I've never understood why people loved candles. Yes, they smell nice, but in my opinion, they can get a little pricey. Even a six-dollar candle makes me question its value. But one night, as my roommates and I were making an impromptu Target run, we ended up on the candle aisle. Next thing I knew, I picked up two candles of my own to purchase. One was labeled "peace + tranquility" and the other was called "stillness + purity." I need all four of those things, so I thought why not indulge in a couple of candles in the name of self-care?
Since I was in the midst of my journaling challenge, I lit a candle, poured a glass of wine, and put my pen to paper. I felt this sense of calm and ease. It might have just been the wine, but the rose water fragrance of the candle was nice. The next morning, I lit it again and soon after, I was lighting my candles so often each of the 4 oz candles had burned out — and I missed them. Even when burning them sans the wine, I felt relaxed and calm.
Suffice to say, I am now a candle lover. And as such, I decided to do my due diligence by putting you on to some candles out here too. Here are five black-owned candle companies to support the next time you want to sit back, relax, and set the vibe.
The “Josephine” Luxury Candle by Harlem Candle Company
Harlem Candle Company
Teri Johnson's Harlem Renaissance-inspired candle company has been a long time favorite of candle lovers. Their 4 oz travel candles make it easy to take your new favorite scent on the road. Their essence of opulent amber candle inspired by Josephine Baker is one of my favorites.
Heart of Wakanda Candle by Frères Branchiaux
Heart of Wakanda
Founded by three brothers from the DMV —Collin, 13, Ryan, 10, and Austin Gill, 8. Frères Branchiaux serves up their 100% hand-poured soy candles with a side of philanthropy donating 10% of proceeds to DC homeless shelters. You may not be able to visit Wakanda, but the candle's vibranium has a blue hue.
FuckBoy Repellent by Posh Candle Co
Posh Candle Co
If you're reclaiming your time from dating, Tay Watts' Posh Candle Co. has a candle to help keep the fuckboys away.
New Orleans Magnolia Bloom Candle by Southern Elegance
Southern Elegance
Missing the essence of the south? D'Shawn Russel's southern-inspired candles will remind you of home, whether you're dreaming of the streets of NOLA or missing the Southern sunshine.
HOME Candle by LIT Brooklyn
LIT Brooklyn
Although the HOME candle was made by accident, it is LIT Brooklyn's founder Denequa Williams' favorite scent because, as she puts it, "It's the way a HOME should feel, warm and inviting." And we agree.
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It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Alistair Berg/Getty ImagesStep 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
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Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
DMP/ Getty ImagesStep 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
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Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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Below, Angel shares the skincare products that make her skin glow and her go-to makeup looks.
Check out her routines below.
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Angel starts with La Roche-Posay Hydrating Gentle Cleanser. “I love skincare. Makes me feel good, makes me feel cleanse, especially after a long day because I’m always on the go,” she said. “I play sports, so my face is always drenched with sweat, and I always gotta keep it clean.”
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Angel uses two moisturizers. She uses Fenty Skin Hydra Vizor Invisible Moisturizer SPF 30 first and follows it up with Cetaphil Soothing Gel Cream with Aloe.
"You have to use the thinnest layer and then the thickest layer," she said. "I learned these tips because one time I posted a skincare routine and they were like, you need to run that back. And they taught me you need to do thin then thick and then I could see the complete difference with my skin."
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She keeps Laniege Lip Balm with her at all times, including during games.
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One-Size Setting Spray is her go-to for keeping her makeup fresh on the court. “I usually spray my beauty blender with my setting spray,” she said. “People usually wet the beauty blender under the water, but why not set it with this.”
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She rounds out her beauty routine with mascara, brows, and her lip combo using Rare Beauty Kind Words Lip Liner and Covergirl Clean Fresh Yummy Gloss. But before closing, she made sure to give flowers to the WNBA stars before her who were also known for getting glammed on and off the court.
“I gotta give kudos to the girls who were wearing makeup before. Lisa Leslie, Skylar Diggins, Candace Parker. Everybody already had their edges and their lashes, lipstick on," she said. "Tina Thompson; she used to wear a full red lip on her lips during the game, but that’s something I could probably never do.”
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