Monica Shares The Key To Repairing Her Friendship With Brandy & The Evolution Of Their Relationship
R&B icons Brandy andMonica's recent collaboration on Ariana Grande's reimagined "The Boy Is Mine" remix holds special significance for the singers, as it helped heal their long-standing rift.
The veteran performers, who have spent over three decades in the entertainment industry, initially worked together in 1998 on the original “The Boy Is Mine” track. The song became a massive hit, selling over 4.5 million copies worldwide and winning a Grammy Award for Best R&B Performance by a Duo or Group.
However, despite its success, reports surfaced of a feud between Brandy and Monica. Initially, the cause of their tension remained unclear, but over time, it emerged that competition in similar markets and rumors had strained their relationship.
Over the years, Brandy and Monica tried to mend their relationship by teaming up on the 2012 track “It All Belongs to Me '' and reuniting for a 2020 Verzuz battle, an online competition series. In an interview with Entertainment Tonight, Monica reflected on reconnecting with Brandy and how their relationship has evolved.
Monica On New Collaboration With Brandy
During the discussion, the 43-year-old disclosed that their collaboration on Ariana's single led her and Brandy to realize their long-standing rift had primarily stemmed from miscommunication.
"The process of the new collaboration did a lot of closing the gaps," she said. "When you properly communicate, something -- you can find not only the resolutions and solutions to problems -- but sometimes you find that there weren't ever problems, just consistent miscommunications. It made it a lot easier just to talk.”
Monica acknowledged that all parties involved had contributed to prolonging the feud.
"It was not something that I would say was anyone's fault. We all added to it, and after a while, it became real, " she stated.
Monica On How Her Relationship With Brandy Has Evolved
Further into the conversation, the “Love All Over Me” vocalist revealed that she and Brandy had learned the importance of nurturing their friendship away from external influences following their exchange.
"It's over now. And it took a very adult conversation. There's no shame in saying that,” she said. “We had to come to that place and to that moment that we had, that allowed us to sit here today. That had to happen first. We recognized that the key was to keep other people out of our relationship, both business and personal, and let it be between she and I, and that has changed everything. It's changed the trajectory of it in its totality."
Toward the end of the segment, Monica credited Ariana for helping the duo reconcile their relationship while highlighting another bonding moment she and Brandy shared on set.
"My son was in the hospital the other day and she was who I was speaking to while he was there, so I think that is what Ariana has done that she may not even realize. But this time, I thank God for growth and change and just becoming a mom and experiencing a lot of what I have and learning to properly communicate,” she stated.
Ariana’s “The Boy Is Mine” remix featuring Brandy and Monica is out now.
Ariana Grande, Brandy, Monica - the boy is mine (Remix) (Official Lyric Video)
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How This New Bond Repair Line Transformed One Mother's Postpartum Shedding Into The Ultimate Curl Comeback
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'ACross Generations With Tiffany Cross' Gets Real About Daddy Issues In Latest Episode
In this week’s episode of ACross Generations with Tiffany Cross, a podcast where Black women from different generations tackle pressing subjects while sharing their experiences. The show's host, Tiffany Cross, along with guests Dr. Joy Ellington and Ariel B., delved into how their relationships with their fathers have influenced their personal lives.
An absent parent or a strained parent-child relationship, particularly between fathers and their children, can significantly affect an individual's life trajectory, especially their perception and formation of interpersonal relationships.
Research suggests that individuals grappling with paternal absence or conflict may exhibit various traits, including a constant need for validation, difficulty in communicating through problems, using sex to gain attention, and struggles with trust and abandonment, to name a few.
Historically, society has often associated absentee fathers primarily with the Black community. However, a recent study has challenged this narrative.
In a clip shared on the podcast's official Instagram account, Dr. Joy Ellington revealed insights into her quest for approval, a pattern she attributed to her strained relationship with her biological father—a dynamic that remained unresolved until his untimely passing.
"When people are seeking validation from someone else, be it from a father or whoever, you're weakened, she said. "You've given the control of your life to someone else, to their discretion. I can't afford to do that because I only have -- one life."
Despite the complex relationship with her biological father, Dr. Joy Ellington disclosed that she found the love and sense of wholeness she had been missing through her bond with her stepfather.
Further in the video, Ariel B., who was adopted and never met her biological father, reveals her struggle to differentiate between sex and love.
"I know that I struggle separating sex with love very bad," she stated. "I have girlfriends all the time that are just like, 'Oh, knock the dust off!' That sounds terrible. Just use it when you want to."
In response to this admission, Tiffany echoed Ariel B.'s sentiment, suggesting that understanding one's sexual behavior requires examining the underlying intentions.
"I'm actually a little envious. You're not trying to resolve some daddy issues. Like maybe you just have agency over your sexuality, and this is what you like to do,” she said.
Toward the end of the clip, Dr. Joy Ellington revealed that her upbringing in a predominantly male environment, coupled with her experiences with her biological father, has made it challenging for her to express emotions.
"I had a great aunt that had seven sons. I lived my life with them," she said. "It's hard for me to cry. I don't mind. I was never going to be that beggy woman. I don't need you, but I don't let the desire to dictate my feelings."
Discussions on these topics are crucial within the Black community because it allows individuals to uncover their traumas' root causes and begin the healing process.
For those interested in exploring this subject further, the full episode of Across Generations with Tiffany Cross is available now on its official YouTube page.