

Looking for ways to self-reflect? Oracle decks are a magical practice to add to your inward ritual. Upon digging deeper into self-work, we had to bring in an expert on oracle decks. Allow us to introduce you to Iya Osundara aka Bruja Banton. The Baltimore, MD resident is not only a Osun Priestess in the African Traditional Religion of Ifa/Isese but she's also a tarot and oracle reader, shadow worker, and spiritual bath maker.
"I got into oracle decks by way of tarot cards. I started teaching myself tarot in 2014/2015, and it goes with most things that I find an interest in, I stumbled down a YouTube rabbit hole. That's when I discovered another method of divination in the form of oracle cards," Iya explained.
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Without a shadow of a doubt, mama knows her stuff! xoNecole had the pleasure of chatting with this queen to talk oracle decks, why they are important, and insights on the rest of the year.
What do you love most about oracle cards?
"Oracle cards are free-spirited and can be about anything. You like affirmations? You can find an affirmation oracle deck. You into plants? There's an oracle deck for that. Crystals? A deck for that. Oracle decks also are a great example of the variety of ways Spirit communicates with us. Sky's the limit, they each have their own structure and feel and there's a freedom in that to me."
How do oracle decks differ from tarot cards?
"Tarot decks, while the artwork may vary, generally follow a structured system. There's always going to be a major and minor arcana of more or less 78 cards. Tarot is also good for getting down to the nitty-gritty of a topic; you can really get in-depth with them. As I mentioned earlier, contrastingly each individual oracle deck has its own structure and feel; this is great for folks who feel like tarot is too rigid or structured.
"Oracle decks are good for insight on a macro level, not too in-depth but just enough to get you started with broad concepts."
Why are oracle decks important?
"Using oracle decks is a form of divination, even on a basic level. To me this question is really asking, why is divination important? Using oracle decks as a tool to divine helps us to strengthen our connection to Spirit, whether that be God/Universe, benevolent ancestors, etc. These are tools that can provide us with insight and/or encouragement in our lives. Clients often ask me how they can strengthen their intuitive gifts, and using oracle decks, pulling cards for yourself is one way to do so."
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Can you give us a breakdown of some of your favorite cards?
"This varies as I work with a lot of decks and rotate through them a lot. Currently, my favorite card is "No Short Cuts" from the Chalks of Kikongo deck. It's a reminder that we can't shortcut our way to our goals. The only way is through even if it takes longer than you'd like. Another is Abe Dua from the Adinkra Ancestral Guidance Cards. Abe Dua is an Adinkra symbol that represents the Palm Tree. My government name in Hebrew means Palm Tree, so this card is special for me for that reason, and also because it symbolizes the resourcefulness and resilience that is inherent to the palm tree and also me. It's a reminder that I can create the opportunities I need without waiting on others to bring them to me."
Share any insights you have from your decks that may shine a light on the remainder of the year.
"If you're trying to become more in tune with your intuition, you can no longer ignore or turn away from what is being revealed to you. You have a choice to make a conscious decision on how to proceed.
"Take time to reflect on your choices and don't be afraid to make the choice you intuitively know is right. It may not be comfortable, it may shake the table, but the choices that are best for us cause us to feel this way. Lean into it."
What are your favorite decks?
"I own an obscene amount of decks and my favorites vary depending on the season or how I'm feeling. But some of my go-to oracle decks are: Adinkra Ancestral Guidance Cards, Work Your Light Oracle by Rebecca Campbell and Danielle Danielle Noel, Starseed Oracle by Rebecca Campbell and Danielle Noel, Okana Oracle deck by Akamarot Tarot, and the Chalks of Kikongo Deck by Sharifa of Ageno's Sweet Things."
For more of Iya Osundara, follow her on Instagram @_brujabanton.
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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How Power Women Protect Their Finances With Smart Money Boundaries
No matter what it is, setting boundaries can be challenging, especially when those boundaries involve money. But if you want to sustain success and financial freedom, boundaries are important, both with yourself and with others.
Many wealthy successful women have mastered setting boundaries and prioritizing accountability so that they can ensure they remain that way. Let's face it: If you want a certain quality of life and you work hard to achieve that, you don't want to risk it by taking on habits that jeopardize your financial stability.
Be inspired to not only set money boundaries but keep them by taking heed to the common financial boundaries power women of today establish:
1. They pay themselves first.
Building consistent savings habits is important to wealth-building no matter how much you earn, and the practice is often one that continues even after you're well-booked and well-paid. Actress, producer, and philanthropist Queen Latifah has always been a proponent of this after learning from her mom to "save your money."
This is the epitome of the energy behind paying yourself first. You squirrel something away and take care of yourself by taking care of your future first, before paying any bills. You invest in yourself (within your means and with a budget in mind, of course).
2. They don't loan money without clear repayment rules and expectations are agreed upon.
It's awesome to be able to help people out by loaning them money, but when you don't communicate clearly about repayment (or what will happen if the money is not repaid) you set yourself up for a cycle of taking on other's debts and maybe even building more debt of your own.
Unless you're doing charity, set those boundaries early about when and how a loan will be repaid. And if you know you won't get the money back, rethink the loan altogether.
3. They create budgets that are realistic and reflect their current lifestyle.
In her book, What I Know for Sure, Oprah Winfrey wrote, “I hope the way you spend your money is in line with the truth of who you are and what you care about.” This is key for many successful women, especially when they're budgeting and investing.
Issa Rae told Money.com, "I don’t splurge just because. I will never have 17 cars. I will never have expensive jewelry. I don’t spend that much on my clothes, or shoes. I will spend money on a stylist, and a makeup artist, because those things feel necessary for work. But material things? No."
There's a clear indication that there are clear value systems sustained by what matters to them no matter how much they make, and budgeting is a huge part of that.
4. They consider the long-term effects of a rash purchase before proceeding.
It's totally okay to treat yourself, but if you find yourself impulsively buying things you don't really need or always living check to check because you've maxed out your credit card to take that sixth trip in one year, there's a problem that might put a damper on those financial freedom plans. (That is unless your trip is part of how you make your money, and it's a worthy investment into expanding your prospects.)
Successful women are conscious of the long- and short-term effects of purchases, small and large. They're always thinking about how one action can impact the bigger picture.
5. They are givers and believe in the reciprocity of that.
Many of us are familiar with the famous quote, "To whom much is given, must is required," and there's that undertone of service and charity that is a common thread for wealthy, successful women, especially those who run businesses or lead brands. Involving yourself in acts of service not only enriches your development and that of communities, but it increases your exposure, network, and credibility, often leading to more opportunities to make more money.
Most leading CEOs, entrepreneurs, and professionals are big on giving back, whether it is through resources, a nonprofit, money, or their time. "As you become more successful, it's important for you to give back. Even if you can't financially give back, kind words and sharing about other businesses on social media mean so much. Every little thing counts. Help out your friends and family with advice, encouragement, and support," said Angela Yee, award-winning radio host and entrepreneur.
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Originally published on August 16, 2024