Since leaving songwriting full-time to pursue her dream of being a singer, Muni Long has seen mainstream success. Her song “Hrs & Hrs” went viral during the pandemic and won her a Grammy, and since then, she has had everyone singing, “Twin, where have you been?” which are the lyrics to her song “Made For Me."
But while her star was rising, she was battling hardships in her personal life. In August, Muni released her new album, Revenge, and during her visit to The Terrell Show, she opened up about what inspired her recent music, particularly her song “Revenge."
“One song that just evokes a lot of emotion is the title track, “Revenge,” because I talk about some domestic violence there in the bridge. And I don't think a lot of people understand, like, I've been through a lot, and I just don't talk about it,” she revealed.
When asked how faith played a role during this turbulent time in her life, she shared how it was difficult as she was often told to just pray. “I’mma just say this, a lot of times, organized religion and old-school thinking will have you in bondage to some very misogynistic beliefs and ideals. And so a man can do wrong a million times, and you should forgive him because that is the blank thing to do, right? It's the right thing to do. It's the Christian thing to do, it's the feminine thing to do, it's the wife thing to do, right?” She explained.
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“But what about all this stress and drama and all that whatever, and him knocking me upside my [head?] How much of that should I take before a grown-up realizes that I'm out of control and I need to get help? There's only so much you can do for somebody who doesn't see the error in their ways. I was a little bit embarrassed that it was happening to me.
She continued, “I present myself as this very strong [person,] which I am, but when you got somebody that's like 200 pounds coming at you, it's nothing you can do. Yeah, you want to leave. They follow you. It's very, very nasty. I don't wish it on anyone. It's not that I didn't want to leave, but the way that my life was set up, you don't expect the love of your life to turn into your enemy.”
The mother of one made a plan, which included becoming a successful singer as a way to finally leave. Because, as she said, “I just knew, like, no one's coming to save you. It was me who walked down aisle, so I'm gonna have to figure out how to get up out of this.”
Back in 2022, the “Ruined Me” singer revealed she had lupus, and in 2023, she shared that she was autistic and that repressing her autism led to her having lupus. While talking to Terrell, she said she hasn’t had any flair-ups since leaving her relationship. If you or you know someone dealing with domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800)-799-7233 or text START to 88788.
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“One song that just evokes a lot of emotion is the title track, “Revenge,” because I talk about some domestic violence there in the bridge. And I don't think a lot of people understand, like, I've been through a lot, and I just don't talk about it,” she revealed.
When asked how faith played a role during this turbulent time in her life, she shared how it was difficult as she was often told to just pray. “I’mma just say this, a lot of times, organized religion and old-school thinking will have you in bondage to some very misogynistic beliefs and ideals. And so a man can do wrong a million times, and you should forgive him because that is the blank thing to do, right? It's the right thing to do. It's the Christian thing to do, it's the feminine thing to do, it's the wife thing to do, right?” She explained.
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“But what about all this stress and drama and all that whatever, and him knocking me upside my [head?] How much of that should I take before a grown-up realizes that I'm out of control and I need to get help? There's only so much you can do for somebody who doesn't see the error in their ways. I was a little bit embarrassed that it was happening to me.
She continued, “I present myself as this very strong [person,] which I am, but when you got somebody that's like 200 pounds coming at you, it's nothing you can do. Yeah, you want to leave. They follow you. It's very, very nasty. I don't wish it on anyone. It's not that I didn't want to leave, but the way that my life was set up, you don't expect the love of your life to turn into your enemy.”
The mother of one made a plan, which included becoming a successful singer as a way to finally leave. Because, as she said, “I just knew, like, no one's coming to save you. It was me who walked down aisle, so I'm gonna have to figure out how to get up out of this.”
Back in 2022, the “Ruined Me” singer revealed she had lupus, and in 2023, she shared that she was autistic and that repressing her autism led to her having lupus. While talking to Terrell, she said she hasn’t had any flair-ups since leaving her relationship. If you or you know someone dealing with domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800)-799-7233 or text START to 88788.
