

My skincare journey has been quite interesting since I moved to the driest of climates in Colorado. I used to have extremely dry skin back when I resided in the Dirty South. Ironically, since I became a Denver transplant, my skin is now a combination of dry and oily. With the elevation and the close proximity to the sun, I also have to be mindful of getting sunburned. And while some black folks think that we don't burn, I don't like to play with danger that way.
When I had the chance to see what ISO Skincare was all about, I had no choice but to say "yes". Skincare has become so popular as of late. I love the "trend" because it promotes a glow that requires less makeup and more self-care. For ISO, it is a journey of healing from the inside, out. The journey incorporates both internal and external healing to achieve a constant state of self-love, confidence and a clear, healthy glow that will give you no choice but to love the skin you're in.
ISO Skincare founder Aniqah Iman created this line because of her own bouts with stress-induced acne. Aniqah says," I've always suffered from moderate acne, but the main issue for me was the scars the acne left behind. It weighed heavy on my confidence but I never wanted to cover up my face with makeup. I spent a lot of time out and about around the time of the makeup craze. I didn't want to give into that craze, I always wanted clear, flawless skin."
And who doesn't! We all want that Beyonce glow without having to spend that Beyonce coin. The founder told us that ISO stands for "inside out" because during her journey to achieving clear, glowing skin, she realized a lot of her acne was a reflection of what was going on in the inside. She knew she had to adapt a lifestyle that would support healthy skin from the inside, such as eating right and maintaining stress. ISO is not just skincare, it's a lifestyle. While they provide products to treat acne from the outside, they also provide lifestyle tips that treats acne from the inside.
ISO Founder Aniqah Iman and her glorious skincare transformation.images.squarespace-cdn.com
After a process of elimination, Aniqah realized that her acne was caused by stress so she knew she had to adopt a more peaceful lifestyle. But she soon realized she would also need more than meditation and yoga to heal her skin issues. Knowing she was done with toxins, she delved into her background in biology to fully grasp acne on a molecular level which led her to trialing essential oils. The founder says, "I began formulating products using my self-taught knowledge to create recipes and after much tweaking and testing on myself, my skin cleared up; allowing me to gift you all with ISO Skincare: a lifestyle/skincare brand that embodies the importance of exuding self-love through self-care habits, including meditation, lifestyle changes and of course, a 100% natural skincare routine."
This boss babe sees herself in all of her customers; from the struggles to the feeling of defeat when trying to find products that actually work. So the relief they feel when her products finally help them reach their goal is unexplainable. Aniqah pours that into the formulas she creates every time by handcrafting these 100% natural products to order.
Keep reading to see my honest review of a few of the products.
Purifying 'French Green' Clay Mask
ISO Skincare
The Purifying French Green Clay Mask was designed to draw out all of the impurities from the skin while controlling oil and reducing the appearance of pores. The benefits of this mask also include clearing blemishes, toning and firming skin to naturally cleanse skin and deeply nourish skin cells. According to ISO, the Geranium essential oil gives this mask the ability to slow the growth of bacteria, relieves congested skin and has a scent that aids in balancing emotions and hormones.
I saw that this mask is recommended for combination skin types with moderate acne so I knew I needed to try it.
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I loved the smell of this mask and I could immediately feel the power of the essential oils purifying my skin. I used an ELF Pore Refining Brush to apply the mask all over my face.
Detoxifying 'Bentonite' Clay Mask
ISO Skincare
The Bentonite Clay Maskis dedicated to detoxification. "This clay mask deeply cleanses pores, draws out toxins, reduces oily skin, prevents and gets rid of blackheads, reduces inflammation, reduces the appearance of acne scars, and firms and tightens skin. With the addition of peppermint essential oil, this mask also has natural antiseptic properties and aids in control of oil secretion." ISO recommends this product for oily skin types with moderate to severe acne.
My thoughts:
One word = refreshing. I loved applying this mask to my skin because it had a minty scent from the the peppermint essential oil. I felt like my face was taking long, deep breaths and it was amazing.
GLOW Nighttime Serum
ISO Skincare
Looking to achieve supple, glowing skin? Try this GLOW Nighttime Serum filled with vitamins A, C, and E; linoleic acid to promote healthy sebum production. It also contains antibacterial and anti-inflammatory properties, decreases the appearance of dark marks, and helps skin draw in and maintain moisture.
My thoughts:
After each night of applying the masks, I completed the routine with this serum. I will admit that its red hue alarmed me at first until I realized it was infused with black currant seed oil and red raspberry seed oil. I don't normally use serums before bed but I can already see the difference in my skin's tone and moisture.
Overall, I totally approve this message. The best thing about this line is its promotion of self-care because using these products forced me to step away from work and take real time for myself. It even forced me to come up with a nightly routine: apply a mask, read a book, sip some SleepyTime tea and disconnect from social media. As a result, I can also already see a change in my skin.
