Sometimes, relocation for a fresh start is the right move, especially when it comes to your career. Whether it's due to a pay raise, a promotion, better schools for your children, or a career change, moving for a job might be the best option. But there are times when relocating for a new job opportunity is simply a big mistake.
Many have decided against doing so, and in fact, during the first three months of last year, the rate of Americans moving for work fell to a record low of just 1.6%, according to executive outplacement firm Challenger, Gray & Christmas.
Here are a few good reasons or scenarios where moving for a new job is just not a good idea:
1. You just bought a house and you're stuck in a mortgage.
Black women and millennials have been found to be "leaders" in homeownership in recent years, with homeownership among Black women seeing an average year-over-year growth rate of 10.4% between October 2018 and September 2021. As many as 800,000 fewer moves occurred last year, The New York Times reports, which is “a direct result of what economists call the ‘rate lock effect’ or the ‘golden handcuffs.'"
Families have postponed moving to larger homes, and households “hoping to trade up” have paused plans. And a lot of people have been “sitting on the sidelines, waiting and watching.”
If you're among those who have recently bought a home, it might be a better idea to simply find new work within your community or a neighboring community versus uprooting your family (and waiting on a very tricky real estate market for your home to sell). Another idea: Get a remote job.
On the other hand, if you're okay with renting your home out short-term via Airbnb or even long-term as an investment property while you solidify your new spot, and the new company is willing to cover your moving expenses, consider the relocation. There are several risks with this, but it's something to think about if you're a homeowner who's dead set on getting a fresh career start elsewhere.
2. Your expected quality of life and pay might shift in a way that's just not worth it, especially for an international move.
There's always a lot of banter about "elevating" your quality of life by working abroad, but there are several things to consider before doing that, especially when it comes to pay.
A Harvard Business Review survey found that MBA graduates, for example, who had moved internationally “once or twice after their MBAs” saw their pay increase less than graduates who stayed in the U.S. Researchers further stated that the findings “challenge the notion that broader international experience will automatically be rewarded with higher compensation.”
Also, a move abroad can mean giving up major things you care about to gain other things. Does working near a beach involve higher prices for everyday groceries you're accustomed to? What about easy access to Wifi, electricity, and water?
Will you be paying more compensation for infrastructure issues than you would if you've remained in the U.S.? What does a good quality of life really look like for you outside of work? What amenities and freedoms do you value, and how much do those things cost in comparison to what you're used to paying for them? If all of this will cost more than what it's worth, a move abroad to work might not be a good fit for you.
3. You work remote, so your location is already flexible.
If you're already working a good remote job, why relocate for a new gig? Experts say that remote jobs are “still plentiful for white-collar workers,” and if you're among those professionals, you already have a bit of a leg up when it comes to flexibility anyway. You can basically find another position, working fully remote, and you won't be locked into one location.
If you're looking for a more traditional way of working, where you're in an office, face-to-face with teammates, and going to happy hour after you clock out, moving for a new gig after remote work burnout sounds like a good idea. But if your issues are due to your remote job not paying enough or the type of remote work you're doing, it's a better idea to simply look for remote work at a different company, apply for different roles, or go freelance to allow yourself more creative authority.
4. The new company offers no financial assistance to move.
If 64% of professionals reported receiving compensation to move last year, trust me, there are companies that will cover some if not all of your expenses. Remember you're uprooting your life and that of your family members, so getting those expenses covered is a must. If you're already struggling financially (or a major move to another city, state, or country for work will cut into a huge chunk of your savings), reconsider a move if the company won't offer at least reimbursement for your moving fees.
Also, oftentimes, companies that don't offer such perks also skimp on prioritizing work-life balance, competitive healthcare benefits, and other basic amenities that should be afforded to quality talent such as yourself. Take the warning and look elsewhere.
Relocating for work can be a great experience and the best decision of your life, but if there are major red flags that are either telling you to stay where you are or, at the very least, postpone a move until your circumstances allow for it, it's best to take heed.
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Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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Almost two weeks later, Wicked is still on everyone's lips. The high-grossing film stars Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande as Elphaba and Glinda, as their characters, tell a story about race and acceptance. However, what has captured audiences on and off the screen are Cynthia's and Ariana's looks as they play on their characters' styles.
Ariana, like her character Glinda, is often dressed in pink, and Cynthia, much like Elphaba, is covered in green. But what also has many people talking is the British actress' nails. Her nails are often long, blingy, and, of course, green. Many TikTok girlies are even doing their own versions of Elphaba's nails. But there's one person to thank for the green nail mania: Shea Osei.
The London-based nail artist has been working with the Wicked actress since she was 16 and shared all the tea on her epic nail styles with Unbothered UK.
Here what she said.
Shea On Elphaba's Nails Being The First Thing We See Before Seeing The Character
I was ecstatic. I was happy. It was just great to see my craft, my artistry just out there, not just nationally but globally.
Shea On Elphaba's Nails Representing Her Character Development
When we started with the first [nail] look, we chose nice, subtle green ombre nails that show who she is but a calm, chilled-out version of Elphaba. As she grew into herself, became more confident, and found herself, she was more like, yes, this is me, I’m Elphaba, I am who I am, and her nails became more daring. In the salon scene, when she had a transformation, her nails were, one, longer and two, they were more daring. There are many close-ups of Elphaba’s hands in the film, where you see her nails, and you see the difference in what they were [at the start of the film], so I feel like that helps to tell the story.
Shea On Elphaba's Nails Representing Black Womanhood
Yes, it was 100%. And I feel like, yes, the nails represented Black womanhood but also just being yourself. I just feel like the nails represented Cynthia as if to say, ‘I'm Black and I can be a Black witch’. This is who I am. And also, I can have braids and they can be done in any kind of way and can still be styled however is needed. I think we saw, if I'm correct, three or four different braid styles in the movie. Sim Camps, who styled the braids, did an amazing job — there would be mornings when she would be making sure the braids were intact and looked amazing on camera. So, yeah, definitely the braids were an ode to Black culture and the nails were 100% like, yes, we're doing it.
Shea On Seeing The Fan Recreation On TikTok
Yes, I have! If you are going to the salon and you want to recreate Elphaba's nails and let's say, you're going for the nails after the salon scene, where she just gets a fresh set, I would say ask for a plain black base and then ask if they have green foils to stick it on top to give that green effect. Then apply a shiny top coat. And it looks insane! The green ombre is more complicated with colours mixed to give it a green earthy colour.
Shea On The Importance Of Expressing Yourself Through Nail Art, Despite Some Criticism
We love it and don't want anyone to change. Let's look at athletes such as Flo-Jo, remember her nails? Now we have ShaCarri Richardson and her nails are always long and she's always got nice designs [on them]. It’s also Black people, not only Black women — because if you look at athletes that are men that make sure they get their nails painted as well. A$AP Rocky gets his nails painted. It's just so good to see that our culture is so colourful and also so inviting. It’s not only Black people that can have these kinds of nails, anyone can have them. I’m glad we can be the inspiration to everybody and they can draw bits of our culture and add it to theirs.
I like the fact that Cynthia is able to go out of there into the world and still be authentically herself. She hasn't changed for anything or anyone. This is how I am. I like my nails like this, my nail techs love doing my nails like this.
I'm over the moon that Cynthia can go out and still have her nails how she wants to. [Cynthia’s nails] has been a topic this entire Wicked press tour. Everyone will ask Cynthia about her nails in every interview and I love that. I love it because that's who she is. And if you see her you'll see that she's always got her nails done and she’s always got some banging heels on. Even on her down days, she’s always dressed. That's just how she is.
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