

Just a couple of days ago, I was talking to my client about how, when she’s tired, she has a tendency to overexaggerate things (meaning, she turns "making mountains into molehills" into an art form). Since she works from home (in part, by homeschooling her kids), I presented the option of taking power naps in order to “refuel” a bit so that she’s not running on fumes. I literally laughed out loud when she said, “I think I can do that,” and then followed that up with, “I can read a book for like 30 minutes while the girls have quiet time.”
Chile, I said take a nap — not find something else to do. LOL.
It really is kind of wild that one in three Americans don’t get enough rest because when a person is sleep deprived (or their sleeping patterns are all over the place), that can cause all sorts of issues with their health, including stress, anxiety, a weakened immune system, high blood pressure, respiratory and digestion challenges — and, if you’re a woman, even problems with your vagina.
Yeah, you probably never even thought to connect the dots between sleep and vaginal health; however, we’re gonna get right into that today because I am going to share seven ways that not getting enough sleep can cause all kinds of drama as far as your vagina is concerned.
1. Sleep Deprivation Can Cause a Hormonal Imbalance
I feel like lately, something that I have been saying more than usual to my female clients is that they should get their hormonal levels checked. Whether it’s due to them suddenly having a low libido, erratic mood swings, and/or feeling exhausted throughout the day (for many days at a time), once a woman is over the age of 35, it can never hurt to see if she is in a later stage of perimenopause than she might think (because you can be there anywhere from a few months to a decade with the average age of menopause being 51) — and when you are going through that season of life, your hormones are definitely going to be a bit off-kilter.
Know what else can get your hormones to be topsy-turvy? Sleep deprivation. When you don’t get enough rest, that can throw off the balance between your estrogen and progesterone levels — and when these are low for a significant period of time, that can put your vagina into a state of atrophy where your vagina starts to become thinner and potential the walls of it can become inflamed.
2. Sleep Deprivation Can Cultivate Vaginal Dryness
Something else that can happen when your hormone levels aren’t where they should be is it can cause the stress hormone known as cortisol to spike to the point where it keeps your sex hormones from functioning what they should. As a direct result, that can lead to vaginal dryness. This is especially common in menopausal and post-menopausal women.
3. Sleep Deprivation Can Lead to Irregular Periods
If you haven’t been getting 6-8 hours of sleep on a consistent basis, and it seems like your period isn’t as predictable as it used to be, please don’t just shrug that off. There is plenty of research out here that says if you don’t get enough shut-eye, that can result in inconsistent menstrual cycles and even light bleeding in between them. In fact, one reputable study says that as much as 46 percent of women who have erratic sleep patterns end up with an irregular cycle.
The main reason is that a lack of sleep puts stress on the body; plus, it can disrupt how your body produces melatonin — and since melatonin helps to regulate your period…well, I’m sure you can see how this all ties in together.
4. Sleep Deprivation Can Make You More Susceptible to Infections
Been getting more yeast infections lately? How much have you been prioritizing rest? Yep, if you’re not getting enough sleep, something else that can happen is you can find yourself more susceptible to vaginal-related infections. And just how is that? Long story short, plenty of data backs the fact that a lack of sleep can compromise your immune system.
That’s because sleep helps your body to release proteins known as cytokines, and they are what help to ward off inflammation and infections (including bacterial vaginosis because the more rest you have, the less stressed your system is and the less likely it is that type of infection will be an issue for you). So, if you’re sick of buying Monistat or taking a Diflucan pill, think about your sleep patterns; they could be why you have to focus on those things so much right through here.
5. Sleep Deprivation Can Create Fertility Complications
Two of the points that I’ve already touched on actually help to emphasize how sleep deprivation affects fertility because if your hormones are all over the place and your period is irregular, both things can affect ovulation and conception. What might surprise you the most, though, when it comes to this particular point is the fact that if your sleep patterns are erratic because you don’t know how to put your phone down at night, believe it or not, the blue light that comes from your device can impact your melatonin levels.
Why that is relevant when it comes to fertility is because melatonin is a hormone that actually helps to protect your eggs. The more you know, chile.
6. Sleep Deprivation Can Tank Your Libido
One of the main reasons why I’ve written articles for the platform like, “These 12 Tips Will Improve Your Sleep Patterns. And Your Sex Life.” and “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand” is because it’s a scientific fact that sleep and sex influence one another in some pretty profound ways — and yes, when you’re not getting 6-8 hours of sleep on a consistent basis, your libido can also suffer. A lack of energy, a drop in testosterone (for men and women), less of a desire for sex — these are just some of the things that can happen when you’re not getting enough zzz’s.
