It's no secret that sexting can spice up your life. And with COVID-19 putting romances to the test, now is the time to pull out your cell phone and up your sext game. Being forced to stay inside for weeks at a time, with seemingly no end in sight can be a challenge for any couple, especially if you're like me and have quality time at the top of your love languages list. I mean, I get withdrawals when my husband just goes out of town for the weekend!
So, whether you're involuntarily in a long-distance relationship thanks to the coronavirus, or your relationship already had pressure because of the miles between you, there's a way to make this work out for the best. It's nothing that a sext convo can't fix.
30 Sexting Examples & Hot Sext Ideas To Send Guys
Flirty Sexts: For those who are new to sexting and/or looking for a way to break the ice.
- Let's try something new…
- What would you do if I was there right now?
- How bad do you want me?
- You up?
- I can't stop thinking about kissing you
- My bed is so cold without you next to me
- I'm trying on new lingerie, wanna see it?
- Can you guess what I'm wearing?
- No one makes me feel as good as you
- Do you need a full-body massage?
Dirty Sexts: For the ones that don’t mind meeting in the middle
- In case you're wondering, I'm currently naked
- I'm so horny right now
- Tell me your fantasy…
- FYI I just got out of the shower, but that's not the only reason I'm wet
- You have no idea how much you turn me on
- I can't stop thinking about the last time we…
- What's your favorite position? (or What position do you want to try?)
- I'm craving your body
- On or off? I'm talking about my panties...
- What's the dirtiest thing you want to do to me?
Naughty Sexts: For the shameless sexters ready to risk it all
- I can't wait until you're inside me again (or, I need you inside me)
- Dominate me. I want you to give it to me rough
- I want your lips on my other lips
- You're making me wet just thinking about you
- I'm about to explode
- Next time I see your face, I'm sitting on it
- I wish you could walk through the door, pick me up, and take me against the wall
- I miss your tongue all over my body
- Do you remember how my p***y tastes? I like tasting myself on you
- Make me c*m in 10 words or less
These are all starter sexts, but you should get creative and add your own flair to it. Let it empower you and keep the spark alive in your relationship, no matter the distance.
What are some sexts you love sending your significant other? Comment and let us know!
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This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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A couple of years ago, I met an entertainment lawyer who was tonguing down a twenty-something-year-old woman for breakfast while I slurped my green smoothie and chomped on a flatbread sandwich. Okay, Black love, I grinned and thought as I sauntered out of the Joe & The Juice. As soon as I stepped down from the front door, a torrential downpour of Miami summer rain cascaded and throttled me back inside to wait out the storm.
I grabbed a hot green tea and vacillated between peering out the wet door and anxiously checking my watch. My lengthy agenda started with attending the Tabitha Brown and Chance Brown’s “Black Love” panel, and I was already late. That’s when the lawyer introduced himself to me, after he made a joke about neither one of us wanting to get soaked by the rain. His female companion had braved the storm, leaving us to find our commonalities.
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While there is no shortage of internet advice on how to strategically meet a prominent man at conferences, if I spend my hard-earned funds on career growth, I have tunnel vision, and that doesn’t include finding Mr. Right. So, I stowed his contact details away as strictly professional.
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I’d been waiting to post a sassy caption and finally had the perfect picture to match: “You not asking for too much, you just asking the wrong MF.”
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Upon telling him about how we met, he emphatically stated, “He ain’t it.” He followed up with a simple question, "You have to ask yourself: Would my husband do this? Would you tell others that you met your husband, tonguing down another woman, and later married him?"
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