
To me, purchasing a new purse feels like investing in a new relationship.
Even if I don't purchase a handbag, the experience of finding a purse that fits my fun personality is exhilarating - just like it feels when you go on a first date with someone you're really feeling.
The smell of a high quality handbag is as intoxicating as the scent of a well groomed man. The feel of an extra soft handle gives me butterflies, like the first time my crush ever touched my hand. But while selecting a purse is fun and games, I often fall short when it comes to caring for it. I found myself putting the purse that I once loved in the back of my closet. It no longer served a purpose to me. Out of sight, out of mind.
The problem is that when I finally pulled my old purses out of the closet to rekindle what we once had, I fond all kinds of things filthy things inside of it. Money. Buttons that broke off of my favorite chenille sweater. Lint. Cookie crumbs and chicken nuggets from the countless times my son half ate his meal and threw it into my purse because he mistook it for a trash bag.
One time I found spilled baby formula in my purse, and it smelled putrid. Yes, I'm one of the few women in the world who takes zero time cleaning my purses. But I recently learned I'm compromising my health by not cleaning my handbags. Back in 2013, a microbiologist told the Today Show that dirty purses have been known to carry fecal bacteria. Yuck! But life happens, and dirty diapers have been known to find their way inside of mommy's purse. No judgment here.
But still, I should clean my purse more often, and you should too.
Here are a few ways a dirty handbag may be affecting your health:
1. BACTERIA, GERMS & DIARRHEA OH MY!

I've seen my fair share of women who have placed their handbags on floor next to them when using a public restroom. By not going the extra step and putting your handbag on the door hanger located on the back of some public restroom stalls, you could be transferring all kinds of bacteria, including the germs that causes diarrhea, from the public restroom to your own home.
Microbiologist Chuck Gerba talked with ABC News about how the germ transaction goes down in the bathroom stall.
"We found fecal bacteria you normally find on the floor of restroom...We found bacteria that can cause skin infections on the bottom of purses. What's more amazing is the large numbers we find on the bottom of purses, which indicates that they can be picking up a lot of other germs like cold viruses or viruses that cause diarrhea."
Surprisingly, some women said that they weren't worried about the germs on the bottom of their purses because they didn't lick the bottoms of their purses, therefore they didn't feel like they were in danger of getting sick. But Gerba disagrees. He said that whatever touches the bottom of your purse can compromise the things you ingest. For example, imagine putting your purse on your kitchen table, and then later, your kid drops some potato chips on that same table and eats them. Guess whose kid is eating a side of poop germs along with their potato chips? Yours.
2. YOUR PURSE HANDLE IS FILTHY TOO
Purse handles are a haven for germs. Donna Duberg, a professor of biomedical laboratory science at St. Louis University, told revealed to Yahoo! that our hands touch about 300 surfaces every 30 minutes, including desktops, bathroom sinks, restaurant and kitchen counters, and door handles. None of these surfaces are very well cleaned, if you get my drift.
What you're doing when you fail to clean your purse handle without cleaning your hands is transporting bacteria, and the kinds of bacteria that's transporting is alarming. Duberg told Yahoo!,
Germs found in and on purses can include E. coli, a coliform bacterium, which can be a source of food-borne illness; Staph aureus can cause gastrointestinal problems such as vomiting and diarrhea as well as skin infections, and mold spores are everywhere but can stick to the leather and fabric of purses, readily available to cause mild respiratory distress and some of the viruses that cause colds and the flu.
3. CLEANLINESS IS THE BEST WAY TO FIX THIS PROBLEM
The best way to transporting germs on your handbag is to first become an expert hand washer, which includes wiping down your purse handle when you bring your purse into a restroom.
Duberg also suggests that you wash your hands more often. She revealed to Women's Health:
Lathering up will not only help reduce the amount of bacteria you’re putting in and on your bag, but also the amount that you expose yourself to. “Having better hand hygiene breaks the cycle of infection.
How often you clean your purse would depend on your lifestyle. For instance, if you have pets or babies, you may find yourself cleaning your purse more often than a single woman who has more purses than hot dates.
Duberg also suggests that you get into a regular purse cleaning routine to help you fight off those bad germs.
Make cleaning your purse—and everything you carry in it—a weekly practice, suggests Duberg. For leather purses, look for disinfecting wipes that don’t contain bleach or alcohol and wipe down the exterior and interior. Remember to pay special attention to the parts that you touch the most, like handles and straps. As for bags made from cloth, wash them in cool water on a delicate cycle, and add just a bit of baby soap to the machine. This will get the bacteria down to a safer level, says Duberg.
4. CLEAN YOUR COMPACTS, LOTIONS, AND MAKEUP CASES TOO
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You should also clean off the surfaces of the makeup inside of your bag, and put it in a clean, fresh makeup bag during cleaning operations.
