Getting a good night's sleep has been difficult for me the past few years. I'd attribute that to my anxiety and the fact that I was using my room as my workspace. If you're a freelancer or someone who brings their work home, you probably know what it's like to work from bed or have a desk where you "do a little work" before turning the lights out, but it is statistically proven that separating your work from your bedroom is key for a restful night's sleep.
Since moving into my new place, I have made some significant adjustments to my bedroom and how I approach getting ready for bed. I plug in my phone away from my bed, I read, and I disconnect from social media. I haven't been able to give up screens completely, as I need my Golden Girls fix before I call it a night.
On top of lifestyle changes, I made some decor upgrades too. I bought a new bed frame and mattress, added a new pillow, sheets, and a new piece of technology. These changes have helped me get on a good night, seven hours of uninterrupted sleep when my average was about three in the past.
Here are a few items that will help set the tone for a good night of sleep and items that we're sure could help you too.
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Anti-Wrinkle YourFacePillow
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Okay, this pillow looks a little like something out of an "I wanna eat your brain" horror film, but hear me out. Sleeping on your back will help combat wrinkles since getting your z's on your side can put pressure on your face and cause the skin to wrinkle.
Sebastian Rod Pocket Insulated 100% Blackout Window Curtain Panel
From 11 PM to 3 AM, our bodies produce melatonin (the hormone that helps us fall asleep), and light can disrupt the hormone's ability to help us have a restful sleep. Blackout curtains are a great option for keeping out the light, and also keeping rooms cool during the summer months.
Milemont Gel Mattress Topper
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Buying a new mattress is a big investment that takes a great deal of research, so instead of recommending a new mattress, I say add a topper. Amazon has many great options, but this two-inch foam topper has over 1,000 reviews and a 4.8 out of 5 rating with reviewers saying, "So comfortable! I haven't slept this good in ages."
ZonLi Adults Weighted Blanket 20 lbs
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With over 2,000 reviews, I'd say this weighted blanket is worth a try. If you're someone that deals with anxiety or chronic pain, research shows that weighted blankets can calm the body while sleeping.
MADETEC Cool Mist Humidifier With Aromatherapy Diffuser
Amazon
Dry air, no matter the time of year, wakes me up at night usually with a coughing fit, so I invested in a humidifier. But, what if I told you, you could have both a humidifier and diffuser to mist your favorite scents in the air while you sleep. MADETEC's duo stretches your coin and comes with a remote control and timer.
Threshold 300 Thread Count Organic Cotton Solid Sheet Set
Target
There was a time in my life I could have cared less about sheets. But, one day I woke up and became an adult. Good sheets from brands like Brooklinen costs upward of $100 (which I think is worth it), but Target has a set of sheets I keep purchasing over and over — their 300 Thread Count Organic Cotton Sheets. They're soft, durable, and wash well.
Amazon Echo Dot 3rd Gen
Amazon
Hi, my name is Bianca, and I'd like to introduce you to my new best friend — the Echo Dot. The Echo Dot has been a game-changer for me and my ability to sleep through the night. I either ask Alexa to play rain sounds or an Audible book, and I wake up the next morning without any interruption. You can take the Echo Dot a step further by adding smart bulbs and plugs to your home, so you never have to get out of bed to turn off a light or the television again.
Marpac Dohm Classic White Noise Sound Machine
Marpac
Marpac Dohm is an O.G. in the noise machine game, and they have over 14,000 reviews to prove it. Whether you're looking for more sound sleep for yourself or a new baby or both, you'll get more rest.
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The pair often says they’re two sides of the same coin. Skylar is an Aquarius. She attended art school, paints, and loves poetry. She’s more than happy to let the couple’s management firm and agency, Kensington Grey, handle their admin work. And, she loves to sleep in. Temi, on the other hand, wakes up early. He’s a Virgo. He loves a to-do list and regularly checks in on the couple’s brand partnerships spreadsheet to make sure everything is on track.
Because his storytelling was steeped in his love of technology, he didn’t always think of himself as a creative person. “Where I [am] the dreamer who wants to pluck things out of the sky and spend all day with my head in the clouds, Temi [is] so good at grounding me and helping me figure out how to make things make sense on paper. We just work together in such a complimentary way,” Skylar says.
It’s been more than six years since Brooklyn-based couple Temi and Skylar started dating, and nearly four since they cemented their working relationship. On TikTok and Instagram, the couple’s travel, fashion, and home content regularly rack up hundreds of thousands of views. They’ve worked with brands such as Coach, Aesop, Away, and Liquid IV, bringing their vibrant perspectives to every campaign they execute. Still, nearly two years since both Temi and Skylar committed to full-time content creation and creative directing, the couple says their romantic connection remains their priority.
“We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting,” Skylar says.
Working from home can make it hard to separate work from personal life for any entrepreneur. It can be even more challenging when your business partner is also your lover. Temi and Skylar had already used couples therapy as a tool to help them effectively communicate with one another. When they ran into challenges while working together, their therapist helped them set physical boundaries to help combat the issues.
"We told each other we would much rather go back to full-time jobs and preserve our relationship than to be full-time freelancers, barely getting a night's rest [and] barely kissing each other because we're so busy shooting."
“It actually took us doing very specific physical things to create boundaries between work and play in our relationship,” Skylar says. “So, for instance, we will only have conversations about work when we're out of bed or we're at the table or in the office. Initially, when we started, we had to light a candle to say that, 'Okay, this is a space where we're connecting, we’re not talking about work.' We needed really hard boundaries at the top. And then it became a little bit more organic.”
The boundaries have been crucial to implement, especially because the couple began working together so naturally. When the pair first met, Skylar was NY-based a social strategist for BuzzFeed and was using content creation to drive business to her lingerie company. She was shooting her own content. Temi was working for Microsoft in D.C. He’d recently traded in his DJing equipment for a camera. “I've always loved taking pictures,” he says. “Even when I was a kid, my African mother would wake me up at 3:00 a.m. [during a] party, and be like, 'Come take the family picture.'”
Growing up, Temi says he watched his parents support each other and be the true definition of partners. He knew he wanted the same for his own relationship. But, the couple also wanted to make sure they were being financially responsible. The pair didn’t quit their traditional jobs until they’d saved up two years' worth of their cost of living. And, Temi received his Master of Business Administration from New York University with the knowledge that it could either help him advance in his corporate career or be applicable to his business with Skylar.
Temi and SkylarCj Hart @hartbreakToday, they say their working relationship is more of a “quiet dance.” They still implement some of the boundaries they learned in therapy, but they also lean into their natural strengths and deep love for one another. When we speak, Temi has planned a date for the couple to see Princess Mononoke in 4K IMAX and added it to their Notion so they can factor it into their busy schedules. “I fully plan to date for the rest of my life,” he says.
Skylar says the couple doesn’t just wait for date nights to check in with one another, though. This often happens in the mornings, after Temi has made her peppermint tea and poured himself a cup of coffee. When they ask each other how they slept, she says, it’s not just a “nicety.” It’s a genuine question meant to foster connection.
“A lot of it happens during the day in the midst of work. We'll stop and we'll hug. Or we’ll slow dance in the kitchen,” she says. “Sometimes it's hard to set a whole date night when you have 7,000 things going on. So, we must grasp these moments and check in when we can. And I think it's become so organic to us that I actually didn't even realize how often we do it. But all day long, we're like, 'Are you good? I felt like your energy shifted,' because we're best friends, we just know. We just feel it happen.”
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Featured image by Cj Hart @hartbreak