
Libra is the definition of love. They are ruled by Venus herself, the planet of love, and they put a lot of focus on this area of their life as well.
Libra in Love & Relationships
A Libra in a relationship is one of the best partners to have, as they put their relationships first in life. They provide a lot of value and care into their relationships, and love itself means everything to them. They love the feeling of being in a partnership with someone and mirroring each other and are the example of two becoming one. With Venus being the planetary ruler of both Libra and Taurus, Libra effortlessly matches Venusian energy.
Venus is all about love, beauty, harmony, sex, creativity, and attraction. The power of attraction for Libra is strong, and this is a flirty sign that doesn’t have a problem meeting someone or attracting love into their life.
There are two types of Libras when it comes to love. A Libra in a relationship and a Libra in a situationship. Some Libras do have a pattern of not committing and having a more flaky or laissez-faire attitude in their relationships.
That’s not to say they aren’t completely loving and romantic in the process, but they may not be the first ones to bring up making the relationship official, let's just say that. On the other side, there are also those Libras that have planned out their wedding day since they were a child and are serial daters. Let’s not forget that Libra rules the 7th house, which is the house of marriage. You will often always find a Libra in a relationship and they are that perfect spouse someone is looking for.
Either way, a Libra almost always has someone in their vicinity, and if they don’t, they won't feel like themselves. This doesn’t mean they are the most committed sign of the zodiac, as a Libra will run free and have its fun unless they are really at that place in their life to commit.
Libra Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Love Matches in the Zodiac
All in all, Libras are the type of partner to wow you. They will take note of everything you like, dislike, enjoy, love, and will make it their mission to provide that for you. They want to meet you where you are and will shower you with a type of love and affection that is truly unforgettable. They are genuine with the affection they show, and they will always consider their partners' thoughts, values, and interests.
Libras are one of the best romantic partners to have, however, read below to see what signs Libras are most compatible with.
Who Are Libras Most Compatible With?
Libra + Aries Love Compatibility
Libra and Aries are the definitions of opposites attract. They are sister signs of the zodiac and are on complete opposite sides of the zodiac wheel. They have a magnetic attraction toward each other and they often don’t know why or where it is coming from. Libra and Aries are very different from each other but they give and take where needed. This pairing is that of yin and yang, and when they are in balance with each other this is a very fulfilling partnership.
Libra gives Aries the love and attention they crave but don’t always necessarily express, and Aries helps Libra feel empowered and focused. Not to mention, they are both cardinal signs and will have a lot of fun and passion in the relationship, especially in the beginning.
Libra + Taurus Love Compatibility
Libra and Taurus is a match you wouldn’t expect right away, but they actually go together pretty well. Being both ruled by Venus, the planet of love, they both have expectations in a relationship that they can meet. They deeply align with their values in life and will bring a lot of care, dedication, and warmth into this relationship. This couple loves to do nothing together or spend their time in leisure activities which makes for a fun and relaxing partnership.
However, their differences arise when it comes to communication style, and Taurus can be too stubborn for Libra’s more easygoing demeanor. They may often question each other and think too much into things which can lead to the downfall of the partnership. All in all, this couple has Venus on their side and this relationship can definitely work and be filled with love.
Libra + Gemini Love Compatibility
Libra and Gemini are a match made in heaven. If anyone can handle a Gemini, it is a Libra, and they would do so happily. Libras see something in Gemini that most don’t, and they are often very intrigued by them. When these two come together, it’s easy for them to get on the same page and they flow through life with a type of unique synergy.
Being both air signs, they don’t take things too seriously so commitment within this pairing may be a little difficult, but if they both are at that place in life then it would definitely be a different story. Overall, this is one of Libra’s best matches in the zodiac, and this is a very exciting, thoughtful, and communicative pairing.
