Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens are cool and all, but if we were to take a look at a list of my favorite things, you would see none of the above.
Along with some quality herb, the things I hold dearest to my heart are tools that help keep my self-care all the way in alignment, and because you are my good sis, I want to share them with you, too.
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On my never-ending quest to be on fleek, I'm constantly buying and trying new products so you don't have to and this month, we're going to get all the way into the 5 latest beauty and self-care items that I can't stop talking about.
From the miracle product got my hyperpigmentation together expeditiously to the THC-infused Body Balm that leveled up my relaxation game forever, here are a few products you didn't know you needed to add to your self-care shopping list.
Sunday Riley CEO Glow Vitamin C + Turmeric Face Oil ($40)
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I first read about Sunday Riley's CEO Glow Vitamin C + Turmeric Oil when researching and writing an article about Lizzo's skincare routine and decided to add it to my wishlist last Christmas. Although this serum is what I personally could consider expensive AF, you definitely get what you pay for with this product. I have the 0.5 fl. oz oil which costs $40 and has lasted me about three months. A little goes a really long way with this product and although it is guaranteed to have your glow on go, using too much can leave you looking greasy AF.
Nolaskinsentials Hyaluronic H2O Creme
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But because our managing editor, Sheriden Chanel spoke highly of Nolaskinsentials, and I'm always willing to bet on Black-owned businesses, I decided to give the brand a chance. After ordering their Pumpkin Enzyme Mask and Brightening C Serum, I decided to invest in their Hyaluronic H2O Creme and I was blown away. Living with combination skin in a city as dry as Denver can be stressful, especially when it comes to finding a good moisturizer, but within a few weeks of using this product, I've noticed that breakouts are less frequent and my dark spots have improved dramatically.
Rub. Medicinal Cannabis Body Balm by Whoopi & Maya
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A while back, I wrote an article about Whoopi Goldberg's transformative line of products that help with aches, pains, and menstrual cramps, and today, I'm still a loyal customer. While somewhat pricey, I've been using this same container for two whole years! Although birth control has alleviated a lot of pain associated with my cycle, I enjoy using this product on my stomach, back, shoulders, and joints even when I'm not on my period.
Black Girl Sunscreen
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Being a grown-up means implementing an effective SPF into your daily routine and this brand will help you do that without the unflattering caste that most sunscreens leave on brown skin. Your melanin is a national treasure that must be protected at all costs and this jojoba- and avocado oil-infused water-resistant sunscreen is perfect for the job and looks great under makeup.
Bonita Afro Balm by The Doux
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I didn't know I needed this product until last week and now I can't live without it. I had my first encounter with this brand when my cousin purchased the Swag Goo Edge Control on a Target run in Atlanta but I could never find it in Colorado. Thanks to The Doux, Christmas came early and I received a box of their products last month that made me a believer. One scoop of this thick texture cream keeps my chemically damaged curls on drip but it's also light enough to be used a few days in a row.
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The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Temi and SkylarCj Hart @hartbreakToday, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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