

I've been an entrepreneur for almost nine years. As I enter a reflective state of mind, I find myself watching new businesses springing up every month, especially by women of color across my local community of Atlanta, Georgia and beyond.
As a profit strategist, I help new entrepreneurs create and identify their opportunities for profit in their business and the first conversation I have with clients is an understanding of what their common "struggle" or "obstacle" is in their business.
As I document a consensus in my mind, the majority of new business owners are enthused on the thought of becoming an entrepreneur but struggle with clarity, balancing, and a "saturated" market. You know, "saturated market", when there are too many people doing what you do.
Let me be clear.
Saturation is a "thing", but it only is a thing of the mind. As a millennial, you are in one of the most creative generations where fearlessness and a solid stance on equality, balance, and justice is embedded within us. In order to truly thrive as an entrepreneur in this day and age, here are a few keys to keep in mind.
Know Your Value
When launching your business, it's important to not focus on how many people are doing what you do, but what's your differentiating value to the market?
Your differentiating value is known as your market-add and some identify it as a culture-add. What new vibe does your business bring to its industry?
This is the value you bring to the marketplace that has not been done. What value does your business have? This could be your customer service, quality, depth of knowledge, experience, product scarcity, etc.
It is your responsibility to know how your business adds value.
You can't expect to see a tribe pull up on you if you're not doing anything different. Either you need to make what is already done better or create something entirely never done before.
Build Interest Through Story-Selling
Once you understand your market-add, it's time to determine how you can build interest so that you can break through the noise.
A strategy to grab the attention of your audience on social media is through what I like to call "The Story-Selling Framework". This framework involves you creating a past (a hook), present (a struggle), and a remedy (a solution) post. This framework can also be used for your e-mail marketing. It is a copy tactic.
To start your story-sell, you must start with a hook. A hook is an attention-getting headline or story opener. The goal here is to grab your audience's attention in the first sentence. A photo or video can be a hook. The next step in story-selling is identifying a struggle of your audience. What annoys your ideal client or customer? Is it not having time? Is it not having enough energy? These are all common struggles, obstacles, and annoyances that your ideal client may have. Create a list of 3-5 common struggles your customer or client is having right now. The goal here is to agitate the excuses your ideal client has.
Finally, the "remedy" is the last statement in the story-selling framework. You are the remedy to your audience. It is important that you focus on how you're the solution as it relates to your social media post(s).
Consistency, Consistency, Consistency
In story-selling, you must tell your story at least 7x on as many platforms as you're active on.
As a vet in entrepreneurship, it is important for you to understand that this is a LONG RACE. Entrepreneurship is not for the faint or weak at heart. It is for those with determination, will-power, and strength to endure even when the results are not immediate.
You may not win quickly.
You may not make money right away.
You might have to sacrifice.
But what I can guarantee is consistency is the only way that this race will work out. Shift your mindset to believe that one day the check WILL come and it will! Invest in the growth of your business. If you aren't willing to make a financial investment into your own self, why would you believe others would into you?
Invest In Self
Do not freebie your business to death. When you invest in programs, masterminds, retreats, coaches, learning, conferences, etc. you are telling yourself that you are betting on you! There's nothing quite more admirable than you putting your money where your mouth is!
Pay your homegirl for her work, tell your homeboy you could use his services, pay these people so the energy that you give off only exudes there's a "price" for that. Your vibrations will be higher when you have money invested.
You will work harder.
You will know how to repel people wasting your time.
You will feel empowered as a business owner to only do business.
The key to success in business is research (test to see what works in your audience and keep what gives the best results), relationships (create a community and collaboration in your local area), and reputation (provide great experiences for your clients or customers so they can refer or #repost).
As you thrive in your journey with entrepreneurship, understand you don't need to feel defeated. You can have a sustainable business in any market because the value you bring is ordained in you.
You were chosen to carry it out, it is and always will be your gift.
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Love Is The Muse: How Skylar And Temi Built A Creative Life Together
When Temitope Ibisanmi DM’d the word “muse” to Skylar Marshai, he knew he was shooting his romantic shot. He didn’t realize, however, that he was connecting with his future business and creative partner, too.
“I was the boyfriend,” Temi says. “Everybody out there knows, you’re the cameraman at that point.”
Skylar sees things differently. At the time, she was shooting content on her iPhone. Temi came into the picture with a new perspective, an understanding of tech, and, eventually, a camera. “He doesn't give himself enough credit,” Skylar says. “He wasn't just my tripod. He wasn't just standing behind the camera and going ‘click.’ He was giving advice. He was giving me insight to how I could look at things from a different perspective. And I was like, 'Oh, he’s an artist.' I think it was maybe a heartbeat of that kind of energy of like, ‘Baby, can you take this picture?’ And it turned so quickly into, we're partners. We can work together in a way where we're advancing each other's creative thinking.”
The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Today, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
What’s better than being in love? Building wealth while doing it. Watch Making Cents here for real stories of couples who make money moves together.
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