Many of us have been conditioned to be "lack-minded" or "broke-minded" without even realizing it. This propensity toward being overpowered by the thought of not having, is a hard habit to break.
To be broke-minded, or to have a broke mindset, means to live your life with the constant fear and acknowledgement that you don't have enough or that you will run out of something. This usually correlates to how you make and spend your money, but even deeper than that lies a fundamental fear of loss and being without.
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Constantly being worried about money or being afraid to spend it energetically tells the universe that you are afraid to make it, and can result in a lack of abundance. Here, we will break down what it means to be lack-minded, and ways in which you can reverse this thinking in order to invite abundance into your life.
Below are a few tips to help reverse your broke-minded consciousness.
Money Is Source Energy Manifested
Monetary transactions are not only physical, everything we do is attached to an energetic exchange. When you dread paying your bills, you are sending into the universe fear, resentment, and anger, which are all negative and low vibrational feelings. Once you tune in and focus on this energy, every time you spend money, you will associate your energy with these vibrations, which will in turn attract more bills and unsavory experiences to you.
Every time you sit on the bill, because you don't want to pay it, it piles up. In some instances, you even incur more debt with fees and interest built up. Your negative energy around paying something that you have in fact used, creates more debt for you to be even more irritated about.
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If you view money, as you view energy, wouldn't you want to vibe positively? Money is what you make it. According to Dr. Anadi Sahoo, "Money itself has no energy. It is a piece of paper or a piece of metal, but it is the energy behind money that creates so much happiness and so much sorrow...this means that your physical world is inevitably affected by your mental reality. Money is energy!"
The Law of Attraction has everything to do with this truth. The more negative energy you harbor around spending money, the more negativity and lack you will experience. You must change your money energy consciousness into a positive one.
Remove Fear From Manifesting Money
"It takes money to make money."This age-old mantra is very true. When starting a new business, or endeavor, in order for someone to get it off the ground, they must have some kind of seed or capital. In the capitalistic world we live in, this is just how it works.
Money draws money. My mother used to always say, "Follow the money." Investing your money in something is always wise if you know there is a high probability of making a return. In fact, that is the only reason that you start a for-profit business to begin with! Money is source energy manifested, and should always be put to good uses, and kept in circulation. Basically, you must spend your money in order to make more money.
If you remove the fear of spending your money, you effectively increase the possibility of gaining it. Fear and lack go hand-in-hand. Again, being afraid to spend money is telling the universe that you are afraid to make it, which again leaves you broke.
If you are interested in starting a new business, you must relinquish the fear around starting it by raising your vibration. You must feel worthy of someone investing in you, in order to gain the money you need to start. Energy reacts off of energy. You must wholeheartedly stand behind what it is you have to offer. If there is any type of education or startup costs needed to start your journey, taking that leap of faith lets the universe know that you are not afraid of doing the work, and ultimately making that moola.
Abundance Comes From Gratitude
"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." – Oprah Winfrey
Being grateful for what you already have is a magnet for gaining more. Take it from one of the richest people in the world. Expressing gratitude is like having a golden ticket. It energetically opens you to achieving more than you ever asked for. Since everything we do is energetic, by showing appreciation for what you do have, you attract more of what you want.
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In our materialistic society, we are conditioned to want more and more. If you are constantly in the attitude and vibration of gratitude, feeling thankful not only for what you have, but also having faith and trust that whatever you need will be constantly and endlessly provided, you will begin to magnetically attract abundance. I know that this sounds like a fairytale, but you must surrender to gratitude everyday that you are alive. Be thankful for running water. Be thankful for the roof over your head. Be thankful for clothes on your back, and shoes on your feet. Be thankful for having loving people in your life. Be thankful for even being able to read this article. If you are thankful for all the basic needs of survival, you will be blessed with an excess.
The more you remain in a vibration of gratitude, your bag will draw more and more abundance.