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“There's so many different levels, and now, I'm in a space of just integrating all of this good stuff that I've learned just about just being human, you know?” Dreka tells us. “So it's also fun because it's like a journey of self-discovery and self-mastery. That's what I call it. So it's never-ending.”
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If you follow Dreka, then you’re familiar with her holistic lifestyle, as she’s no stranger to promoting wellness, self-care, and holistic living. She even lives part-time on a Mississippi farm, not far from her grandmother and great-grandmother’s farm, where she spent some summers as a child.
While her grandmother and great-grandmother have passed on, Dreka reflects on that time in her life and how having a farm as an adult is her getting back to her roots. “So the farm was purchased back in 2017, and it was like, ah, that'll just be a place where we go when we're not touring or whatever,” she said.
“But COVID hit, and I was there, and I was on the land, and I just started remembering back to going to my grandmother's during the summertime and freaking picking peas and going and eating mulberries off the freaking tree in the bushes.
“And she literally had cotton plants. I know some people feel weird about picking cotton and stuff. She had cotton plants and I would go and pick cotton out of her garden. And she had chickens, and I literally just broke down in tears one day when I was on the farm just doing all the things, and I'm like, ‘Oh my gosh. I'm literally getting back to my roots.”
"I literally just broke down in tears one day when I was on the farm just doing all the things, and I'm like, ‘Oh my gosh. I'm literally getting back to my roots."
You can catch glimpses of Dreka’s farm life on Instagram, which shows her picking fruit and vegetables and loving on her animals like her camel Eessa. Her passion for growing and cultivating led her to try and grow all of her ingredients for her wellness brand, Dreka Wellness. However, she quickly realized that she might be biting off more than she could chew. But that didn’t stop her from fulfilling her vision.
Watch below as Dreka talks more about her business, her wellness tips, breaking toxic cycles, becoming a doula, and more.
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As we transition from summer to fall, there’s no need to spend too many coins curating a brand new seasonal wardrobe, especially in this economy. Instead of shopping targeted ads, we interviewed fashion-forward influencers to spark our imagination and gather insight on what they’re already wearing leading into the upcoming season. Keep scrolling to get the scoop on essential items these fashion-forward women are looking forward to wearing this fall.
Helecia Williams, Houston
Comfort
Helecia’s style in three words: “Structured, bold, and explorative.”
Helecia’s outfit inspiration: “I am most interested in comfort as a trend. I am truly enjoying the mix of flats with elevated outfits and the incorporation of street-style elements into the looks. I have seen so much juxtaposition that makes the outfits interesting and intriguing. I love the pairing of fitted caps with [suits] and ballet flats. That mashup is impeccable, and we saw some of that peeking through last fall, and now it's taken on a life of its own.
"As a sneaker lover and comfort sneakers, bringing back flats is just a reimagination of past trends with a fresh twist.”
What color(s) is on Helecia’s fall mood board: “Hands down, red! It's such a bold and bossy color. Now, we see it becoming much more accessible in fashion and realize how easy it is to style and incorporate into a look for that extra pop. It also pairs well with so many other shades and tones. Some of my favorite combos are red and burgundy, red and yellow, and red and brown. Even if you aren't fully convinced that it's the color of the season and still have reservations about it, you can go classic and incorporate it in an accessory or makeup like a red lip.”
Are you bringing anything back from your 2023 fall wardrobe? “I will be returning and recycling all of my 2023 fall wardrobe and just styling it differently or giving it new life. Despite my love for trends, I've curated a wardrobe that I love so I will mix the old in with the new. And not to toot my own horn but a lot of my fashion moments are ahead of the times and still very relevant for this upcoming fall. Expect to see tons of texture, juxtaposition, unexpected color combos, and street style.”
