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Mýa Shares How Seven-Year Celibacy Brought Mental Clarity: 'It Was Just Reconditioning'

Mýa might be the walking definition of drinking my water and minding my business. The "It's All About Me" singer has had a fruitful career spanning over 20 years, giving us hits like "Best of Me," "My Love Is Like...Wo," and more, and she is currently on The Queens of R&B tour with Xscape and SWV.

Music career aside, Mýa is also vegan and has been open about her health and wellness journey. And at 44 years old, her health and life choices appear to be the reason for her youthful glow. Another thing that may be responsible for her youthful glow is abstaining from sex.


The singer/ dancer opened up about what motivated her to be celibate for seven years during an interview with Way Up With Angela Yee and the benefits she received.

"Mental clarity," she said. "Just doing without. It shifted my mindset. There was no longer a focus, the rush to be in a relationship. The rush to be married. The rush to be in something because that's what you're taught to do, to have kids or procreate. And I think there's a lot of pressure on women to be able to do that and also feeling valid. Why are we taught we have to be taken or made an honest woman, am I a liar?"

As she continued, she stressed about the importance of love, but more specifically self-love and how that should be the goal. "Love is beautiful and I think the world always needs more of it, but I think, you must start with yourself and I have to start with self always versus expecting from other sources," she explained.

"So it was just reconditioning, and I think it was something that was necessary because it's a very spiritual thing, and you must be very selective if you want better results, and so I think that's self-accountability, and it started with me by just shutting that part of my life off."

Mýa has always kept her love life private and revealed that a part of that has to do with her public persona as a sex symbol. She explained how her public persona sometimes interfered with dating. "You grow up, semi sex symbol, there's a lot of things that are said about you and you ingest all of that," she said.

"You try to process all of that at an early age and then the aesthetic you may come with is totally opposite of who you actually really are and it intersects in your life when you're trying to date or maybe taking photos with other celebrities and so it can get very tricky.

"But I think a lot of things that are sacred should just remain private, for me until, of course, I'm solid and I'm ready and the foundation of us is together and even then it's a risk. So I don't really play with that part of my life publicly."

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