Libra + Cancer Love Compatibility
Libra and Cancer compatibility is hit or miss. Libra and Cancer have a lot in common, however, how they go about things is completely different. Libra and Cancer are both the type of partners to give. This energy is beneficial however, it can lead to some laziness in the relationship and not a lot of progress as they both don’t want to rock the boat. Libra needs love and affection which Cancer provides, but Cancer needs stability and emotional security, which may be too tight-knit for free spirit Libra. Cancer thinks with their emotions, Libra with their head, so they will often have to find the middle ground in the relationship in order to be on the same page.
Libra + Leo Love Compatibility
Libra and Leo are a notoriously good match in Astrology. They often tend to have an instant connection and attraction toward each other, and this pairing can go the distance. The compatibility of Libra and Leo together is that of a couple who are both best friends and lovers. Their energy and connection are unmatched, and they have a good rapport. With both of these individuals enamored by love, they love to have fun, be out and about, and this relationship tends to be more flashy than most. Public displays of affection are likely with this couple, not to mention they often just look good together and are a couple that people want to be around.
Libra + Virgo Love Compatibility
Libra and Virgo are a couple that you wouldn’t immediately think of going together, however, you do see this pairing often as well. What works in this connection is their mindset and modes of communication. Both signs are very logical which makes for great conversation and inspiring each other, however, this relationship can get stale or stagnant if there is nothing else being brought to the table other than good conversation. Virgo requires more stability than Libra, and Libra isn’t the easiest sign to get to settle down. Virgo loves a mission, however, after a while, these two may realize they have more that’s keeping them apart rather than together.
Libra + Libra Love Compatibility
Surprisingly, this is a very common duo. Now, most signs can not do the same sign relationship thing, as this energy can get competitive and to be honest, kind of boring sometimes. However, Libra is the exception here as a Libra and Libra duo is often a sexy surprise. The thing about Libra is that they mirror people. They see themselves in others and will match the energy of people. So it’s not hard to see why a Libra would be attracted to dating someone similar to themselves, as they already feel like they are one with the person they are in a relationship with. Although this relationship may get shaky in the long haul and they both will have to put in the work, there is something enticing about a Libra and Libra match and they are both drawn to each other.
Libra + Scorpio Love Compatibility
A Libra and a Scorpio relationship can be sexy or scary and there is really no in-between here. Libra and Scorpio, although next to each other on the zodiac wheel, have really nothing in common. They are both more relationship-oriented which is a plus, however, Scorpio’s power-focused mindset tends to make Libra’s balanced-focused mindset feel uneasy. Scorpio can be too abrasive for Libra as Libra likes things sweet and soft, whereas Scorpio is all about being bold and passionate. It’s hard to get these two on the same page, and although they will probably respect each other and admire each other in different ways, air and water energy aren't the easiest to come together and this compatibility isn’t the best.
Libra + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
A Libra and Sagittarius pairing is a power couple. Sagittarius broadens the mind of a Libra and takes them places they never thought they would be. Sagittarius and Libra both value their space and freedom, which is why this relationship is full of lightness, ease, laughter, and humility. They aren’t ones to take things too seriously, however, and this could be more of a fling than a long-term partnership. If they do see each other working out in the future and aligning with their life goals, then this will work, but they both need to check in often within this relationship to make sure they are still on the same page and have the same intentions for the relationship.
Libra + Capricorn Love Compatibility
The compatibility of a Libra and Capricorn is better than most air and earth sign duos. This is because both Libra and Capricorn enjoy the finer things in life, and have a refined nature of going about things and about their expectations in a relationship. Capricorn values tradition and Libra values things such as love, marriage, and partnership, which makes it easy for this couple to set goals within the relationship and evolve together. Capricorn may be too cold for Libra at times and Libra too up in the air for Capricorn, but they will find that their weaknesses are often each other's strengths and they can learn a lot from each other in this relationship.
Libra + Aquarius Love Compatibility
Libra and Aquarius give off soulmate energy. They both need a lot of the same things in a relationship and they don’t have to put that much energy into making it work since they already have such a good connection, to begin with. This couple has a lot of fun together and they are also the type of couple to still hang out with their friends; you can find them often hanging out with other couples as well. They are all about sharing the love and this relationship tends to be a progressive one. Libra definitely meets their match here when it comes to commitment in the relationship, however, and it can be hard to define this relationship. All in all, this is one of Libra's best matches for a partner.
