In Meet the xoNecole Tribe, readers are introduced to the members of the xoNecole team that keep the site up and running with their textured and varied stories and voices. In the monthly series, you get a more in-depth look of the person behind the pen, social media, the lens, or whatever they might contribute to the brand.
For our inaugural feature in the series, we are highlighting a writer that first made a splash on the site with her candid retelling of how choosing to take a risk and dating for potential in love ultimately led to the love of her life in her husband (Y'all can read that here). And as instantly as we were captivated, so were our readers.
Without further adieu, meet Kandice Guice, the self-proclaimed attorney by day, writer by passion who writes all things love, relationships, wellness, and everything in between.
Writer Kandice Guice
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Where are you from?
I was born in Los Angeles, California and raised in Monroe, Louisiana.
What did you go to school for? And what was your major?
I obtained my undergrad degree in Mass Communication from the University of Louisiana at Monroe. I later went on to receive my Master of Public Administration from the Nelson Mandela School of Public Policy at Southern University and my law degree from Southern University Law Center.
When did your love affair with writing begin?
Since I can remember, I've had an intimate love affair with writing. I'd write poems, stories, and journal entries to cope with familial transitions and issues I faced at school. By fifth grade, I was writing content and pitching it to my teacher. I'd ask him to review my writing, then ask if I could read or act it out in class. The kids loved it! And my teacher started gently nudging me toward considering writing as my career path rather than my original idea of being a veterinarian. High school came and writing was it for me. Classmates would ask me to pass them my stories to read when class was too boring for them. I was getting published in the local newspaper, winning writing contests, and even getting scholarships based on my pieces.
"Since I can remember, I've had an intimate love affair with writing."
How and when did you start working with xoNecole.com?
I told a friend I was starting a blog. After hearing my vision, she thought it aligned well with xoNecole.com and encouraged me to check it out. I was so in love with the theme that I started dreaming of working with the brand. A few months passed, and I sent my first pitch but didn't hear back. After that, I made it a point to study the style of the pieces and keep up with the writers. I also reached out to other freelance writers to get their feedback on how I could sharpen my approach. I finally got the courage to pitch another idea. Our Managing Editor, Sheriden, loved it and invited me to become a contributing writer.
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How do you practice self-care?
Playing dress up is my favorite form of self-care. I strongly believe that when you look good, you feel good. On days when I'm stressed or frustrated, I cut on some 90s R&B while I do my makeup and pick out cute outfits. Taking the time to get glam shifts my mood and makes me feel empowered to handle whatever comes my way.
"Taking the time to get glam shifts my mood and makes me feel empowered to handle whatever comes my way."
Are you single?
I'm blessed to be married to Bakari Guice. We've been on this marriage journey for a year and a half, and it has been the most rewarding experience I could've asked for. The ability to see our individual and collective growth is remarkable. Plus, it doesn't hurt to wake up to the coolest friend you know every day.
What are your interests? Do you have any hobbies?
I'm involved in so many things that I barely have time to even think about hobbies. But if I had to list a few, they would include travel, reading, online shopping, and spending time with family. Right now, I am experiencing a mental growth spurt and it's sparked my interests in self-development. I like to feed that appetite by reading non-fiction and having engaging conversations that stretch my thought process and viewpoint.
What is your favorite book of all-time? What's the last book you read?
It's tough for me to narrow down the full gamut of books I've enjoyed into a favorite of all time, but anything written by Toni Morrison is a fave. Although fictional, they include themes that make me more self-aware. The last book I read was The Four Agreements. I can't say enough how everyone should read it. It's been life changing for my perspective about how I view myself and others.
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What's your endgame? Why do you do what you do?
I couldn't tell you my endgame. I don't think anyone who intends to be habitually successful really can. So much of climbing is based on reinventing yourself, staying sharp, and remaining flexible that it's impossible to just name one thing and stick to it. For me, the sky is the limit. If I had to answer what's up next for me, I would definitely say getting to a space where I can expand my role at xoNecole, delving into video/having my own show, and turning my #MoreThanPrettyCampaign into a national movement, which shifts the world's perspective on female leadership.
I do what I do for my mother and grandmother who have virtually eliminated any excuse for why I can't be anything I want in this life. I also do it to show multipassionate women and girls that they have a right to explore all the things that make them happy and interest them. There is a such thing as being an attorney and a blogger or a stockbroker and a stylist. The sky is the limit. I hope by seeing me do my own thing, they are inspired to break out of the box others try to build around us.
What is the most rewarding part of your job? What is the most challenging part?
The most rewarding part of my job as a writer is being able to tell stories and relay information from the perspective of a black woman. We make up a powerful demographic of this country and this world. Our voice, our thoughts, our feelings matter in the big scheme of things. Being able to write pieces that connect to women like me makes me feel like our love is on top.
The most challenging part is thinking through new innovative ways to capture the attention of readers. With so much white noise out there, it isn't always easy to get someone to click on an article, even if it's relevant. I'm always trying to come up with new ways to get viewers to stop and take note.
"Being able to write pieces that connect to women like me makes me feel like our love is on top."
What advice do you have for other freelance writers?