So, if you’ve been having a ho-hum attitude about sex lately, ask yourself if your sleep patterns could be the culprit.
7. Sleep Deprivation Can Make It More Difficult to Orgasm
Last one. Even if you’re up for having sex, if you’re not climaxing as much as you usually do, a lack of sleep can cause that as well. According to science, sleep deprivation can impact your sexual and genital response (including how easy it is for you to get sexually aroused), compromise how blood circulates throughout your system (and the better your blood circulation is, the more intense your orgasms will be) and how ultimately satisfying your sexual experiences will be. So, if orgasms have been pretty hit-or-miss as of late, how much sleep have you been getting, sis? Straight up.
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Honestly, I’m hoping that before you even read this, you were being intentional about prioritizing rest. If not, though, I hope this convinces you to start. Knowing that less rest can cause vaginal itching or no orgasms? CHILE, PLEASE. You better catch some zzz’s!
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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The Mastering Of Self: The Ultimate Guide To Your Saturn Return
A Saturn Return is your entry into adulthood and one of the most important astrological transits on your journey of self-growth. It comes around every 27 to 29.5 years and signifies a time when major life changes and transformations happen, which set you up on the path and legacy you build for yourself in life. Although Saturn Returns have often had a negative connotation, your Saturn Return isn’t something to fear, but rather something to work with. It is your rite of passage into the next level of your life and although challenging at times, it’s also that time in your life when you look back and see how things changed for the better for you.
What Saturn Represents in Astrology
Saturn is like a parent who wants to see you do well but will give you tough love when you need it. It seeks to break down any falsities and replace them with truth, and something stable enough for you to build upon. Saturn is known as the Lord of Karma in Astrology, it teaches, enforces, and brings justice. Saturn asks you to view the systems you have built for yourself and walked on in life and to see if these foundations support the growth you intend for yourself.
What Happens During Your Saturn Return
A Saturn Return is divine intervention and through what falls or transforms, new blessings become. Saturn is known as the great taskmaster in Astrology and a lot of growth and experiences that force you to mature tend to happen during this time.
Your Saturn Return is your checkpoint in life where the universe is like, “Okay, let’s take some time to get to the bottom of things right now and to figure out what is going to serve you in the long run.” This is a key time in your life to build new systems and structures for yourself, think long-term, and master your reality.
How To Know When Your Saturn Return Is
When it comes to when to expect your Saturn Return and how to prepare and move through this time, it is important to note your Saturn Return begins the day Saturn moves into the sign it was in at the time you were born. Saturn is currently in the middle of its transit through Aquarius, and if you have Saturn in Aquarius in your birth chart, you are going through your Saturn Return right now.
Another important date of your Saturn Return is the day(s) Saturn is at the exact degree it was at the time you were born and shows you the more critical times of your Saturn Return. You can look up the exact date(s) of your Saturn Return by running your birthday information through a free Saturn Return Calculator.
To dive even deeper, by looking up your birth chart through a free online Birth Chart Calculator, you can find out what house Saturn is placed in your chart, and see which area in life specifically your Saturn Return will be influencing.
See below for what Saturn Returns through each house signifies.
What Saturn Return Through Each House Signifies
SATURN RETURN IN THE 1ST HOUSE
A Saturn Return in the 1st house is asking you to look at the inner foundations that build you and your sense of self. Does your view of the world and how the world views you add up with how you want to move through life and be perceived? Movement is critical for you during this time, as getting your body moving and strengthening your connection to the self is what Saturn is here for. There could be physical changes you are seeing at this time as the 1st house rules the physical self, and overall your Saturn Return is very personal and all about your personal growth, goals, character, and evolution. Self-confidence is key for you right now.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 2ND HOUSE
A Saturn Return in the 2nd house is a time of challenges and breakthroughs when it comes to your financial world. The 2nd house rules income, assets, the material world, and your value systems; and Saturn is asking you during this time to balance the books, make sure you are spending with your future in mind, and will also be opening up new avenues for you for earning as well. You could feel more pressured to obtain assets and “have it all” right now. And there also tends to be more situations in life where big purchases are necessary in general with this energy. Saturn is here to help you build a sustainable path for yourself financially in life and to make sure you are valuing yourself in the process.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 3RD HOUSE
With your Saturn Return occurring in an area of your birth chart having to do with communication, transportation, neighbors, siblings, and your immediate community, there are a lot of different areas of life Saturn will be highlighting. During your Saturn Return, you are seeing the interconnectedness of it all, and this time is all about intentional movement and communication. Extra precautions should be handled with transportation and technology, and not rushing things here is key. Saturn is here to rebuild your sense of connection and community and help you find your voice.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 4TH HOUSE
