

When it comes to pretty much any topic, it’s gonna be hella rare when most people are on the exact same page. If there is an immediate exception that comes to mind, personally, I can’t think of anyone who doesn’t want skin that is as flawless as possible. And if we want to achieve that, for most of us, it’s not just gonna happen out of nowhere; we’ve got to be intentional…there has to be a plan.
A part of that plan should consist of doing what we can to get our pores —the small openings that house our hair follicles, sebum, and sweat — to be as healthy and minimized as possible. Once you’ve got that on lock, branch out from there.
This article is going to set out to help you do both: nurture your pores and then give your skin, overall, what it needs. If you’re consistent, you should end up with the kind of skin that you get complimented on, consistently so, no matter what you have on or what season of the year that it is.
1. Get Professional Facials (Twice a Year)
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Even though I have a pretty good skincare routine happening at home, I do make sure to go the extra mile and get aprofessional facial on my face and on my back (at least) twice a year. Professional (professional is key) ones are great because aestheticians are professionally trained in treating your skin. And so, if you’re looking to detox your pores (or make them appear smaller), reduce sebum, tighten your skin, fade dark spots, and/or even out your skin tone or get your skin’s pH levels to where they need to be, a professional facial can help to make that happen.
Since I’ve been treating my back to them, it’s done wonders for keeping the few breakouts that I would get under control. I don’t have one regret about investing in my skin this way. Not. One.
2. Keep Your Skin’s pH Levels Balanced
I’m pretty sure that, as it relates to your body, you’ve heard of “pH” before; however, do you know what the letters stand for? It’s “potential of hydrogen.” The reason it matters so much when it comes to your skin, and especially your pores, is because it speaks to how acidic your skin may or may not be. This is relevant because while the areas of your body that are more exposed, like your face and hands, are usually more alkaline, parts like your genital region are more acidic.
The range for pH is 1-14 (under 7 being acidic and above 7 being alkaline), and if you want your skin to be in its “happy place,” around 5.5 is good because it will help to keep your skin’s natural oils balanced. There areat-home strips that you can take to test your skin’s pH levels in order to keep your pH where it needs to be. Also, using gentle cleansers on your skin, applying a toner after doing so, and then moisturizing twice a day are wise moves as well.
3. Eat Foods That Are Full of Antioxidants
If you want your skin to have as little cell damage as possible, you need to take in some antioxidants on a consistent basis. At the end of the day, they are substances that help reduce signs of aging, protect your skin from damaging UV rays, reduce inflammation, stimulate the production of collagen and elastin, and help your skin feel soft and moisturized.
Although a lot of skin products contain antioxidants, if you want your skin to have a truly natural glow, it’s important to consume foods that are high in antioxidants, too. Some of those include cherries, pears, artichokes, black beans, pecans, dark leafy greens, and berries.
4. Try a Baking Soda Scrub
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If you’re someone who considers themselves to be a minimalist or you are on-10 about caring for the environment, a site that you might want to bookmark is Treehugger. Recently, I wasreading an article on its platform about all of the ways that baking soda benefits skin and hair, and it reminded me to give baking soda a shout-out here. As far as your skin, specifically, is concerned, baking soda helps to tighten your pores and reduce inflammation (it’s one of the best overnight remedies for pimples on the planet!). It also helps to soothe your skin after you shave, lighten the appearance of your armpits and it can also help to brighten up your complexion.
Another major perk about baking soda is that its properties are pretty good at killing the kind of bacteria that can lead to yeast infections and fungal infections overall. So, if you don’t have a box of good old-fashioned baking soda in your house, now you’ve got some really solid reasons to.
5. Do Chemical Peels
The main reason why I wrote “I've Been Doing At-Home Chemical Peels. Here Are The Pros And Cons.” for the platform last fall is because, when I was in the process of looking for a product that would help to soften the texture of my skin, I experimented with a company calledPerfect Image that provides at-home chemical peel solutions in different concentrations of potency and I was really pleased with the results.
Whether you’re looking to get rid of the sebum that’s clogging and/or stretching your pores, reduce skin inflammation, soften the appearance of wrinkles and fine lines, help to even out hyperpigmentation, and/or simply keep your skin from appearing dull, a chemical peel can handle all-a-dat.
You can get a professional one; however, like I said, there are companies that sell the kind that you can use at home with different strengths that you can “build up” over time. Either way, chemical peels (when you use them as directed or advised) are great at helping to cultivate radiant-looking skin.
6. Exfoliate. Don’t Overdo It, Though.
Probably, one of the quickest ways to give your skin a healthy glow is toexfoliate it, which is all about removing the surface layer of dead skin cells (and whatever other “stuff” is lying on top of your skin) and cleansing out your pores. For instance, if you’re someone who struggles with sebum plugs (like on your nose or chin), exfoliating your skin can help to remove them. Or, if you deal with body acne, a dry brush can help with that, too.