The founder even created a 7-Day Self-Care and Skincare Challenge including AM & PM skincare routines, water infusions geared towards healing skin, daily water guide, healing affirmations, and meditations. Aniqah adds, "Skincare is a simple form of self-care. Carving out a set time in the morning and nighttime to commit to a routine is a form of self-care that results in achieving the optimal skin health, which in turn leads to more self-love and when one sees the results of just one self-care habit, they can then implement even more self-care habits into their lives."
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Are You & Your Partner Financially Compatible? Here’s How To Tell.
With nearly half of all marriages that end in divorce citing finances as the nail in the coffin to deading their relationship, financial compatibility is one aspect of long-term compatibility that doesn't get talked about enough. Beyond the circular 50/50 discourse and whatever hot-button issues regarding providers and the like, at its core, financial compatibility is about how well your financial behaviors, values, and long-term goals align with those of your partner.
More than it is about how much money a person makes or doesn't make, financial compatibility focuses on how you think about money, how you spend your money, and most importantly, how you plan for the future with your money. Think, questions about money mindsets, spending habits, debt, budget, etc. Are you a saver and he's a spender? Do you see money as a tool for freedom? Does he see it as something to hold on tightly to as a means of survival? Can you talk about your financial goals and plans openly?
Knowing if you and your partner are financially compatible can save a lot of heartache, a lot of headaches, and a lot of money in the end. Keep reading for a few key indicators to pay attention to and learn whether or not you and your partner are truly aligned financially.
Signs You’re Financially Compatible
1. You can talk about money without judgment.
Conversations about money aren't something you dread. You're able to talk to your partner freely and openly about money matters, like debts, bills, the budget, etc., even when it is uncomfortable. There is an understanding that talking about money doesn't have to be something you're on the defense about, instead it's an opportunity for transparency, clarity, and solutions.
2. You respect each other's money personalities.
What is a money personality? According to Ken Honda, author of Happy Money, a money personality is our "approach and emotional responses to money" and there are seven money personalities we can fall under. These personalities can help us understand our own relationship with money, as well as our partner's. For example, maybe you're someone who likes to treat yourself to a fancy dinner once a month and your partner is someone who believes ordering takeout and not cooking meals at home is a cardinal sin.
When you can respect each other's money personalities, neither approach is subjected to judgment and shifts can be made in each other's spending habits as needed and from a place of love versus guilt or shame.
3. You agree on what it means to have "financial security."
Whether it’s building a stacked emergency fund, paying off debt before putting a downpayment on a home or being able to splurge on a baecation without checking your account balance before the bill arrives, your definitions of what it means to be financially secure are in sync, or at least compatible enough to reach a compromise.
4. You are not each other's "financial parent."
You’re not constantly teaching, fixing, or stressing out over what the other person is doing with their money. Although I fast-forwarded through a lot of the most recent season of Love Is Blind, I did pay attention to Virginia and Devin and money seemed to be a recurring theme in their conversations. It was clear Virginia had her ish together when it came to money and her financial plans for the future and Devin was not quite on her level.
Though she said no at the altar for additional reasons, I could also see how sis could eventually get very tired of being her partner's second mama, so to speak. And that's the thing about being your partner's "financial parent," eventually, you could end up feeling like you are one-half of a "parenting" or "teaching" dynamic with your partner instead of feeling like you're equals in a partnership.
5. You make financial decisions with each other in mind, not for each other.
Whether it’s booking a trip, deciding which debt to tackle first, saving up for a big purchase, or planning out your next move, there’s a mutual respect for each other’s input. Those shared goals might look like wealth, freedom, stability, or just a debt-free life that feels soft and secure.
You don’t have to be chasing the same bag in the same exact way, but you do need to be aligned on the vision. What you're building should feel like a joint venture with shared effort and purpose, not one of y’all making major money moves like you're still single. Making financial decisions is not just about where the money goes, it's about where you’re going together.
6. You're aligned when it comes to the big stuff.
Financial compatibility extends to the long-term of money management. The legacy, structure, and shared responsibility that comes with decisions like shared accounts, estate planning, having babies, or even blending families. Will you split bills or combine income? Who’s taking time off if you have a child? How do y’all feel about generational wealth or investing for your family’s future? You and your partner have had the real conversations.
These conversations can’t wait until after the wedding or until after a baby’s here. They’re the foundation for how you function as a unit, and if you're not aligned, or at least willing to get on the same page, that incompatibility can cause friction in the end that love alone can't fix.
Love is cute and all, but building an empire together? That’s the real flex. Tap into our new series Making Cents to see what financial compatibility really looks like when love and legacy go hand in hand.
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