In this digital age, your personal brand is so important. Go the extra mile to show brands what you can do by having a great website and investing in yourself. Put in the effort to work hard for yourself and others will pay attention. Aside from that, I'd say stay in the fight. Don't take your first no or even a thousand no's as a sign to quit. It doesn't matter how many no's you get. You only need one yes to make the difference.
How can we keep up with you on social media?
You can follow me across all social networks @kandiceguice.
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
Couples, if you are ready to do the work and invest in your relationship register for A Weekend For Love: Heart Retreat Feb 21-23, 2025.
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Celebrity Hairstylist Cliff Vmir On Social Media Success & How To Pivot Following Looming TikTok Ban
It’s the year 2025, newspaper ads, radio ads, billboards, posters - OUT. And you know what’s in? Social media. I mean, this clearly isn’t just a 2025 thing, but have you ever sat back and thought about the unprecedented rise of the “social media influencer?” Gone are the days when the marketing we relied on came from traditional sources. Everyday people have become some of the best marketers in today’s world.
You could even say, personality is the best marketing tool of today. xoNecole caught up with celebrity hairstylist and CEO of haircare line FEMMÉ, Cliff Vmir, who was ahead of the game as one of the first entrepreneurs to successfully use social media to promote his business.
Cliff started his hairstyling journey at 13, and by 15, he was already using Instagram to show off his skills. His talent, unique style, and effervescent personality earned him a strong social media presence. Taking Instagram by the reins while most of us were posting cringe-worthy selfies or blurry shots of a night out, his foresight has earned him some big celebrity clients, from Cardi B to Jazmine Sullivan, and a booming business.
While speaking to xoNecole, the “King of Hair” reflected on his rise to social media stardom.
“I would say I’m one of the world's first hairstylists to ever really take social media by storm and use it as a marketing tool at such a young age,” he tells us.
“No one was really utilizing Instagram for their business...But I wanted to use that as a showcase to show my work. I used my age as a good marketing tool, with me being 15 at the time and me really knowing how to do hair very well. My hashtag was #cliffvmirthe15yearoldstylist.”
The last few years have seen Instagram face new competition with the emergence of TikTok because of the variety of content available and how easy it is for creators to go viral and find fame. Cliff told us why TikTok is the app he’s loving right now.
“I just feel like TikTok has that algo of what Instagram used to have when Instagram first hit the scene. Like it is so easy to go viral or to get discovered...It's like, as long as you're staying consistent, you'll eventually fall in the algo,” he explains.
“People are making full-blown careers just off of TikTok. And it's just something about that TikTok Shop. It's its own kind of Amazon situation.” And it seems the feeling is mutual. Cliff recently teamed up with TikTok and spilled the tea on their partnership.
I just feel like TikTok has that algo of what Instagram used to have when Instagram first hit the scene. Like it is so easy to go viral or to get discovered...It's like, as long as you're staying consistent, you'll eventually fall in the algo
“I've been doing some partnership live streams with them…I've been up to the TikTok headquarters doing live streams and connecting with my fans and doing a whole live buying/shopping experience…they do things for the creators to keep the creators engaged,” he says.
The mega stylist recently went viral on TikTok with sales from his haircare line FEMMÉ skyrocketing.
“Right now, our store has sold over 23,000 units…I've never even sold this amount of units within a year. So like I said, TikTok is definitely one of those things that pushes you to the forefront,” he shares.
“And I'm just thankful...I'm thankful for the people over at TikTok who stand behind me, for the supporters on TikTok that are actually buying my product, and all my return customers as well.”
Time is running out for the clock app with the looming TikTok ban that’s set for January 19. What will this mean for creators, influencers, and everyday users?
Personally, I’m not looking forward to losing all my saved hair and makeup tutorials. And how will I plan my trip itineraries without checking “black girls + (city)” or “(city) + nightlife + black people”? #freetiktok
@iamcliffvmir Lol this my ish tho😭
Cliff shares his thoughts. “I just feel like we’re going to have to go back to the basics, which is Instagram. And I'm just going to really have to create a very strategic…But you'll just see me being more active everywhere,” he says.
“Of course, TikTok is where it is…I'm going to be active everywhere else - X, Facebook, and Instagram. I really hope they don't ban it, that would really hurt my feelings.”
#shadowbanthetiktokban, am I right? The “Hair OG” also gave us some tips and tricks for aspiring creators and entrepreneurs.
“If they're going to social media as a business, then just stay consistent, keep posting business things, and just make sure that you're keeping up with just certain trends and you're following people who you aspire to be…That's first,” he says.
“Number two is you should never be scared to get in front of the camera and make the content…It’s like a marketing tool for yourself. And then using the hashtags like #FYP and #viral, and hashtags that really can drive consumers to watch your videos.”
As a longtime celebrity hairstylist, Cliff knows all things hair-related. So what can we look forward to in 2025? A new look, perhaps? Here’s the hair trends predicted for this year.
“We're definitely going to see less wigs. We're going to see more leave-outs. We're going to see a lot more natural hair flourishing,” he reveals.
“I feel like that is really important. Yes, you can wear a wig, weave all day long, but what about the natural hair underneath? I kind of see some things remaining, though as far as things like closure installs. But hair is going to start being more natural again…It's going to revert to how it was in 2015 and 2016.”
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