The key to getting the most out of exfoliating is to not overdo it (1-2 times a week is good), and to use a gentle exfoliant (a DIY brown sugar scrub, a facial scrub, or a pair of exfoliating gloves for your body are ideal) and to follow it up with a (preferably) water-based moisturizer so that your skin is both soothed as well as protected once you’re done.
7. Use Plant Oils Daily
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Oftentimes, whenever, the topic of plant-based oils comes up, it’s in the context of using ones like olive, peanut, and sunflower for cooking purposes. However, plant-based oils are also good for your skin. For instance, grapeseed oil is filled with vitamins C and E; C can help to boost collagen production in your skin, while E can help to heal any blemishes or scars that you might have.
Avocado oil helps to reduce aging signs and soothe inflammation that is caused by acne, eczema, and psoriasis, and it deeply nourishes your skin. Rosehip oil is a natural exfoliant that also helps to protect your skin from damaging UV rays as it reduces hyperpigmentation and softens the appearance of fine lines and aging.
Personally, I’ve been using plant-based oils for several years now, and I definitely can cosign on the fact that they have done wonders for my skin from scalp to foot (especially plum oil; check out “Plum Oil Is The Oil You Should Ease Into The Fall Season With”).
8. Treat Yourself to an Ice Roller
Something that I actually haven’t tried before is an ice roller. I know a few folks who are huge fans of it, though. When you stop and think about the fact that even cold water helps to close your pores and tighten your skin, it would make sense since rubbing ice on your face would take those benefits to an even higher level. In fact, if you’re looking for a relatively simple way to reduce puffiness and detox your skin,applying an ice roller can help to make that happen. Harper's BAZAAR has a list of some of the best ones on the market righthere.
9. Apply a Combination of Geranium and Rosemary Oil (at Night)
I will say thatsome skincare experts advise that if you have acne-prone skin, face serums instead of face oils are probably better for you. That said, if you want to deeply nourish your skin while you sleep, so that it’s able to thoroughly rejuvenate itself, applying a face oil can make that happen. A combination that you might want to try consists of geranium essential oil and rosemary oil.
Geranium is bomb because it’s loaded with anti-inflammatory properties that can help to treat breakouts overnight; plus, it offers some all-natural estrogen-boosting benefits from an aromatherapy standpoint if you notice that your skin is shifting a bit due to perimenopause or menopause.
Rosemary oil and I are always gonna be tight because it contains properties that increase blood circulation,fight off acne-causing bacteria, and soften the skin while evening out its tone.
10. Never Underestimate Pimple Patches
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Something that I used to think was a complete fluke is pimple patches — that is, until I tried them for myself. When it comes to blind pimples, I’ll be honest and say that even the pimple patch brands that say they will help with them…they don’t seem to do much (blind pimples are a mutha!). And when it comes to blackheads, that’s not really what they’re made for.
However, if you’ve got a whitehead (or almost whitehead) or a zit that seems to be full of pus and you want to drain that bad boy while avoiding as much skin damage as possible, pimple patches are gonna change ya life! I have applied them countless times (Hero. is the brand that I use, by the way) on period pimples before turning in and have awakened to flattened zits and a patch that is white (thanks tothe hydrocolloid that the patches are made of; not the gunk that is in my pimples).
Clearing a pore quickly can happen with a pimple patch — and a cleared pore puts you on the path to the skin that you’ve always wanted, y’all!
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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From Teen Pilot To Aviation Leader: Beth Powell Talks Career Journey And Making History
Captain Beth Powell, aviation leader and founder of Queen B Production, a company dedicated to empowering diverse voices through meaningful storytelling, is an innovative entrepreneur with a deep commitment to philanthropy and inspiring future generations. This commitment started as a teen in St. Ann, Jamaica during her first flight in the cockpit. “I felt that rush of being able to do something amazing," she shared. “So many people want to get into the path of aviation and they don't really know how. So I sat down—as my own daughter is going through the process—and I'm writing a blueprint for her and for the world.”
Now, with more than 20 years of experience in professional aviation, starting with American Eagle Airlines and then on to becoming a captain at American Airlines, she has continued to pay it forward. In 2022, she made history as the first commercial airline captain to lead an all-Black, women-led flight crew. She has also written a biography on Bessie Coleman, the first African-American and Native-American woman to earn a pilot’s license, and produced and directed, Discovering Bessie Coleman, working alongside the family to get the project completed. Add to that her role as a founder of consulting firm LadyAv8rBeth, which offers a guide of pathways into aviation, and as a podcast host covering all things aviation.
For Women’s History Month, xoNecole caught up with the busy pilot, in between flights, to talk about her career journey, her role in a Bessie Coleman documentary and book, how she balances self-care and safety, and how other Black women can add to the aviation legacy:
xoNecole: You’ve built an successful career in aviation. And you were only 15 and already had your first flight. Were you afraid at all, or did it feel like second nature to you?
Beth Powell: It felt completely natural. There was no fear, just excitement and curiosity.
Now, it’s what they call STEM, and my teacher at the time thought that I was really good at numbers. He recommended three career paths, and I tried the first one.
