This is the era of bossing up unapologetically. From being our own body goals, to having dope women in our circle, and accomplishing our work and money goals - we're all about the glow up. However, one thing we all know about the glow up journey is that there are always things and people (and if we're honest, it's our own selves too) that get in the way.
When we're trying to make shit happen at work or in our business, sometimes we find ourselves on the struggle bus. If you're like me, sometimes you find it difficult to build relationships and work with others, and even more so, you fall short of understanding who you are and who you are becoming.
As a boss woman, it's important that you understand who you are, and how your thoughts and behaviors influence how you work. One easy way you can get started with this is with the Myers-Briggs test. The Myers-Briggs personality indicator test (MBTI) is your secret weapon to finding out what makes you unique and how it influences your way of working and productivity.
The MBTI uses four sets of opposite traits to analyze how you tend to interact with people and the world around you. Each of those traits are put together to create 1 of 16 unique combinations of personality types, based on these categories:
- Introvert (I) v. Extrovert (E)
- Intuitive (N) v. Sensory (S)
- Thinking (T) v. Feeling (F)
- Judging (J) v. Perceiving (P)
To quickly figure out your personality type for free, click here. Once you're done, get into the deets below to see what your type means and how it relates to you as a working woman.
Myers-Briggs Personality Test: The 16 Personality Types
1.ISTJ - The Extra Prepared Queen
(introversion, sensing, thinking, judgment)
- ISTJs are often in leadership roles at work. They are planners, very organized, detailed-oriented, responsible, and logical.
- As an ISTJ, you'll thrive by finding opportunities that have structure, are stable, but still allow you to work independently.
2.ISTP - The I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T. Queen
(introversion, sensing, thinking, perceiving)
- ISTPs love to work and think alone. They crave working at their own pace and are naturally very attentive, practical, and results-oriented. ISTPs prefer to focus on the present and often avoid making long-term commitments.
- As an ISTP, you should seek out work and opportunities that allow you to work independently, have flexibility, and where full transparency is supported.
3.ISFJ - The Humble, Hardworking Queen
(introversion, sensing, feeling, judging)
- ISFJs are bosses, but they make their moves in silence. They love being in small groups of people and are known to work really hard to get tasks done. People love them because they often prioritize the needs and emotions of others, and they are really considerate.
- As an ISFJ, you do well in environments where there is structure, are given personal space to recharge and regain focus, and have the opportunity to help others around you succeed.
4.ISFP - The Creative Queen
(introversion, sensing, feeling, perceiving)
- ISFPs are known to be very creative, spontaneous, love building relationships with other people, and still love their alone time.
- As an ISFP, finding work environments that allow flexibility, aligns with your passion, and allows you to help others is ideal for your career.
5.INFJ - The Altruistic Queen
(introversion, intuition, feeling, judging)
- INFJs tend to be determined, reserved, and altruistic in their behavior. They are idealists and are passionate about doing good work and making the world a better place.
- INFJs do well in environments that align with their beliefs and values, and that allows them to bring about positive change.
6.INFP - The Adaptable Queen
(introversion, intuition, feeling, perceiving)
- INFPs typically follow their gut instincts, are creative, and love spontaneity in their lives.
- As an INFP, finding opportunities that allow you to be flexible, creative, and establish new relationships are ideal.
7.INTJ - The Efficient Queen
(introversion, intuition, thinking, judging)
- INTJs are confident, analytical, and ambitious. They love to learn and handle things from a very logical perspective.
- INTJs tend to thrive in environments where they can see the fruits of their labor and where they can implement efficiency in spaces that are lacking it.
8.INTP - The Innovative Queen
(introversion, intuition, thinking, perceiving)
- INTPs tend to be extremely analytical, objective, and logical. They love learning and making new things to improve the workplace.
- INTPs thrive in roles where they can take as much time as wanted to produce work that's accurate and full of quality. They love solving dynamic, complex problems, and working hard.
9.ESTP - The Quick Thinking Queen
(extroversion, sensing, thinking, perceiving)
- ESTPs are known to be full of life, energetic, and bold in their behavior. They're able to think quick on their feet and do well in intense situations.
- ESTP thrive in positions that are high-energy and are a boss at leading teams. They can normally adapt well to any situation and are extremely detailed.
10. ESTJ - The Take Control Queen
(extroversion, sensing, thinking, judging)
- ESTJs are naturally very loyal, organized, responsible, and don't shy away from taking charge.
