

Let's be real, ladies. We put a lot of emphasis on our yonis and making sure that they look (and smell) the part in hopes that will get stellar reviews from a guy we hit up on that hotline bling. Or maybe you have a significant other that you want to surprise--keeping the fire hot by keeping it interesting.
Whatever the case, we as women go through a lot to show extra love to our lady parts, including trying the latest and greatest procedures that promise a pretty punani.
So when my friend tagged me in an Instagram post for Kimberly Grimes, who was offering a one-of-a-kind experience for her intimate care company VAVAVOOM, I was all in. After browsing the site, I opted for the vajacial (vagina facial) because it "targets irritating ingrowns, below-the-belt blackheads and hyperpigmentation," and scheduled my appointment.
On the day of my appointment, I arrived to the studio and waited upstairs while Kimberly finished with the client that was before me. I admit that I was nervous. I never had been waxed before because I do my feminine maintenance at home. I even "Naired" beforehand because I wasn't going to have anyone talking about me in their head. No, honey! Now, I volunteered myself to spread my legs wide open for a complete stranger. What was I getting myself into?!
When it was my turn, I was given the privacy to partially disrobe and get comfortable on the table. The soft music playing in the background helped calm me down. Kimberly made me feel really at ease, especially since I had never received such a service before. It was like chatting with one of my girlfriends while I was given hot towel and exfoliating treatments.
While removing my ingrown hairs (and being so unfazed by it), she explained the common misconceptions many women have when it comes to their vagina. What we think are ingrown hairs are simply congested pores (I had some of those as well) due to dead skin build up or irritation of the bikini line to our panties constantly rubbing against our skin, especially panties with a lot of dyes. Simply put, it's vaginal acne. I have what I like to call "thick girl thigh rub", so keeping the inside of my thighs constantly smooth has always been a challenge. She exfoliated my inner thighs with gentle, professional-grade products and finished with antibacterial oils.
After my vajacial, my skin felt silky smooth and I was given a bottle of V Serum, which is like a mild peel to keep my pores from getting congested resulting in vaginal acne. I was to apply it to my thighs and intimate area twice a day, and put on a "no panty plan" to help my skin irritation. I was advised to wear pure cotton panties and to stay away from the ones with dyes as much as possible. She also told me to give my skin time to breathe by not wearing any at all. I have been using the V Serum regularly and it has kept my skin smooth and helped with hyperpigmentation. The no panty plan has also helped with my bikini line irritation as well.
I highly recommend that you try a vajacial. Many women talk freely about facials, massages, manis, pedis, and other spa treatments they receive, but don't talk openly about issues with their skin in their vaginal area and how they are treating them. If we take conversations beyond our close group of friends, I think we will find out most of our confusion and worries will be alleviated.
Have you had a vajacial? If not, what's stopping you?
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Originally published on October 20, 2016
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Swipe Right For Sisterhood: Reginae Carter Talks Teaming Up With BLK To Make Friendships Front & Center
You know the vibes: dating apps aren’t just for finding romance anymore—at least not for Gen Z! As young people continue to redefine connection, BLK, the leading dating app for Black singles, is shaking things up with the launch of Social Mode. The new feature allows users to toggle between dating and platonic connections. Yep, you read that right—friendship is now just as easy to find as love.
To kick off this game-changing launch, BLK teamed up with TV personality and socialite Reginae Carter for the ultimate Girls’ Night In, proving that sisterhood is just as important as romance. The exclusive event was a celebration of the new feature and the power of Black women coming together to uplift one another.
“Your circle is everything,” Reginae shares with a smile, and she’s not wrong. She’s all about creating spaces where we can come together, let our hair down, and vibe with like-minded women. “We deserve spaces to meet, uplift, and vibe with each other. BLK is making that happen,” she adds.
A New Era for Friendships—Social Mode Is Here!
Gen Z is all about building meaningful connections, whether it’s with a date or a new brunch buddy. That’s why Social Mode is such a big deal. Research shows that 65% of Gen Z values friendships just as much as romantic relationships. With BLK’s new feature, users can easily toggle between “Dating” and “Social,” opening up a world of platonic connections—no swiping right required.
Bahja Rodriguez, Reginae Carter, Breaunna Womack, Lourdes Rodriguez and Zonnique Pullins attend OMG Girlz "Make A Scene" Single Release & Video Viewing Party at Trap City Cafe on March 27, 2025 in Atlanta, Georgia
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Reginae Carter Hosts the Ultimate Girls’ Night In—Powered by BLK Social Mode
What better way to show Social Mode in action than with an exclusive Girls’ Night In, hosted by Reginae? The event brought together top influencers, tastemakers, and press for a night of luxury, self-care, and real talk about love, sex, and relationships. From tarot readings to perfume-making and signature cocktails, the evening embodied the “soft life” vibe that many Black women are embracing in 2025—peaceful, intentional, and full of joy.
Guests mingled, laughed, and bonded over the importance of finding a tribe that supports you. It wasn’t just about fun (although there was plenty of that!)—it was about creating a circle of inspiring, strong women. “We need to stick together. We need to be each other’s village,” Reginae says, emphasizing the power of community over competition.
Sisterhood: The Real MVP
For Reginae, it’s all about friendship—and not just the surface-level kind. “We need friends who keep it real with us. The ones who can tell us when we’re right, when we’re wrong, and when we need to calm down,” she says. As someone who navigates the spotlight, she’s got the best of both worlds: friends who understand the grind and those who can give her an honest, grounded perspective.
Her advice for building strong, intentional friendships? “Be confident in yourself and know your worth,” she explains. “Also, hurt people hurt people, so make sure you’re coming from a good place when you’re building relationships. It’s not always about being nice—sometimes it’s about being real.”
Reginae couldn’t have summed it up better: “When you have the right circle, the right tribe, everything just feels easier. And that’s exactly what BLK is giving us—space to connect, laugh, and grow with each other.”
To learn more about BLK’s Social Mode, download or update the BLK app in the App Store or Google Play Store today. Who knows? You might just find your new bestie or your next brunch crew.
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