Libra + Pisces Love Compatibility
A Libra and Pisces relationship can get messy. There is an attraction there, however, it’s often very hard for them to understand each other. Libra and Pisces both tend to be pacifists and this can make the relationship of a couple who are very nice and kind to each other, but they both might not be getting what they need to thrive and grow together. Kind gestures only go so far, and if the energy isn’t right or Pisces isn’t feeling that excitement or mystery in the relationship, then Pisces tends to lose interest and wander off. It can be hard to keep up with each other and this compatibility will only work if it is meant to.
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This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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How To Avoid Being An Emotionally Impulsive Spender This Holiday Season
Geeze. Can you believe that we are just a few days out from another Christmas? Yeah, me neither. In fact, because I’m not a holidays person myself (check out “So, What If You Don't Observe Holidays?”), it wasn’t until one of my clients was venting about how stressed out she was due to all of the holiday season procrastinating that she had been doing that I realized just how fast December is actually flying by.
If, like her, you’re feeling frazzled because, although you told yourself last year that you weren’t going to wait until the last minute to “handle your business,” you ended up doing exactly that, fret not. I’ve got 10 tips that can keep you from making emotionally-triggered decisions as far as your financial expenses are concerned. Merry Christmas. #wink
1. Create a Budget. Stick to It.
GiphyBudgets, boy. I recently read that one of the reasons why they don’t work for a lot of people is because many folks don’t have a clue about how much money they spend on a monthly basis to begin with. SMDH. That said, at the end of the day, it’s important to remember that a budget is simply setting boundaries/limits on your spending — and being intentional about moving in this fashion is always a wise move; especially when it comes to this time of the year…especially being that it’s typical for half of all Americans to take on some type of holiday season debt with 17 percent needing six (or more) months to pay it off.
Know what can prevent this kind of financial chaos? A SPENDING BUDGET. Tips for how to create one of your own this year can be found here.
2. Never Shop When You’re Stressed or Pressed
GiphyYou know how they say that it’s not a good idea to go grocery shopping when you’re hungry? Although the holiday season can be a stressful time, avoid shopping for gifts (or décor or food for recipes) when you are feeling stressed out or pressed for time. More times than not, that cultivates anxiety which could cause you to either purchase things that you don’t really want or to spend money that you don’t really have (P.S. If you’re relying on credit cards, that qualifies as money that you don’t really have. Just sayin’).
3. Don’t Keep Up with the Joneses
GiphyKnow something else that can stress you out: trying to keep up with the Joneses. And y’all, now that we have social media, the reality is that envy is at an all-time high. That’s because it can be really easy to watch holiday engagements, holiday trips and folks bragging about the things that they’ve received in times past, only for you to find yourself wishing that you were them — or putting pressure on yourself and those in your world to keep up.
Listen, it is King Solomon who once said, “So are the ways of everyone who is greedy for gain; It takes away the life of its owners” (Proverbs 1:19 — NKJV) and “A sound heart is life to the body, but envy is rottenness to the bones” (Proverbs 14:30 — NKJV) and he’s considered to be the wisest man who ever lived (during his time — I Kings 4:30). Yeah, both of these verses are a spiritual reminder that whatever you are planning to do or give, do it out of the goodness of your heart — not so that you can low-key “outdo” the next guy.
4. No Need to “Tit-for-Tat”
GiphyThis one might be a bit controversial yet I’m totally okay with that. I don’t care what the occasion is, no one is OWED a present. A gift is a voluntary token of one’s appreciation or affection. That said, if you decide to give someone a present this year, don’t automatically expect something in return. If you get something, cool. If not, if you were giving for the right reasons, it really shouldn’t matter (RIGHT?). On the flip side, if someone decides to get you something and you don’t have something to offer in return, also cool.