Visualize Yourself As A Money Machine
Meditation and positive affirmations are a great way to reverse broke mindedness. The words that we utter act as a boomerang, and come right back to us. No word returns to you void. If you want to manifest more money, you have to ask for it.
If you constantly say, "I am broke," broke you shall be. Practice reversing the rhetoric you spew around money. I personally use the affirmation, "I am a walking money machine. Whatever I spend, comes right back threefold."
Repeating some of the positive affirmations below from Prolificliving.com, will send the universe a message that will materialize into tangible cash money:
- I am a magnet for money.
- Prosperity is drawn to me.
- Money comes to me in expected and unexpected ways.
- I move from poverty thinking to abundance thinking.
- I am worthy of making more money.
- I am open and receptive to all the wealth life offers me.
- I welcome an unlimited source of income and wealth in my life.
- I release all negative energy over money.
- Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.
- Wealth constantly flows into my life.
- My actions create constant prosperity.
- I am aligned with the energy of abundance.
- I constantly attract opportunities that create more money.
- My finances improve beyond my dreams.
- Money is the root of joy and comfort.
- Money and love can be friends.
- I am the master of my wealth.
- I can handle massive success with grace.
- Money expands my life's opportunities and experiences.
- Money creates positive impact in my life.
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Fontaine Felisha Foxworth is a writer and creative entrepreneur from Brooklyn New York. She is currently on the West Coast working on creating a TV Pilot called "Finding Fontaine", that details the nomadic journey of her life so far. Keep up with her shenanigans @famoustaine on IG.
Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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There's something about snuggling up in your favorite blanket and watching a comfort show or movie on Netflix, and what better time to do just that than in December? As the weather outside gets cooler, staying in becomes more of the norm. Thus, Netflix and Chill is a go-to. Luckily, Netflix has released new Black films and series on their popular streaming platform.
From Tyler Perry's historical drama The Six Triple Eight, starring Kerry Washington, to the Will Packer-produced comedy starring Marsai Martin, Regina Hall, and Issa Rae, Little, this season is looking up.
See the full list below.
Little (12/1)
Regina Hall's character is a bossy tech mogul who has everyone scared of her, including her assistant, played by Issa Rae. However, when she transforms into her younger self (Marsai Martin), she learns how to be more kind to others.
Daddy Day Care (12/1)
Eddie Murphy stars in this film as a father who decides to open a daycare after losing his job.
30 For 30 Collection (12/2)
30 For 30 is an ESPN docu-series highlighting some of sports' legendary figures and moments. Some of the episodes include Winning Time: Reggie Miller Vs. The New York Knicks and Celtics/ Lakers: The Best of Enemies.
Jamie Foxx: What Had Happened Was (12/10)
In this special, the multi-talented Jamie Foxx returns to stand-up to give an unforgettable performance.
Blood, Sweat & Heels S2 (12/13)
The short-lived Bravo reality TV series documented the lives of a group of girlfriends making it in NYC. The show starred model-turned-podcaster Melyssa Ford, author Demetria Lucas, and the late TV host Daisy Lewellyn.
The Equalizer S1-3 (12/16)
The hit CBS show starring Queen Latifah is now available on Netflix. Watch the beloved actress kick ass and take names in this popular drama.
The Six Triple Eight (12/20)
The new Tyler Perry film starring Kerry Washington is a true story about the first and only Women’s Army Corps unit of color during World War II.
Christmas Game Day Ravens Vs. Texans (12/25)
While many will tune in to watch the Baltimore Ravens vs. Houston Texans game, others will tune in to watch Beyoncé perform during halftime.
Michelle Buteau: A Buteau-ful Mind At Radio City Music Hall (12/31)
Comedian Michelle Buteau's comedy special will focus on her life with twins, going viral, and much more.
Evil S3 (12/31)
While Evil was unfortunately canceled by CBS, viewers can rewatch the series on Netflix, with season three premiering December 31st.
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