Tarot cards are a divination tool that has been used for many years to connect people to source energy, God, or the universe at large (whatever you believe in). Tarot cards are said to have originated from a North Italian game called Tarrochinni, and it wasn’t until the 18th century that they began to be used for divination and occult purposes.
Today, tarot cards are used in many spiritual practices and can be used for your own personal use for some extra guidance when you need it. Your intuition and divine insight are always the strongest tools for you to use, however, tarot cards are a medium that can help you get there.
What Type of Tarot Deck Should I Get?
For those who already know some basics about tarot cards, have had a reading before, or understand the gist of things, working with the original Rider-Waite Deck would be a good starting point for you. Some images of this deck are a bit more graphic and could scare some beginners away, but if you already understand the meaning of them, then the messages won’t be as shocking when they come.
If you are completely new to tarot cards, I would recommend starting with an Angel Tarot Card Deck, an Animal Tarot Card Deck, or a Modern Tarot Card Deck rather than the traditional Rider-Waite Deck. The images on the modern versions of the original tarot cards are easier to take in, especially if you are more of a visual person or just beginning your tarot journey.
After some time, and when working with different decks, you will have your favorites and have other decks you use on certain occasions. The perfect tarot deck will vary between each reader, and if one deck doesn’t feel right for you or the messages aren’t clear, go for a different one.
Almost every deck comes with a booklet of the meaning of each card, and this component is essential, as it will help you study the deck and the cards so that you can understand the messages when they come.
The Meaning of the Tarot Cards: What Do the Tarot Cards Represent?
Every tarot card deck comes with 78 cards, each with a different meaning. The cards are divided into Major Arcana cards and Minor Arcana cards. Major Arcana cards hold a strong significance, and if you pull one of these cards, you know something major is happening right now or soon to come. The Minor Arcana cards come up for more everyday issues and day-to-day events. There are 22 Major Arcana cards and 56 Minor Arcana cards.
The Major Arcana cards are cards 0-21. Each of these cards stands alone and doesn’t belong to any of the four suits. The Major Arcana cards begin at 0, 0 being the Fool Card, representing the beginning of a journey. The last card of the Major Arcanas is 21, The World Card, representing the end or culmination of a journey.
The Major Arcana deck also involves the infamous Devil Card, which does not, in fact, mean what you may think it does. It really represents unhealthy habits, addictions, relationships, or fears. Same with the Death Card, which, if you pull it, does not mean you are doomed soon- however, it can mean you are going through a transitional phase right now and will be experiencing some closures in your life.
The Minor Arcana cards are divided into four suits: Wands, Swords, Pentacles, and Cups.
- Wands: creativity, passion, action, consciousness, and ego.
- Swords: communication, words, intellect, and conflict.
- Pentacles: finances, money, job, career, and sense of abundance.
- Cups: emotions, love, relationships, and heart energy.
Where Do I Start With Tarot?
Now that you have your deck, it’s time to begin your reading. Creating the right space, environment, and table setting is very important when it comes to reading tarot, and you want to set the right vibe. Make sure the area in which you will be placing your cards is clean, and also preferably put down a tarot cloth or table cloth in which the cards will go on top. It is also important to cleanse the tarot cards as well, and you can do so by waving incense over the cards or even taking a crystal quartz or amethyst crystal and waving it around the cards as well.
Before you begin to pull your cards, take a deep breath, center your mind, and open your heart. Intention is everything when reading tarot cards, and before you begin your reading, set your intention for what guidance you are looking to receive right now or what questions you want answered. If you are reading for someone else, keep the question they have in your mind while pulling the cards, and also ask their guides and angels what message they need to hear right now.
Finally, begin shuffling the deck and mixing the cards. Some prefer to separate the deck into threes before beginning a tarot spread, others feel shuffling the cards is enough. It is imminent to come up with your own practice that you do when you are pulling your cards, to activate the beginning of your reading.
How To Do Beginner Tarot Card Spreads
The tarot spread you use will depend on what you are reading for or what you want to know. If you are looking for some guidance for the day, have one question, or just need a simple pick-me-up, a one-card spread will do. If you want to look at your past, present, and future, then a three-card spread would work best, the past being on the far left, the present being the center card, and the future being the far right card.
