Saving money has always been a hard thing for me, mostly because I can never tell myself "no" when it comes to buying things. If you're anything like me, you'll keep treating yourself until you wake up one day with $7,000 worth of debt on your credit card.
It was all good until I found that all my expenses — some wants, some needs — had amassed close to $7,000. The first thing I felt was shock, then confusion, and then shock again. However, within five months I was able to pay the entire debt off, and here are a few tips I would give to anyone who finds themselves in a bit of financial stress.
Note: I am NOT a financial expert, but these are just the things I learned on my own individual path.
Get To The Root of The Problem
You can't actually fix a problem until you tackle the root of it.
I had to have a serious, big girl sit down with myself and ask why I felt the need to always buy this, or that, or whatever. After some soul searching, I realized it all stemmed from my childhood: I didn't grow up poor, but I came from a single-parent household where my mom couldn't give me everything I wanted. So as an adult, I treated myself to whatever I wanted because I felt I deserved it.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you have to deny and deprive yourself. In fact, I think people who use that approach on their road to financial freedom cause more pain than good. What I AM saying is that you have to address your spending habits and confront your issues head on.
Put A Monthly Plan In Place
Your first inclination may be to put as much towards the bill as you can, even if that means dipping into your savings account. Don't do that, because you never know when a rainy day may pop up. What I did was take my monthly pay after taxes, and then do a percentage breakdown of pay:
- 50% went towards expenses such as bills, rent, Metrocard, etc.
- 30% went to the credit card.
- 20% went toward my savings and also a few dollars for me to do things I wanted to do.
Was this plan hard? Definitely. At least $1,000 was heading out of my pocket each month. But I knew if I stayed diligent and kept myself on a plan, it could work.
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Keep Up With Minimum Payments
No matter what, make sure you take care of your minimum payment each month. Not paying the minimum will give you strikes against your credit score, and that's the opposite of what we want!
Time Is Money
To expedite the process of paying off the debt, I realized that I would need some extra revenue coming in. If you're in a bit of a financial bind, try making some money on the side that can help you out when times are tough!
If you love to write, freelance for a few of your favorite media outlets. If you love children, maybe babysit or tutor on the weekends. Whatever you do, make sure that it's something that isn't too out of your normal scope of life, meaning it won't drain you to the point of no return.
Since I was determined to pay this balance off, ALL of my freelance money went towards this credit card. Yes, it was painful seeing those direct deposits go straight towards the card, but determination is KEY.
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Look For Bank Accounts That Offer Cash Back
This route not only kept my balance low, since I still had to use my card for day-to-day necessities, but it also gave me money to use for the balance!
Some banks, like Capital One, give you a small percentage back on every purchase you make with your card. While it's literally only a few dollars per purchase, every penny counts! Once I would hit a hundred or more dollars, I'd transfer it over to the account. Hey, you might as well save money while you spend money.
Stay Away From Your Triggers
GiphyDoing everything I listed above for five months eventually put me back into a position where I could fully function with peace of mind.
However, if things get sticky, do what you have to do. Nowadays, you can use an app to lock your credit card, and if you need to, nobody is judging you boo. Take autosave off of frequent websites you may search through and go through old bank statements to set up parameters for things you do a lot of (for instance, I loved going out to eat). Once you get yourself back up on your feet, don't get yourself back in the situation by returning to your old ways.
Remember, moderation is very important on your road to financial freedom.
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Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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Almost two weeks later, Wicked is still on everyone's lips. The high-grossing film stars Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande as Elphaba and Glinda, as their characters, tell a story about race and acceptance. However, what has captured audiences on and off the screen are Cynthia's and Ariana's looks as they play on their characters' styles.
Ariana, like her character Glinda, is often dressed in pink, and Cynthia, much like Elphaba, is covered in green. But what also has many people talking is the British actress' nails. Her nails are often long, blingy, and, of course, green. Many TikTok girlies are even doing their own versions of Elphaba's nails. But there's one person to thank for the green nail mania: Shea Osei.
The London-based nail artist has been working with the Wicked actress since she was 16 and shared all the tea on her epic nail styles with Unbothered UK.
Here what she said.
Shea On Elphaba's Nails Being The First Thing We See Before Seeing The Character
I was ecstatic. I was happy. It was just great to see my craft, my artistry just out there, not just nationally but globally.
Shea On Elphaba's Nails Representing Her Character Development
When we started with the first [nail] look, we chose nice, subtle green ombre nails that show who she is but a calm, chilled-out version of Elphaba. As she grew into herself, became more confident, and found herself, she was more like, yes, this is me, I’m Elphaba, I am who I am, and her nails became more daring. In the salon scene, when she had a transformation, her nails were, one, longer and two, they were more daring. There are many close-ups of Elphaba’s hands in the film, where you see her nails, and you see the difference in what they were [at the start of the film], so I feel like that helps to tell the story.
Shea On Elphaba's Nails Representing Black Womanhood
Yes, it was 100%. And I feel like, yes, the nails represented Black womanhood but also just being yourself. I just feel like the nails represented Cynthia as if to say, ‘I'm Black and I can be a Black witch’. This is who I am. And also, I can have braids and they can be done in any kind of way and can still be styled however is needed. I think we saw, if I'm correct, three or four different braid styles in the movie. Sim Camps, who styled the braids, did an amazing job — there would be mornings when she would be making sure the braids were intact and looked amazing on camera. So, yeah, definitely the braids were an ode to Black culture and the nails were 100% like, yes, we're doing it.
Shea On Seeing The Fan Recreation On TikTok
Yes, I have! If you are going to the salon and you want to recreate Elphaba's nails and let's say, you're going for the nails after the salon scene, where she just gets a fresh set, I would say ask for a plain black base and then ask if they have green foils to stick it on top to give that green effect. Then apply a shiny top coat. And it looks insane! The green ombre is more complicated with colours mixed to give it a green earthy colour.
Shea On The Importance Of Expressing Yourself Through Nail Art, Despite Some Criticism
We love it and don't want anyone to change. Let's look at athletes such as Flo-Jo, remember her nails? Now we have ShaCarri Richardson and her nails are always long and she's always got nice designs [on them]. It’s also Black people, not only Black women — because if you look at athletes that are men that make sure they get their nails painted as well. A$AP Rocky gets his nails painted. It's just so good to see that our culture is so colourful and also so inviting. It’s not only Black people that can have these kinds of nails, anyone can have them. I’m glad we can be the inspiration to everybody and they can draw bits of our culture and add it to theirs.
I like the fact that Cynthia is able to go out of there into the world and still be authentically herself. She hasn't changed for anything or anyone. This is how I am. I like my nails like this, my nail techs love doing my nails like this.
I'm over the moon that Cynthia can go out and still have her nails how she wants to. [Cynthia’s nails] has been a topic this entire Wicked press tour. Everyone will ask Cynthia about her nails in every interview and I love that. I love it because that's who she is. And if you see her you'll see that she's always got her nails done and she’s always got some banging heels on. Even on her down days, she’s always dressed. That's just how she is.
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