Growing up in a retirement home, Jas Waters, widely known as JasFly, didn't have what many of us would consider a "normal" childhood, but one thing our good sis did have was the audacity, a tool she would need to break down doors in an industry that told her she didn't belong. In a 2018 interview with Shadow and Act, she explained:
"First of all, this s**t is hard in and of itself. Making film and TV is hard, and then to add on the cultural politics, it's incredibly hard. Also, you've got to remember, I'm the kid that willed my way forward. I got here shoulders first, and so that same audacity is there in the room. That same audacity is there in the meetings; it's there on set. It's always going to be there because that's who I am."
Jas, who had a hand in crafting scripts for movies like Barbershop, Spiderman, and Save the Last Dance as well as on shows like This Is Us and Showtime's Kidding, began her career nearly two decades ago and quickly became known in the media industry for her wit and authentic demeanor.
As an entertainment journalist, television producer, and certified home chef, Jas mostly stayed out the mix, but that didn't stop her from inspiring TF out of writers all over the country and developing some lifelong friendships in the process. Celebrities like Issa Rae, John Mayer, Susan Kelechi Watson, and Amber Riley have all sent their condolences for the Evanston, Illinois-born writer, who has left a signature on the world that won't be soon forgotten. The gone-too-soon creative told Shadow And Act that although her life wasn't easy, it was always by design.
"This was always the plan for my life, even before I knew it. A billion things had to conspire together for me to get here. Listen, I was raised in an old folks' home. I never had a traditional life; I never had a safe, cookie-cutter, predictable, affirming life. From the moment I got here, the rules didn't apply to me. If the basic rules of raising a kid didn't apply to me, then nothing else really applies to me. So I just had to figure it out. There were several times in my life that I found to be very confining. But as I look back on it, it was very freeing."
Too often, we miss out on giving women their flowers before they're gone, but JasFly deserves a whole bouquet, damn it.
Many Of Her Storylines Reflected Her Own Life
In her interview with Shadow and Act, Jas revealed that Randall and Kate from This Is Us were only two of the many examples of when art imitated life during her career. According to her, after being adopted and struggling with weight loss, writing storylines for these characters was an opportunity to tell her own story. She explained:
"I tended to pitch more from my real life. I've lived a lot of life. I've lost 111 pounds, so I understood weight and weight loss, which is Kate's story."
"So as we were working on (the show), I was working through things. Thankfully, Dan (Fogelman), Isaac (Aptaker) and Elizabeth (Berger) are so great at really wanting authentic stories. The audience can tell what's real and what's not. You can't fool the audience, nor should you want to. So I pulled a lot from my real life."
Her Heart Was Unapologetically Huge
When you read tributes to Jas on social media, you'll notice that our good sis never came up short on the kindness tip. At the beginning of the pandemic, she even offered to help her followers with groceries with no questions asked.
She Was A Home Chef
While the quarantine may have brought the inner-chef out of Jas, she wasn't new to the culinary game, she was true to it. The media maven spent her spare time whipping up recipes that she learned in her spare time and frequently shared her creations on social media.
Featured image by Twitter/@jasfly.
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Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
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Temi and SkylarCj Hart @hartbreakToday, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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Featured image by Cj Hart @hartbreak