- Because they are natural-born leaders, ESTJs work best when they can lead, develop and motivate others, and can make projects more efficient.
11. ESFP - The Life of the Party Queen
(extroversion, sensing, feeling, perceiving)
- ESFPs are very friendly, outgoing, and love spontaneity in every area of their life.
- ESFPs work best in areas where they can entertain and motivate people. Obsessed with aesthetics, they love being in creative roles and always pay close attention to the details.
12. ESFJ - The Woo, Woo, Woo Queen
(extroversion, sensing, feeling, judging)
- ESFJs are naturally empathetic, genuine, and very supportive leaders. They can easily make new friends because they're always able to find a way to connect with others.
- ESFJs thrive in roles where they can help other people and build new relationships. They love working at companies that offer words of affirmation and that allow them to help improve the company culture.
13. ENFP - The Charismatic Queen
(extroversion, intuition, feeling, perceiving)
- ENFPs are easily loved by many because of their adaptable, easy-going attitude. They are naturally creative and do well when the spotlight is on them.
- ENFP do well in work environments where they can use their charisma and creativity to their advantage. They also do well in multitasking and facing difficult problems.
14. ENFJ - The Empathetic Queen
(extroversion, intuition, feeling, judging)
- ENFJs are very empathetic and love to work tirelessly to help others improve their lives.
- ENFJs work well in positions that allow them to relate and help others out. They love being in leadership roles and engage with their team.
15. ENTP - The Great Debater Queen
(extroversion, intuition, thinking, perceiving)
- ENTPs are very curious and love to express themselves and debate with others. They love sparking interesting conversations with friends and strangers too.
- ENTPs love being in roles where they can use their knowledge to inform and persuade others and lead. They are very hardworking and are typically really efficient at work.
16. ENTJ - The Visionary Queen
(extroversion, intuition, thinking, judging)
- ENTJs are naturally charismatic, direct, and love taking charge. They crave doing work that inspires them and evokes innovation.
- ENTJs are often in leadership roles, and they do well when they're able to motivate and inspire their peers. Naturally goal-getters, they independently seek out roles where they can accomplish their goals and avoid distractions.
Now that you know your personality type, what kind of boss woman are you? Tweet us and let us know!
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
Couples, if you are ready to do the work and invest in your relationship register for A Weekend For Love: Heart Retreat Feb 21-23, 2025.
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WNBA star Angel Reese stuns on and off the court, and now she’s spilling her beauty and skincare secrets with us. The 22-year-old gave some insight into her beauty and skincare routine while speaking to Vogue, including her game day routine.
“My grandma used to always put mascara on my eyes when I was younger, and I used to go on the basketball court; that’s how I got the name 'Bayou Barbie' ‘cause I always had my nails, lashes, hair done,” she explained.
Below, Angel shares the skincare products that make her skin glow and her go-to makeup looks.
Check out her routines below.
Skincare
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Angel starts with La Roche-Posay Hydrating Gentle Cleanser. “I love skincare. Makes me feel good, makes me feel cleanse, especially after a long day because I’m always on the go,” she said. “I play sports, so my face is always drenched with sweat, and I always gotta keep it clean.”
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Angel uses two moisturizers. She uses Fenty Skin Hydra Vizor Invisible Moisturizer SPF 30 first and follows it up with Cetaphil Soothing Gel Cream with Aloe.
"You have to use the thinnest layer and then the thickest layer," she said. "I learned these tips because one time I posted a skincare routine and they were like, you need to run that back. And they taught me you need to do thin then thick and then I could see the complete difference with my skin."
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She keeps Laniege Lip Balm with her at all times, including during games.
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One-Size Setting Spray is her go-to for keeping her makeup fresh on the court. “I usually spray my beauty blender with my setting spray,” she said. “People usually wet the beauty blender under the water, but why not set it with this.”
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She rounds out her beauty routine with mascara, brows, and her lip combo using Rare Beauty Kind Words Lip Liner and Covergirl Clean Fresh Yummy Gloss. But before closing, she made sure to give flowers to the WNBA stars before her who were also known for getting glammed on and off the court.
“I gotta give kudos to the girls who were wearing makeup before. Lisa Leslie, Skylar Diggins, Candace Parker. Everybody already had their edges and their lashes, lipstick on," she said. "Tina Thompson; she used to wear a full red lip on her lips during the game, but that’s something I could probably never do.”
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