A Saturn Return in the 4th house is all about your emotional and physical foundations in life. Saturn is highlighting your inner world and asking you to take a look at your support systems in life and create boundaries if necessary. The 4th house rules the home, family, your roots, tradition, and inner nourishment in life; and with Saturn moving through here, changes are happening in the home and within. This is a deep time of healing for you, especially when it comes to childhood wounds and experiences of the past. There could be some distance and unsteadiness you are feeling when it comes to laying down roots or feeling a sense of home and family, and Saturn is here to help you build that. Your Saturn Return is all about unpacking and rebuilding.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 5TH HOUSE
Your Saturn Return is all about finding your happiness and committing yourself to pursue it. The 5th house rules romance, children, creativity, hobbies, and entertainment, and with Saturn the planet of tough love moving through the house of joy, this can put a damper on things at times. This transit is all about speaking up for yourself and from the heart and expressing your creativity. Saturn energy is more serious and your Saturn Return is about recognizing those moments of discontent and finding new ways to heal the inner child and seek out your happiness. Self-expression is key for you right now.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 6TH HOUSE
With a Saturn Return in the 6th house of health, work, daily lifestyle, and routines, your health is the priority right now. Saturn is making matters of well-being more pressing during this time and will be showing you the importance of a daily routine that you can stick to. Changes in your working life are also happening now, and what your everyday environment looks like is transforming into something you can see yourself doing for the long run. You may feel like you have to work harder than usual during this time and Saturn is helping you find the balance between service to others and service to yourself.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 7TH HOUSE
A Saturn Return in the 7th house brings things to the forefront when it comes to love, relationships, marriage, business partnerships, and your relationship to your finances as well. This Saturn Return seeks to bring change within your personal relationships and to provide you with the stable ground for love to grow on. This transit will be helping you define what you want/need in love, your view on commitment, and whom you want to build this sense of partnership with. Relationship challenges are likely during this time, but meeting people that provide you a greater sense of emotional satisfaction and stability is the purpose of this transit for you.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 8TH HOUSE
With the 8th house ruling shared finances, taxes, debt, intimacy, death, rebirth, sexuality, intuition, and all things taboo, you are experiencing a deep inner awakening during your Saturn Return. Saturn is making you aware of anything that’s been blocking you from feeling the vulnerability, commitment, and intimacy you are looking for in life, and helping you overcome some emotional fears. Saturn is pushing you to be a little more fearless during this time and to have the courage to confront some emotions that have been buried down until now. Your Saturn Return is all about shadow work, healing, and spiritual growth.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 9TH HOUSE
Your Saturn Return is a time of exploring the mind and what growth can occur through keeping an open perspective. The 9th house rules travel, adventure, higher education, and philosophy, and this is where Saturn is shaking things up for the time being. There can be a delay in educational pursuits during this time or more pressure to learn in general. Travel should be taken carefully during your Saturn Return as these are instances where Saturn will be more active in your life and can be challenging. Overall, you are learning the importance of connecting to your higher self right now, and are learning about self-mastery and trusting your own path in life.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 10TH HOUSE
The effects of your Saturn Return tend to be more public than most. A Saturn Return in the 10th house is here to help you build new systems of success for your career. The 10th house rules your professional and public life, social status, skills, talents, where you shine in life, and also your reputation. With Saturn moving through here there can be some delays when it comes to reaching goals and you may feel like you have to overcome a lot on your professional journey to get to where you want to be. Saturn isn’t here to put a halt to your success in life, it’s here to make sure you are personally aligned with what you are doing in your career, and if not, to make the necessary changes so you are following your soul purpose.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 11TH HOUSE
With a Saturn Return in the 11th house of friendships and community, you are finding your people during this time. This time in your life can feel a little more isolated than usual and Saturn is urging you to reach out, connect, and build your community during this time. Saturn is helping you shine in your authenticity during your Saturn Return, and guiding you towards ways you can show up for not only your community but your personal aspirations and goals as well. With the 11th house also being the house of manifestation and making your visions come to life, this is a good time to learn more about manifestation and your gifts as a creator.
SATURN RETURN IN THE 12TH HOUSE
A Saturn Return in the 12th house is a time of healing, understanding what’s below the surface of your life, and releasing yourself from the past. The 12th house is the last house of the zodiac wheel, and rules endings and all things hidden. With Saturn in the 12th house, you’ve been on a life journey of being your biggest supporter in life, rather than catering to self-sabotaging behavior. This is a good time to see a healer, therapist, astrologer, etc., and to get serious about your healing journey and mental health. If you’ve had any challenges with addiction, Saturn will be addressing them during this time and helping you overcome them. Your Saturn Return is all about doing the inner work.
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Originally published on March 29, 2022