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I don't know who needs to hear this, but that break-up wasn't meant to break you. Whether it be a relationship, career path, or former friend, there were some things you were forced to let go of in the New Year and I'm here to remind you that there is always a "good" in goodbye. Just ask Lizzo, who in a recent interview with Rolling Stone, opened up about how her last heartbreak ended up being a catalyst to her success.

In previous interviews, Lizzo has pretty much given us a comprehensive guide on how to spot a fuckboy in sheep's clothing. Nonetheless, there was one who slipped under her radar, broke her heart, and ultimately triggered her to seek therapy and activate the "Juice" she needed to become that bitch. She told the publication:

"As fucked up as it sounds, I needed that heartbreak experience. I'm not sad, because I use the pain so constructively. It's inevitable. The pain is human experience."

Although one of her long-term goals has always been to remain fuckboy-free, Lizzo says that her last serious relationship caught her by surprise. It wasn't until later that the singer learned that her formula for finding the love of her life wasn't quite accurate at all. She explained:

"How can you be in love with someone when you're not even you?"

Between feeling the brunt of heartbreak, her newfound fame, and approaching the 10-year anniversary of her father's death, Lizzo suffered an emotional breakdown last spring that led her to seek professional help. Despite her initial apprehension to the experience, Lizzo said that her work in therapy has allowed her to become both a better person to the ones she loves and ultimately, a better performer:

"That was really scary. But being vulnerable with someone I didn't know, then learning how to be vulnerable with people that I do know, gave me the courage to be vulnerable as a vocalist."

After a bad break-up, it's important to remember that the frogs you've kissed have only gotten you closer to your happily ever after. While Lizzo once saw her future as a life with "no children and two friends," now that time has passed, she's now more optimistic about what's to come:

"It's different now. Like my relationship with my family, I'm working on that. I open myself up to friendships. I open myself up to the idea of children, which is big for me, 'cause my albums are my babies."

In the interview, Lizzo also opened up about quitting Twitter, and learning that a clapback isn't always necessary. While Lizzo may not be everyone's cup of tea, she didn't come to sugar coat shit:

"Look, I'm new. You put two plates of food in front of people, [and] one is some fried chicken. If you like fried chicken that's great. And the other is, like, fried ostrich pussy. You not gonna want to fuck with that. We eventually get used to everything. So people just gon' have to get used to my ass."

To read the full interview, click here!

Featured image by Instagram/Lizzo.

 

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