

The Original Queen of Comedy has also now officially taken the crown when it comes to our summer #fitgoals.
Hide your husbands, hide your boyfriends, ladies, because Mo'Nique has a list of fitness goals that have had her snatched all summer, and she and her trainer did not come to play. The comedian recently took to Instagram to share that she's reached yet another fitness milestone on her road to wellness. She explained:
"When [my trainer] first brought me out to this track, he would let me walk half and then I had to run. I said to him, 'One day, I want to be able to run around this track twice without stopping.' Well, today was that day. I made it around this track twice without stopping."
Abuse comes in all shapes and forms. There's physical abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse and sometimes, some of the most damaging trauma can come by way of self-harm. When we're talking about the intentional sabotage of self, I don't just mean cutting out alcohol and substance abuse. Food can also be a weapon of self-harm that has the potential to be deadly, and Mo'Nique learned this firsthand after starring in Precious in 2009 when at the time, she says that she weighed more than 300 pounds.
It really doesn't matter how many people are rooting for you if you aren't in your own damn corner, and this is especially true when it comes to making a decision to live a healthy lifestyle. Although her husband, Sidney, tried his hardest to get a handle on her unhealthy eating habits, Mo says that change wasn't an option until she wanted it for herself.
Over the past few years, Mo'Nique has been candid about her personal journey to healing when it comes to both her physical and emotional health, and has lost more than 110 pounds as a result of her hard work.
"Since I was 17 years old, I've been over 200 pounds. Today was the first time in my adult life that I've been under 200 pounds, so I wanted to let you all know it's possible and you can do it and we can get there."
While in the past, some have speculated that Mo' went under the knife to achieve her results, she says that the proof is in the practice. The easiest way to form a habit is to maintain it consistently, and Mo'Nique learned that she had to make a habit out of not quitting on herself.
"I'm telling y'all, if you don't quit on you, you'll get what you're asking for. Just don't quit on you. It doesn't come overnight. It doesn't come through no magic potion or a special wand or processed boxed meals from a weight loss program. It comes from right here [pointing to her heart]."
According to the CDC, Black women have a higher rate of obesity than any other demographic. Four in five black women in this country are at risk of stroke, heart disease, and hypertension, and that's not okay. Mo'Nique has this message for women who say they'll start their fitness journey "tomorrow":
"When I got up this morning, and I read some of y'all's post and y'all say 'Mo, that looks amazing girl and I'm gonna start tomorrow and I'm gonna start next week and I'm gonna start when I get over this or over that,' then you may never get to your start date. Your start date may be 10 years from now and now your health is in poor shape and now you become a burden on your family."
The goal was never to be skinny, sis. Securing the bag is a mood, but sometimes the bag is your health. Secure that, too.
"I say that to you all because it's real. This is no joke. I show you all what I'm doing. It ain't no lie, y'all watch my weight go up and down, up and down, because it's no joke. Get out and move!"
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Taylor "Pretty" Honore is a spiritually centered and equally provocative rapper from Baton Rouge, Louisiana with a love for people and storytelling. You can probably find me planting herbs in your local community garden, blasting "Back That Thang Up" from my mini speaker. Let's get to know each other: @prettyhonore.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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How Power Women Protect Their Finances With Smart Money Boundaries
No matter what it is, setting boundaries can be challenging, especially when those boundaries involve money. But if you want to sustain success and financial freedom, boundaries are important, both with yourself and with others.
Many wealthy successful women have mastered setting boundaries and prioritizing accountability so that they can ensure they remain that way. Let's face it: If you want a certain quality of life and you work hard to achieve that, you don't want to risk it by taking on habits that jeopardize your financial stability.
Be inspired to not only set money boundaries but keep them by taking heed to the common financial boundaries power women of today establish:
1. They pay themselves first.
Building consistent savings habits is important to wealth-building no matter how much you earn, and the practice is often one that continues even after you're well-booked and well-paid. Actress, producer, and philanthropist Queen Latifah has always been a proponent of this after learning from her mom to "save your money."
This is the epitome of the energy behind paying yourself first. You squirrel something away and take care of yourself by taking care of your future first, before paying any bills. You invest in yourself (within your means and with a budget in mind, of course).
2. They don't loan money without clear repayment rules and expectations are agreed upon.
It's awesome to be able to help people out by loaning them money, but when you don't communicate clearly about repayment (or what will happen if the money is not repaid) you set yourself up for a cycle of taking on other's debts and maybe even building more debt of your own.
Unless you're doing charity, set those boundaries early about when and how a loan will be repaid. And if you know you won't get the money back, rethink the loan altogether.
3. They create budgets that are realistic and reflect their current lifestyle.
In her book, What I Know for Sure, Oprah Winfrey wrote, “I hope the way you spend your money is in line with the truth of who you are and what you care about.” This is key for many successful women, especially when they're budgeting and investing.
Issa Rae told Money.com, "I don’t splurge just because. I will never have 17 cars. I will never have expensive jewelry. I don’t spend that much on my clothes, or shoes. I will spend money on a stylist, and a makeup artist, because those things feel necessary for work. But material things? No."
There's a clear indication that there are clear value systems sustained by what matters to them no matter how much they make, and budgeting is a huge part of that.
4. They consider the long-term effects of a rash purchase before proceeding.
It's totally okay to treat yourself, but if you find yourself impulsively buying things you don't really need or always living check to check because you've maxed out your credit card to take that sixth trip in one year, there's a problem that might put a damper on those financial freedom plans. (That is unless your trip is part of how you make your money, and it's a worthy investment into expanding your prospects.)
Successful women are conscious of the long- and short-term effects of purchases, small and large. They're always thinking about how one action can impact the bigger picture.
5. They are givers and believe in the reciprocity of that.
Many of us are familiar with the famous quote, "To whom much is given, must is required," and there's that undertone of service and charity that is a common thread for wealthy, successful women, especially those who run businesses or lead brands. Involving yourself in acts of service not only enriches your development and that of communities, but it increases your exposure, network, and credibility, often leading to more opportunities to make more money.
Most leading CEOs, entrepreneurs, and professionals are big on giving back, whether it is through resources, a nonprofit, money, or their time. "As you become more successful, it's important for you to give back. Even if you can't financially give back, kind words and sharing about other businesses on social media mean so much. Every little thing counts. Help out your friends and family with advice, encouragement, and support," said Angela Yee, award-winning radio host and entrepreneur.
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Originally published on August 16, 2024