As a part of our Friday Nights, Saturday Mornings feature, we're talking to some of our favorite boss ladies about their weekends, their way. How do they relax, recharge and refuel? As we all know, life shouldn't be all about work. It's what we do beyond business and career that help keep us motivated and able to dominate for the week ahead.
Serial entrepreneur, celebrity fashion stylist, and author Olori Swank is a busy woman. On any given day, her schedule can include working with clients, running her clothing boutique Swank Blue, and managing her digital platform for ecommerce entrepreneurs, eBoutique 101. Olori keeps it real on how she decompresses, refuels, and takes time for self - even though her day-to-day can be a bit unconventional.
Here's how Olori does her weekend, her way:
How Olori spends her Friday Nights:
"I've learned to stop living my life for the weekend, so there's nothing too different that happens on a Friday night than any other night of the week. The routine isn't particularly the same on every Friday either. I tend to gravitate towards activities my spirit is craving the most at that moment. It could be anything from diving into a new book (Atomic Habits by James Clear is a current fave); to writing a new book (I'm currently working on my fifth one). Some Fridays I want to be more social, so I'll cook and invite a few of my close girlfriends over to eat, drink champagne and chat about whatever we have going on in our lives at the moment. These nights are definitely way more meaningful than hanging out at the club and I feel have done a lot more to strengthen our friendships."
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"I've learned to stop living my life for the weekend, so there's nothing too different that happens on a Friday night than any other night of the week. I tend to gravitate towards activities my spirit is craving the most at that moment."
How she powers up on Saturday Mornings:
"On Saturdays, I'm typically up at around 4 AM or 5 AM (even when I try to do the "sleep-in" thing, I'm still up by 5:30/6). What I do with the rest of my day really depends on the projects I have going that week. If I'm in the middle of something major, I'm typically working on Saturday (which I've come to realize, I actually enjoy the most out of all my activities.) If my workload isn't as heavy, I enjoy ordering some breakfast and doing puzzles. The more challenging the puzzle is, the more excited my inner nerd is. Regardless of my workload, I always try to do wellness checks on various friends. A simple phone call asking how someone is doing can go a very long way."
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"If my workload isn't as heavy, I enjoy ordering some breakfast and doing puzzles. The more challenging the puzzle is, the more excited my inner nerd is."
Olori’s ideal Girls' Night:
"My favorite way to catch up on girls' night is to cook and invite everyone to come over for dinner. My friends and I also have random mastermind sessions. Everyone will come over with a notebook, laptop, and a bottle of wine or champagne. We'll strategize and drink until the mastermind eventually turns into us blasting trap music as loud as the speakers go and having a full-out dance party in my living room."
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How recharging helps her business:
"Taking time away from business from time-to-time is good because when you walk away from something to go experience something else, you return with a different perspective. Oftentimes my breaks from boss chick mode allow me to do my work better when I return because I have a new, fresh perspective."
Connect with Olori Swank on Instagram @oloriswank.
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Those myths that you keep telling yourself, and believe to be true may be what's holding you back, boo. Most of the time you're thinking these things on a subconscious level and may not even realize the damage that's being done. But once you gain clarity and call out your limiting beliefs for what they are, you'll finally be able to break free and reach new levels financially.
Let's dig into a few myths that have a direct impact on your money and are keeping you BROKE.
1. “Money is the root of all evil.”
Nah, this right here is a straight-up LIE! The truth is this: the LOVE OF MONEY is the root of all evil. When you think that money is the root of all evil, you're limiting yourself from keeping money, as well as receiving more of it. Without even knowing it, you might be scared of going after opportunities that will get you to the money.
Think about it. How can money be evil? Money is simply a resource that we control. Instead of believing and saying that money is the root of all evil, replace it with this supporting belief instead:
"Money is a resource and a means to do good and live well."
2. "I'm broke."
Broke is a mindset, boo. Your financial situation is shaped by how you think about money, which influences how you manage your money. Guess what? If you keep crying that you're broke, you're going to remain that way. All you are doing is reinforcing that limiting belief into the universe and your actions aren't gonna line up with what you need to do in order to get ahead.
It's imperative that you get a grip on this way of thinking and behaving, or else you'll never be able to break the cycle. I challenge you to think more in terms of abundance and believing that you can be wealthy. Are you up for the challenge?
3. "I can afford it."
You say that you can afford that pair of shoes and then turn around and realize that you don't even have enough money for gas the morning after. You can't just look at your checking account balance in the moment and think that everything is all good. Trust me, I've been there. This is where having a clear-cut, written budget comes in handy.
A budget is really just a spending/savings plan. It's a strategic system that lets you know how much money is coming in and going out every month. In reality, a budget can:
- Help you understand your financial situation and whether you can really afford something or not.
- Help you save for the things you want and do more of what you enjoy.
- Help you avoid getting caught short by bills you can't pay.
- Help you escape the paycheck-to-paycheck life.
4. "I deserve to treat myself."
GiphyHow many "treats" do you need, sis? If you really sit down and keep it 100 with yourself, do you really deserve those so-called treats? Are you taking care of your responsibilities like you should be? Instead of buying things that you don't need (with money you don't have) and labeling them as a "treat," you should be treating yourself by investing in your future and saving some coins.
If you spend all of the money that you earn instead of saving and investing it, you will never create the financial abundance that you do desire to have.
Here's a tip: Try putting both your short-term and long-term savings on auto-pilot so you don't even notice the money that you could be missing. When you don't have to look at it, you aren't tempted by any "excess" that you might have.
5. "I need to make more money and then I'll be better with my finances."
If you can't manage the little that you have now, what makes you think that you're gonna be able to manage more money? The more money you make, the more you're gonna spend if you don't get those habits in check early on. You're going to go right back to complaining about your finances and crying that you're still broke and in need of even more money. You'll never be satisfied. There will never be enough money. Remember, there are former millionaires who are struggling out here in these streets because they wanted to live a "fake fancy" lifestyle and ball out of control.
Start by being content with the income that you currently have and handling it with better care. Learn the ins and outs of sound financial management now, so that when you're finally blessed with more, you'll be able to manage it with ease.
I challenge you to start thinking better, which will ultimately lead to you doing better. It's time to prioritize your finances in a way that you haven't done before if you want to level up this year. It's time to activate your discipline. It's time to finally do something different.
Make the commitment to yourself and decide that absolutely nothing's gonna stand in your way of breaking that broke mentality.
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Originally published on January 5, 2018