Another common tarot spread that is used is the Celtic Cross Spread, which is a little more advanced and involves ten cards, each card representing your present, past, future, hopes, dreams, fears, and everything in between. A good tarot spread to do to start the year, on your birthday, or to see what the next 12 months have in store for you would be a 12-card spread, laying out a card for each month of the year to give you an energy forecast of what you can expect from each month of the coming year.
How To Read Tarot Cards: A Beginner’s Guide to Understanding the Messages
Using your intuition when reading tarot cards is key to understanding the message. Typically, the first thought or instinct you have when reading a card is the right one and one that isn’t tainted by preconceived notions or judgments.
Remember, tarot isn’t about getting the answers you are looking for, it’s about getting the answers you need. Through shuffling and doing readings often, you will notice that some of the cards will be upside down when you pull them. If you pull a card and it’s upside down, that is a message in itself. The way you read a card that is upside down is you take its original message and assume its opposite.
So, say you pull the Hanged Man, and it’s upside down. Then, the original message of the Hanged Man which is to pause, wait for better conditions and have patience- is reversed. The message for you here would be that the wait is over, and you will be moving forward again and out of stagnation. Not everyone prefers to read upside-down cards when they come up, and it will be up to you if you choose to read your cards in that way.
As you work with tarot cards more often, you will notice more about how your own intuition comes about, what messages you see, and what practices work best for you. Divination is used to help you see what path you are currently on and what path you are headed towards. Tarot cards are less about “seeing the future” and more about understanding it and what you can do now to create it.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
The Mecca Of Fashion: The Top Street Style Moments At Howard Homecoming
Outfits were planned, bags were packed, and cameras were ready to capture Howard University's collegiate spirit during its centennial Homecoming celebration. Not only does it hold the number one ranking as the most elite Historically Black College and University or its top performing academics, diversity of students and alumni, but the HBCU also leaves a legacy of style and grace.
The essence of effortless poise and refinement shines bright through the iconic university colors of indigo blue, red, and white. Every October, Howard University students, alumni, staff, and friends gather on the prestigious campus in Washington, D.C. to take part in time-honored traditions and events, which is Homecoming. This year's theme, “The Meccaverse,” was a week-long celebration of Howard University’s heritage, including the Homecoming football game and Bison Pep Rally, the Fashion Show, Greek Life Step Show, Homecoming Day of Service, Lavender Reception, and the iconic Yard Fest Concert.
As 2024 marked the 100th anniversary of the Howard Bison trek back to The Mecca and after two years of virtual events due to the COVID-19 pandemic, this was to be a celebration of a lifetime. We enlisted HU alumnus Sharmaine Harris, a luxury retail buyer, as she revisited her alma mater as eyes on the yard for fashion-forward outfits mixed with personal style and campus pride for the weeklong celebration.
Before we get to the looks, discover how attending Howard University impacted her career in fashion and her day-to-day style:
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xoNecole: Describe your personal style. Did attending Howard have any impact on developing it?
Sharmaine: Howard taught me that there’s no such thing as being TOO dressed. There’s always a reason to “put it on” and look presentable, even if it’s just for a day of classes. Standing out was celebrated and encouraged with my peers embracing the opportunity, giving me the confidence to try new styles and trends.
xoNecole: How did Howard shape your career as a luxury buyer?
Sharmaine: I studied Fashion Merchandising, through which I was fortunate to have professors who were very connected to the industry and able to give first-hand accounts of opportunities and what to expect post-college. I was also able to build a network through my peers and other Howard Alum, which has opened doors to endless possibilities both within fashion as well as daily life.
The same confidence instilled in me through my style has also been rooted deeply within me as I step into any role or project I’m faced with throughout my career.
xoNecole: This year marked Howard’s 100th-anniversary Homecoming celebration. Can you describe what the weekend looked and felt like?
Sharmaine: I’ve gone to many Howard Homecomings since graduating, but this year’s 100th anniversary felt like a huge family reunion filled with nothing but love. It was beautiful to see so many Bison return home looking great and radiating joy. It was beautiful!
xoNecole: What makes Howard fashion different from other HBCUs?
Sharmaine: Being that Howard is The Mecca, we have such a diverse population with each individual having their own spin on fashion. Getting dressed is second nature for us, but the layered confidence is our secret ingredient to make any look come together. Through that comfortability to push barriers, we have a legacy of setting trends, as indicated by the many alumni we have in the fashion and entertainment industry.