How Helecia is accessorizing this season: “I hate to admit it, but the one trend that has me in a chokehold this fall is bold jewelry, particularly in gold. I've realized that accessories can do wonders, and the Schiaparelli era has me shook. I am a ‘Stan’ of Shop Khoi, a Black-owned jewelry brand that creates some of the most amazing, high-quality fashion jewelry. It just sets off any outfit no matter how simple it may be and easily becomes a conversation piece.”
Courtney Blackwell, New York City
Courtney’s style in three words: “Vintage, oversize, and sexy.”
Courtney’s most anticipated fall fashion items: “The fashion item I am anticipating wearing is vintage leather in all colors!”
Courtney's color picks for fall: “Cherry reds, forest greens, and different shades of gray.”
The trend that has Courtney in a chokehold this season: “Skirts! I’ve never been a skirt girly, well mini skirts girly, but I think I’m going to step it up with the minis this fall.”
Shaniqua Jordan, New York City
Timeless
Shaniqua’s personal styling tip for fall: “I hate to admit it, but the one trend that has me in a chokehold this fall is any oversized outerwear piece, especially oversized blazers. And as basic as it may sound, I can't get enough of them. They instantly elevate any look, and they're so versatile, whether I'm going for a polished vibe or something more casual. Plus, they are perfect for layering as the weather cools down.
"I know most people wouldn't typically opt for suede, but if you've been following my style, you know I'm all about my outerwear. I love adding texture to my looks, even if it's subtle, and a good suede jacket does that for me. The soft texture and rich hues of suede add that cherry on top for any fall look. Whether I'm rocking a bomber style in a jewel tone or a tailored trench in a neutral shade, a suede jacket is one piece I'm looking forward to wearing to elevate my fall wardrobe.”
These colors are all over Shaniqua’s fall mood board: “The colors on my fall mood board are rich earth tones like deep browns and olive greens paired with classic neutrals like camel and cream. I'd like to throw in a pop of butter yellow. I know it might seem more spring-like, but I love how it pairs with deep browns, oxblood, and even grays. It's the perfect way to brighten up those cozy, moody fall vibes. I'm also loving pops of bold jewel tones like emerald and burgundy to add a bit of luxe to the season. These shades give that cozy yet elevated feel I'm always aiming for in my fall wardrobe.”
Shaniqua describes her fall wardrobe in three words: “If I describe my fall wardrobe in three words, they would be chic, layered, and timeless. I love combining unique pieces with a classic touch, creating looks that stand out without trying too hard. It's all about finding that perfect balance between staying true to timeless fashion and adding my own signature flair.”
Are you bringing anything back from your 2023 fall wardrobe? "I am definitely an outfit repeater, so not only will I bring back pieces from my 2023 fall wardrobe, but I also have so many oldies but goodies that I’ll be incorporating into my fall 2024 looks. I think that's what really helps convey my personal style; buying pieces I genuinely love and being able to work them into my style season after season. It's all about longevity and staying true to what I love."
Alasia Allen, Los Angeles
Provocative
Alasia describes her style in three words: “Opulent, sleek, provocative.”
The fashion item Alasia anticipates wearing the most this fall: “I’m really into gloves this season. Whether it’s biker style or long, sleek, leather gloves, they add an interesting take to a fall look.”
The fall colors catching Alasia’s eye: “I’m loving navy or a super deep purple this season so I’ll be adding those into my wardrobe. They’re both so sophisticated and a good alternative to black.”
The fall staple Alaisa plans to bring back from her 2023 wardrobe: “Every year, I wear a shearling coat. It’s timeless, it’s warm, it’s my thing. There’s something very elevating about shearlings that have drawn to me year after year, and that’s what makes them my favorite style of outwear.”
The accessory that has Alasia in a chokehold this season: “Boots. I love a good boot as my go-to accessory for the fall/winter season. My favorites are boots that have a little flair to them and an interesting shape.”
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