Kelis Recounts The Changes She And Her Family Made On Their Health Journey Before And After Husband’s Death
Singer and entrepreneur Kelis' formula for living a healthy and fulfilling life is boiled down to two simple rules: watching what one consumes regularly and reducing stress.
The 43-year-old recently dropped some gems for her followers as she opened up about what influenced her decision to live on a farm with her family, her healthy eating habits, and how her late husband, Mike Mora, inspired her wellness journey.
Mike, who passed away from stage four stomach cancer on March 14, 2022, was married to Kelis for about eight years. The couple share two children, a son Sheperd Mora, and a daughter Galilee Mora. Kelis also has another son, Knight Jones, who she shares with rapper Nas. On the first anniversary of Mike's passing, Kelis mentioned that her journey living on a farm and growing her own food began long before he was diagnosed with cancer.
Kelis On Living On A Farm And Her Husband Mike's Cancer Diagnosis
In an Instagram video, the "Milkshake" vocalist revealed that the particular moment she realized the importance of eating well and having a healthy lifestyle began when she became pregnant with her daughter Galilee in 2019.
"So lately, lots of people have been asking me how did I get started with my wellness and my farming and kind of all that stuff," Kelis said while addressing her fans. "For me, like really everything started years and years and years ago. Just wanting to eat well, I guess. When I got pregnant, really, that's when I really started to care and think about it."
Kelis shared that as soon as she started incorporating healthy meals and other practices in their lives, Mike was tragically diagnosed with cancer in 2020. "Then my husband Mike got sick. This was a couple of years ago. It was right after we had our youngest, Galilee, and he was diagnosed with stage four stomach cancer... It was just such a shock," she explained.
The mother of three went on to describe how "overwhelming" the entire experience was with Mike going through rounds of chemotherapy and her trying to balance the household.
"We were already eating well and really focused on what we put in our bodies," Kelis stated. "After he [Mike] did eight rounds of chemo which was beyond intense, there were things that we were doing that we saw, like how we're going to get through this period of time? How are we going to get through chemo? I can't even imagine how he was really feeling, but for me, just being a caretaker, being here, being a mom, and being a wife, and all these things just felt so overwhelming."
Further in the conversation, Kelis disclosed that her knowledge of mushrooms and their effectiveness in one's diet expanded while researching methods to help Mike's battle with cancer. During the research process, the pair found various solutions for the disease, which included hyperbaric chambers and ozone therapy.
The Food and Drug Administration reports that hyperbaric oxygen therapy uses hyperbaric chambers, often considered a healthier alternative, to help the individual's "lung collect more oxygen" so that it can combat infected cells.
According to Medical News Today, the purpose of ozone therapy for individuals with cancer is to "increase oxygen levels to fight cancer cells," and it could help reduce the adverse effects of chemotherapy. The site states there is insufficient research to showcase its effectiveness.
Still, Kelis added that while researching, they found out that medical professionals in other countries like Russia, Japan, and Cuba would often group chemotherapy with ozone therapy to help their patients with cancer, something she described as a "game-changing" experience for Mike. But sadly, Mike's cancer would come back and spread.
Shortly after, Kelis and Mike tried finding other alternatives. In that process of continued research, they met the man that created the hyperbaric chamber, who ultimately suggested that they make a particular mushroom recipe and take it regularly.
"So we ended up meeting with this beautiful, brilliant man who actually invented the hyperbaric chamber," she said. "He was just like, 'hey, this is what you need to do.' He gave us a recipe, and it was a list of these mushrooms to start taking. I was like, 'oh, I do this, and I already take this.' He was doing these really potent B12 shots and all this stuff, and he was like, 'No, it's this recipe specifically.' So, what I started doing was, I really started making the recipe myself."
Kelis On Diet And Stress
Near the end of the clip, Kelis emphasized why it is essential to have a good diet. The "Bossy" songstress pointed out that when people go to the hospital to figure out what is going on with their health, they forget that it all starts with what they consume.
"We've gotten so far away from it and just so far removed that we don't know who to trust anymore. We don't know where to go. We go to doctors for things that don't make any sense when really it's like it's our food. It's how we're eating. It's how we're living and breathing and putting our feet in the soil. So I started making brain food for that. Unfortunately, it was late for Mike, but I give it to my kids. I give it to myself." she said.
Another thing Kelis suggested that people need to look out for is stress. In addition to that revelation, the "Caught Out There" singer shared that was the sole reason she and her family moved out to a farm so that they could escape the "angst" that came along with living in a city.
"Just to add that, just a tidbit, stress is--every doctor we saw, every specialist, every nutritionist, every human being we found that had any expertise in this whatsoever was like, 'stress kills,'" Kelis expressed. "I moved to the farm, and we wanted to separate ourselves from all the silly things that had us stressed out and worried and angst and all these things that didn't really matter."
Kelis would wrap it up by saying that these life lessons she's learned within these past few years are the factors as to why she is very vocal about health and supporting farmers, mainly Black farmers because they care about others' well-being.
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Reset Your Relationship: How To Start 2025 Strong With Your Partner
As the calendar turns and a new year unfolds, many of us are laser-focused on our career goals, fitness resolutions, and vision boards that outline the journey to our best selves. But amidst all the planning and self-improvement, have you made room for another important part of your life? Your relationship.
It's easy for couples to fall into a routine, going through the motions and letting their connection sit on autopilot. While comfort is natural in a long-term relationship, it’s important to remember: that what you don’t nurture, eventually fades. So, why not make 2025 the year you reset your relationship? Here’s how to start the year with a renewed bond, reigniting the spark that brought you together.
Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Step 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Step 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
Step 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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New year, new dating style. Courtesy of a former sugar baby.
Being a sugar baby had its (obvious) perks, but the most significant ones didn’t center around the material benefits. To date, I have a bigger appreciation for the lessons I’ve learned and applied them to my dating life.
Dating men of higher social status shortened my tolerance for a lot of things I was convinced were normal. I blamed the universe for attracting undesirable men when it was my fault for allowing undesirable behavior. An interesting dichotomy between those guys and sugar daddies was the treatment I accepted.
It was easier to put my foot down with men of opulence because their privilege meant there was no limit to meeting my desires. Plus, recognizing my own worth made them (the good ones) want to treat me with the same high regard.
I’ll admit you don’t NEED to be an SB to enhance your dating style, but that’s the path I journeyed. It taught me how to be gracefully tough on men based on the simple fact that I’m invaluable. I’ll never convince anyone to be an SB, but feel free to pick a few gems I learned that might take your 2025 dating style to the next level.
Don’t overdo it by showing gratitude.
Let’s stop praising men for the bare minimum.
Yes, it’s okay to make a man feel affirmed but don’t let those affirmations come off too intensely, especially for things that require minimal effort. Don’t tell him about your ex never opening the passenger door for you, don’t brag about him being "The One" because he texted to make sure you got home safely, and most definitely don’t offer up the cat just because he paid a $150 dinner bill (give it because you want to, not out of obligation).
To be honest, I barely even say thank you when a man finds me attractive. “You are so beautiful.” I would respond, “Aww, you’re so sweet.” When he holds the door open, I graze his arm and smile.
Showing too much excitement about the bare minimum strokes his ego and draws a ceiling, which he doesn’t feel he needs to surpass. It tells him you’re not used to regular treatment, so you’ll be grateful for anything. Why do more than necessary? I like my men reflecting at the end of our date, thinking, “What can I do to impress her?”
Don’t stop having manners, though. Just keep it simple and move on.
There’s no such thing as “dating for potential.”
Hold my hand with this one.
There comes a time when the word “potential” shouldn’t be a part of your dating vocabulary. It’s nothing more than the encouragement of false hope. He’s not flaky with time because his schedule is too busy between balancing family and work. It’s because you’re not important enough to prioritize making time for.
He’s not stingy on dates because he’s having a rough time handling all his financial responsibilities. It’s because he’d rather spend his money on things that don’t involve you.
Trust me when I say men don’t date with potential in mind. Many of them hold themselves in very high regard with an “I can do better” mindset, and so should you. There’s A LOT of weight in the saying, “If he wanted to he would.” So stay away from Mr. Shoulda Coulda Woulda because, at the end of the day, he didn’t.
*P.S. If he ever says he doesn’t deserve you, he’s not being sheepishly humble. Take his word for it and run.
Do NOT be afraid to say no.
How many times have you put yourself through something you didn’t want to do based on feeling obligated? You compromised yourself in order to please the person you’re dating because it seemed like the easier option. Let me just remind you of the old saying, “Nothing good in life comes easy.”
I like comparing men to children, not to demean them but to draw similarities. Children often like to push and see how much they can get away with until the parent says no. Once you allow them to get away with one thing, they’ll nudge the limits to see how often they can skate by.
Dating is just like this. Get comfortable giving rejection. It can be an uncomfortable concept for some, so consider saying no and following it with a light reason. For example, “Do you want to come over and watch Netflix?” “No, I don’t feel comfortable going to strangers’ houses.” If his response is anything but understanding with a Plan B, on to the next.
Those boundaries were created to protect you. Any man who respects you will respect them too.
Don’t lay all your cards on the table.
When a man asks, “So what exactly are you looking for?” The vaguest response comes to mind.
It’s a common mistake to think men (not all) ask questions for unselfish reasons. That one, especially, is basically like asking for cheat codes to a game. Describing your idea of a perfect man, dating intentions, etc. allows him to know who he needs to morph himself into in order to get what he wants. Enter love bombing, physical intimacy, delusions of potential, then ghosting.
I’ve said the below on a few first dates and wasn’t surprised by how quickly the guys weeded themselves out.
"I’ve been having fun figuring things out as time goes on. There are times when I love going out to meet new people and times when I love cuddling up on the couch. It depends on how I’m feeling.”
I just said a whole lotta nothing, leaving it up to him to decipher. It’s open-ended, which forces him to show his intentions and let things play out naturally with as little manipulation as possible.
The first date defines how he views you.
This is where all those conversations leading up to this day come into play.
The perfect first date doesn’t only have to consist of 5-star dining and lavish wine collections. Those are merely perks. The perfect first date is valued based on how much effort he put in to show he’s been listening.
You’ve been dropping subtle hints that tulips are your favorite flowers. Did he show up empty-handed? You shared your discomfort with driving to far places at night. Did he book a 9 p.m. reservation somewhere 30 minutes away? You told him about your new venture into veganism. Did he take you to his favorite steakhouse?
These aren’t small things and they’re DEFINITELY not things for you to take on as a challenge. These could be easy signs of a life full of selfishness and laziness if shrugged off by the belief you should be satisfied with him making time for you.
Will taking my advice find you a husband faster? Who knows? But, ultimately, dating isn’t supposed to be an earnest search for a man. It should be a time of personal growth while sorting through experiences to find a partner who will appreciate the valuable woman you are.
Having high standards for yourself doesn’t make you difficult or unreasonable. To the right man, it definitely won’t make you undateable. Like I said before, nothing good in life comes easy.
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