So you’ve been dating your new boo for a few weeks now, and things are going smoothly. Your dates are well-planned, the texting is consistent, and the chemistry is evident. But you’ve started to notice that when it’s time to dive into deeper topics around your shared values, future ambitions, and perspectives on the world, the conversations seem to go… flat. While one part could be due to personal reservations and boundaries, another possible reason could point to the need for the right prompts to promote vulnerability and closeness.
In other words, you might need some help queuing up the intimacy levels.
Cultivating intimacy in relationships is often a gradual process that requires effective communication, empathy, and a willingness to be open and vulnerable with one another.
The beauty in forming deeper levels of intimacy is that it can come in different forms depending on your relationship dynamics. With emotional intimacy, a couple may find themselves forming a connection by sharing their thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities with another person. Through empathy and a sense of mutual understanding, partners are able to become more open and honest with each other and feel safe and accepted in return.
Physical intimacy, on the other hand, involves physical bonding and affection between individuals. In a romantic context, this can include activities like holding hands, hugging, kissing, and sexual intimacy, but can extend beyond romantic relationships and include the caring touch between friends and family members.
While the needs and love languages of each partner may vary, engaging in meaningful conversations, exchanging ideas, and sharing beliefs and a sense of purpose within your relationship can serve as a vital tool to build and strengthen healthy emotional attachment.
7 Intimacy Card Games to Play For Deeper Connection In Your Relationships
Intimacy card games are the latest trend to help fortify relational bonds between your significant other or even close friends. From spicy prompts to insightful conversation starters, you can start pulling back the layers and digging beyond the surface in a fun and meaningful way with this array of intimacy card games.
Let’s Get Deep Card Game
Amazon
Discover the depths of your companion with a set of couple cards designed to spark meaningful conversations. To play, divide the 400 cards into "Ice Breaker," "Deep," and "Deeper" piles, and the initiator of the relationship draws cards from each category for engaging discussions, starting with an ice breaker and progressing to deeper questions.
Love Lingual Level 2: Card Game
Love Lingual
The Love Lingual is a relationship-building tool designed to enhance human connection by prompting meaningful conversations between couples. It offers 150 cards categorized into Family, Intimacy, Couple, Individual, and Past & Future topics, allowing partners to deepen their relationship in various aspects of life. Each question aims to accelerate intimacy and create enjoyable conversations, making it a perfect gift for couples or for use in marriage counseling.
Lulu & You Affection Couples Games
Amazon
Spice up your love life with this date night box game filled with question cards that will ensure better quality time together and a stronger connection. It's not just a game, it's your ticket to laughter, intimacy, and a closer bond!
Drunk in Love: Original Couples Drinking Card Game
Amazon
“Drunk in Love" is the relationship litmus test you've been waiting for. Draw cards, face dares, or take sips; it's like truth or dare but with a twist. Share laughs, secrets, and a couple of drinks — your date night is about to get a whole lot more interesting!
We’re Not Really Strangers - Couples Edition
Amazon
If you’ve ever asked yourself how well you know your partner, this deck will give you the answers you need to unlock new levels and uncover new layers in your partner.
BestSelf Intimacy Deck for Couples
Amazon
Elevate your date nights and dinners with these prompts from BestSelf. Each question will turn small talk into soulful conversations by exploring hopes, dreams, and shared aspirations. This deck is perfect for all relationship stages and will spark those "aha" moments you'll treasure.
I Know Collection Conversation Cards
Amazon
Strengthen your relationship's foundation with these couples’ conversation cards. Whether you're newlyweds or seasoned lovebirds, these cards make communication a breeze and are perfect for date nights or just a cozy evening in.
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Skylar sees things differently. At the time, she was shooting content on her iPhone. Temi came into the picture with a new perspective, an understanding of tech, and, eventually, a camera. “He doesn't give himself enough credit,” Skylar says. “He wasn't just my tripod. He wasn't just standing behind the camera and going ‘click.’ He was giving advice. He was giving me insight to how I could look at things from a different perspective. And I was like, 'Oh, he’s an artist.' I think it was maybe a heartbeat of that kind of energy of like, ‘Baby, can you take this picture?’ And it turned so quickly into, we're partners. We can work together in a way where we're advancing each other's creative thinking.”
The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Temi and SkylarCj Hart @hartbreakToday, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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