Jason Tetro, a microbiologist and author of the best-selling book The Germ Files told Yahoo! that the best makeup cases and compacts are rest havens for germs too. So pull out those Lysol wipes, and get to work.
“Makeup is a great place for bacterial and fungal growth; there are diagnostic tests to find the most harmful species,” said Tetro. Escherichia coli (E. coli), Candida albicans, Pseudomonas aeruginosa, and Aspergillus niger can cause a variety of irritations and possible infections.
5. DON'T FORGET TO CLEAN THE SURFACES OF YOUR KEYS AND YOUR MOBILE PHONE
Think about all of the times where you picked up your car keys or mobile phone knowing that your hands were filthy. Now think about how many times you've actually disinfected your car keys or phone of bacteria.
The truth is that not many people consider the cleaning of car keys or phones very often, which is dangerous. Keys are phones carry just as many germs as a toilet seat. Tetro said,
“Mobile devices were once considered to be low risk...But recent studies have shown that they can become covered with bacteria and viruses, including pathogens that can cause infections, particularly for those with weakened immune systems."
6. DON'T "JUST THROW IT IN YOUR BAG"
Whatever you do, don't put food, used tissues, or shoes in your handbag. Just don't do it. Duberg says that each of these items are moist, and creates the perfect environment for bacteria to grow. The best solution is for you to put food, shoes, and used tissues in its own plastic bag before throwing them in your purse.
Do you have any tips on how you clean your purses? Let us know in the comments below.
This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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There’s just something about the chilly weather that makes you want to be curled up with a warm blanket, sipping on your soup of choice. Whether that be chicken noodle, tomato, or even a hearty chili soup, the options and benefits to your overall health are endless.
Everyone knows that a great soup first starts with a rich and tasty broth. According to nutrition expert Dr. Kellyann Petrucci, having a perfect broth isn’t just about the flavor, it’s about the nutrients and health benefits that it can offer you from collagen, gelatin, and glycine. “Bone broth is the best whole food source of collagen,” Dr. Petrucci tells xoNecole. “Collagen protein is in foods such as cuts of meat full of connective tissue like pot roast, brisket, and chuck steak. Bone broth has emerged as a superior whole food source of collagen because it’s lower in calories and saturated fats compared to other sources.”
When it comes to soups, stews, and stocks, choosing the right broth can come down to personal preference, time for preparation, and dietary restrictions, however, bone broth proves to be nutritionally superior to regular broth or stock due to its extended cooking process.
“Bone broth derives all of its nutritional health benefits from its slow cooking process,” she explains. “While regular broth or stock is only cooked for a few hours, bone broth is usually cooked for upwards of 24 hours.”
“It's in that process that the vital nutrients are extracted from the bones, giving bone broth its signature thick texture, rich flavor, and nutritious content. While stock has some health benefits, it doesn’t hold a candle to bone broth’s nutritional density,” Dr. Petrucci adds. But if you find that you don’t have the time to make your own bone broth, you can always opt for a ready-made liquid bone broth for convenience.
Because soup can require extended time of preparation and slow-cooking, many soup lovers are leaning into a more convenient, “one-and-done” approach to achieve their favorite recipes — one of which is being made in a mason jar.
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The mason jar soup trend has grown in popularity on TikTok, with promises to be a labor-free, meal-prep alternative for soup lovers who also happen to be on the go.
Making these soups on your own is easy to follow since many of the ingredients are catered to your own taste. Many creators suggest following the ingredient list that includes rice noodles, soy sauce, chicken bouillon seasoning or broth, a protein of choice — tofu, mushrooms, or boiled egg, and veggies like spinach, cabbage, or carrots.
With just five minutes of prep time, you can assemble these ingredients into your mason jar, add boiling water on top, and wait up to 10 minutes for the flavors to combine and enjoy.
@nutritionbykylie Another mason jar noodle recipe for all my miso soup lovers! (Miso can clump up so it may help to shake it a little) #mealprep #easylunch #masonjarnoodles #misosoup
Finding creative ways to add soup and broth into your diet isn’t just a way to self-soothe on low-temperature days, it can also help with gut-related issues and support healthy digestion. “Our digestive health is the cornerstone of our overall wellness, and bone broth is packed with beneficial nutrients that nurture this crucial system,” says Dr. Pertrucci. “Amino acids, like glutamine present in bone broth, can provide nourishment to the cells lining your gut, supporting the body's nutrient absorption capability.”
“The immune system, the body's primary defense mechanism, depends significantly on the health of our gut. As bone broth can contribute to gut health, it can also indirectly aid in fostering a robust immune system. Bone broth can act as a valuable ally in maintaining a healthy immune system, fortifying your body's defense against illnesses.”
Who knew a good soup could go such a long way?
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Originally published on November 3, 2023