I didn't understand why it made sense back then at 15, but as I grew up and met other pilots, I recognized that the reason I liked math and physics was that we were technical learners. So we like to break things apart and put them back together. We like to check procedures. We like to write manuals. We were technical artists.
xoN: That’s such an important message. Many young women and girls are often discouraged from pursuing careers in STEM or aviation, so it’s incredible to hear your story. Now, fast forward a bit—how did you transition into your corporate career with larger airlines?
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BP: After that first discovery flight, I quickly finished my high school classes and graduated at 16. By 17, I had earned my private pilot’s license, and by 18, my commercial license. Then, I moved to the U.S. to attend flight school in Florida. While working on my degree in professional aeronautics, I began working for American Eagle Airlines at just 21. Over the years, I’ve built my career and have now spent 25 years in the airline industry, including 14 years at American Eagle and 11 years at American Airlines. In terms of leadership, being a captain is key.
As a captain, I’m responsible for the aircraft, the crew, and the passengers. It’s a huge responsibility, and you learn a lot about leadership when you’re in charge of so much.
Being a captain definitely teaches you leadership. You’re in charge of every aspect of the flight from the moment you sign in to the moment you sign out. From overseeing the crew to managing the safety and well-being of passengers, you have to make quick decisions and take responsibility. Even when you’re starting out as a first officer, you’re learning vital leadership skills that prepare you for the captain role.
xoN: There's a lot going on with airlines right now that might make someone feel afraid in terms of some of the tragedies that have recently happened. How do you sustain your self-care balance and your resilience in the aviation industry when those sorts of things happen?
BP: I truly believe that aviation is still the safest and the No. 1 safest means of transportation. I say that proudly. For any airline, any pilot, any air traffic controller—anyone who works in the industry—safety is our number one priority. However, of course, we see things happening in the news, and it is concerning to passengers.
What I'm telling everybody to do right now, including myself, is that it's very important to have your source of strength. I'm a Christian, and one of my sources of strength is prayers. I go deep within my prayers every morning, and I pray to God, giving things that I can't control to him, and the rest— I can do my best to deal with.
No. 2 is meditation on the Deepak Chopra app. Ever since COVID happened, that was the first time I thought that I needed something more than just my prayers to help me go through to calm down the noise around me.
And last but not least, I'm really big on self-development. I read, I read, and I read. If your foundation is strong, you have something to build from. And so, when I read, I learn a lot about myself. I learn about what triggers me and when something triggers me. I literally hear the Kendrick Lamar song, "TV Off" in my head, because sometimes you need to shut the noise off.
xoN: That's amazing—the combination of faith and just being excellent at what you do. Now, how did you get involved with the Bessie Coleman project?
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BP: I sit on the board of advisers for an organization called Sisters of the Skies, and was at a gala celebrating with all our Black women of our achievements. At the end of the night, Dr. Sheila Chamberlain walked up to me. She was the first Black woman U.S. combat intelligence aviator in the Army. So, if she's walking up to me, it's very serious. She said, ‘I have a favor to ask.’ I said, ‘Yes.’ I did not hear what the favor was. I didn't know what she was going to ask me, but somebody like that walking up to you saying, ‘a favor’? The answer is yes.
She told me [the project involved] helping the Bessie Coleman family elevate the story. ‘I'd like you to ask your company if they will do a flight in honor of Bessie Coleman.’ I went to the different departments at American Airlines, and the rest was literally history. We did that flight on August 8, 2022, and it became a historical flight because everyone on that flight, from the ground up, was a Black woman.
Gigi Coleman, Bessie’s grand-niece, was also on that flight. We started chatting at the end of the flight. Another night, we were hanging out—Sheila, Gigi, and I—and she kept telling me she wanted to write a book, that she wished there was a movie, and that people approached her about it. Nothing had been done as yet. And I thought, sounds like another mission.
I literally took it on. We do have a documentary with the family sharing their perspective of who Bessie Coleman is. And we do have a book called Queen of the Skies.
xoN: For the young women who are looking for career paths in aviation, what are some skills they need to thrive?
BP: While you don't necessarily have to love math to be a pilot, technical knowledge is important. You’ll need to understand aircraft systems and aerodynamics. This includes weather patterns and instrument training. It might seem daunting at first, but the great thing about flight training is that it builds on itself. The more you learn, the more it all clicks. Also, aviation is constantly changing, and you need to be adaptable.
It’s a field where you need to be ready for anything, from unexpected weather to technical issues. Being open to learning new things and adjusting to change is crucial.
My daughter, who has her private pilot’s license, once said, “This journey is both challenging and rewarding. I feel like I’ve grown so much since starting.” It’s important to keep going, even when it gets tough.
To help others, I’m outlining how they can go from “zero to hero” as a pilot. I offer this information freely on my Instagram account, and it’s something I’m passionate about sharing. I want everyone to have access to the resources they need to follow their dreams.
For more information on Beth Powell, the Bessie Coleman documentary, and aviation career resources, visit LadyAv8rBeth.com.
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