I've left jobs that pay almost six figures due to this. It's not about the money. If I'm not being challenged and respected or I'm not involved in projects that actually have an impact (that I had an active hand in making successful), I've not lived out my purpose, and I've done a disservice to the people I seek to serve.
If you have a college degree, you're called to leadership, you have a deep passion for an issue or community, or you want to be a great example to your children, this is something you have to address ne-ow. Don't let people play with your time and the most valuable asset you have: your human potential. Time is expensive, so make it count.
Take note of the tasks you're being given, your actual job title and description, and why you still have lots of free time once those things are done. I promise you'll find gaps or opportunities being missed to be greater. And if it's because your manager won't delegate and is icing you out as a former one did to me, find out why. Have a candid conversation, talk to your HR professional, mentor, or coach in your industry, and figure out solutions to ensure that your time and talents are truly being tapped into.
Otherwise, you need to seek other opportunities that will respect the value of time and talent because, trust me, there are people out here making millions simply because they don't play around with their time.
4. You're feeling extremely insecure even though you've done great work. Your ideas, while dismissed, are smart and could be effective.
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For ambitious, smart women, especially creatives, doing too much grunt work, not being respected for our unique and very valuable skills, or being underutilized in a position can suck the life out of us, eventually burning out the actual desire to even come up with dynamic, amazing ideas that could keep a company in business and help it advance.
When you're stuck only dotting i's and crossing t's instead of being involved in the big-picture experiences, especially at the mid- and senior-level career stage, not only is it energy-zapping, but it can have a negative impact on your overall mental health.
With the previous boreout scenario I mentioned, I'd be forced to spend valuable hours proofreading dozens of articles and answering trivial back-and-forth emails with writers instead of using my time to empower a college student or entry-level professional to get experience doing this while I think of (and execute) plans that could bring more money into the company.
The same could be the case for you:
You're constantly answering asinine emails instead of spending the day coming up with a stellar marketing strategy that could bring new and bigger partners to the table. You're constantly being asked to lead meetings that could have been emails instead of being out in the field recruiting. You're making copies, organizing files, and typing up reports instead of actually using the skills you honed after excelling in your master's-level social science program.
You're constantly being reprimanded over petty things at your medical industry job instead of being empowered to lead an initiative— which you've done several times in previous roles and why you were hired—that could help staff work smarter or better engage with the patients they serve.
If you're feeling the brunt of boreout, take action today to get your life back and tap into the greatness you know you offer. Put some respect on your own name by not tolerating environments that accommodate boreout. Take a professional and strategic stance to ensure you're offering yourself the best by advocating for yourself. Quit if you have to, and don't let boreout ruin your passion for the work that you've been called to do.
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