Other than going to someone’s home for a holiday dinner or party, for anyone to feel like they should have something in hand because someone else does…that’s not giving, that’s competing — and that absolutely should not be the spirit that you are in (or around) during this time of year.
Again, a gift is not an obligatory thing. If you’ve always thought otherwise, it’s time to do some serious reprogramming.
5. Avoid the Pressure to Buy for Lots of Adults
GiphyLast month, Newsweek published an article that said it’s wise to not spend a ton of money purchasing gifts for adults. A financial expert in the piece said that it’s best to buy for kids because, more times than not, you’re going to get adults something that they already have a lot of, they don’t really need or they’re not going to use (beyond maybe regifting) anyway.
If you’re not feeling that insight, my take would be to exchange names and set a price cap for the grown folks. I say that because, I don’t think that people ever outgrow wanting something over Christmas. It’s just that the over-the-top energy should be reserved for the kiddies — and even then, the “4-gift rule” (want, need, read, experience) is probably your best bet for them…financially and otherwise.
6. Go for Thoughtful over Expensive
GiphyIt’s kind of wild how much close-to-torture folks send themselves through to purchase gifts that, a good 6-8 months now, most folks aren’t even going to remember. That’s why it’s also a good idea to purpose in your mind to get something thoughtful over expensive.
Honestly, that’s a big part of the reason why Etsy continues to be a go-to for gifts (for every occasion) for me. It’s because you can oftentimes get things customized/personalized which ends up meaning so much more to people than something that you bought at a generic department store that might have a high price tag yet still lacks in sentimentality and deep meaning.
7. Use Coupons and Promo Codes
GiphyCoupons (and promo codes) are a slippery slope in the sense that…they remind me of when I used to go overboard while thrift store shopping. I say that because, just because I might find several bomb dresses for under $20, what am I going to do with 50 of ‘em (over time)? It’s just as much of a waste of money as buying couture if neither option gets much use.
And that’s kind of the thing about coupons and promo codes. Some people end up overspending because they rationalize that so long as there are discounts attached, it’s all good. At the same time, this doesn’t mean that you should forego coupons and promo codes altogether. The key is to put together your shopping list (and budget) and then use discounts specifically for those items. If you do this, you could save well over $1,000 annually (at least, depending on what you decide to buy).
8. Avoid Add-Ons
GiphyYeah. Dodge add-on expenses. Add-ons like what? The first thing that comes to my mind is a warranty. What’s the chance that someone is actually going to need that? Another example is paying for things to be “professionally” gift wrapped. Chile, throw that stuff in a gift bag with some tissue paper and go on about your day. All good.
9. Rethink Gift Cards
GiphyIf there is any time of the year when there is a noticeable hike in gift card purchases, now would be it. And although they are a convenient approach to gift giving, at the same time, many come with hidden fees, the full amount oftentimes goes unused (which ends up being a waste of money) and they do come with expiration dates that are oftentimes forgotten.
So, if you’re someone who likes to wait until the last minute to do your holiday shopping, resist the urge to impulsively pick up a handful of gift cards. Unless it’s to a place that you know someone is going to use within the next few months, they could end up in somebody’s kitchen drawer for the next couple of years. And what a waste that would be.
10. They’ll Get It When They Do. And That’s Okay.

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GiphyOne more. Although it is super thoughtful and proactive to get people their gifts in time for whatever occasion you purchased them for, if trying to reach that goal is going to require paying for rush shipping that is damn near as high as the price of gift or spending a lot of gas money that you don’t have at the moment to drive miles and miles away — take the pressure off to spend a ton of cash just to make sure that something arrives at December 25. Listen, through doing business with Etsy, I have learned that through this administration, there are all sorts of tariff issues going on and the USPS is slower than ever too, so paying more may not guarantee much.
The hack? Send a message that something special is coming…soon enough. The thought really is what counts (more times than not); plus, it builds anticipation of something good coming, even if it’s after all of the Christmas Day hoopla. And no one (with sense) is going to have a problem with that.
Now don’t you feel better? Happy Holiday Shopping, sis.
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