Keep scrolling for the top street style moments from The Mecca's Homecoming weekend:
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We Had A Strong Connection IRL But My Instagram Scared Him Away
If you scroll past anydating guru’s free advice, such as dating coach Anwar’s, they often promote a long-curated list of dos and don’ts, advising women on how to attract the ideal relationship.
“When men are looking at your pictures on social media or on dating apps, they’re making two assessments: one–affordability, and two–seriousness.” Dating coach Anwar said. He recommends women curate their pictures well by minimizing skin and avoiding posting too many traveling pictures which don’t represent your full life because men are trying to envision themselves in your life.
I certainly don’t believe in shrinking the essence of who I am just to bag a man –whether in-person or online– including for the one thing that brings me pure joy: my worldwide adventures. By now, it’s common knowledge that social media is only a shiny highlight reel that doesn’t take into account all aspects of real life.
I’m fortunate that the men I date in my late 30s are mature enough to understand that notion, but in the past, I’ve learned the hard way that many men are, in fact, judging women’s social media accounts to determine if they are a perfect match.
While trying to stay afloat in grad school, I managed a week-long promotional gig for a festival concert. I stumbled across a breathtakingly handsome guy engrossed in curating melodic sound production as an audio engineer.
Fine enough to giveBridgerton’s Regé-Jean Page a run for his money, this tall cutie had glistening caramel skin, big brown eyes, and a gorgeous smile that radiated across the conference center.
My heart practically stopped each time I glanced at him. I caught him conspicuously glancing my way throughout the day, too. Our energy was magnetic. I couldn’t let him get away without making it very apparent I was feeling him. Ten hours passed before we found ourselves drawing near one another. Dating co-workers is against my rules, however, dating someone I’ve met after completing a temporary gig was an exception I’d happily make.
Serotonin oozed throughout my body when he approached me. We engaged in meaningless talk, while I anticipated he’d ask for my number. Instead, he asked, “What’s your IG name?”
I’m old school; I want to get acquainted chatting on the phone until twilight–or on a well-executed romantic date. I accepted his request and followed him back. Baby steps.
Each time his adorable face popped into my mind, a rush of happiness flooded me. I’d already conducted a pre-check for a potential relationship, and based on absolutely nothing but chemistry, he had already passed. Scrolling through his page, I could see he had three, incredibly young children, from ages two to five. That’s okay, I can play step-mommy. Or so I thought.
The next morning, I swapped out my motivational morning gospel music for my vibey, R&B music. I floored the gas pedal, speeding to work in hopes of getting to the fine audio engineer as quickly as possible.
I sashayed through the conference doors with an extra sway in my hips–smitten and glowing as my bright eyes landed on him, standing by for sound check. He took one blistering look at me, and as time stood still, his scathing disapproval made me feel as though we were arch-enemies with unfinished business.
What happened in the less than twelve hours we met and were apart? I was flabbergasted by his bait-and-switch of emotions. The only culprit, I surmised: freaking Instagram.
A few hours of him ducking and diving to avoid me passed. I put my grown woman panties on and marched over to him. He pretended he couldn’t see me through the corner of his eye, but judging from the nervous stiffening of his erect posture and locked jaw–even through his discomfort, he would have to face me.
“Hey, how’s it going? You’re different today,” I said casually, yet resolute, peering deep into his wide eyes.
“Well, you know, it’s cause you’re big time. I’m just a regular guy.” He quipped. Completely confused, I stared blankly at him, waiting for an explanation.
“Your Instagram...” He confirmed like I had full knowledge of his insecurities.
“If I had seen your page before I met you, I would’ve never tried to talk to you. I’m not good enough for you.”
I melted into a puddle of vexation. I wasn’t a celebrity or social media star. Hell, I didn’t even have more than 5,000 followers! I’m a regular girl who’s had a career in entertainment which has afforded me many opportunities to attend swanky events; I love upscale travel and dining at Yelp’s highest-rated star restaurants–and yes, I relish capturing those delicious moments. But at that time, I was a broke girl in grad school, making a few coins on the same gig I’m certain he was earning a pretty penny for.
He’d already taken over my thoughts, feelings, and body’s desires in a short twenty-four hours. Though he was far from aware of all the ways he had swept me off my feet without stepping foot on an actual date, the energy between us was undeniable. I literally couldn’t stop thinking about him and grinning since the moment I saw him, and I know for sure he felt the same. And now he’s thinking he isn’t good enough for me?
He was fine, humble, funny, had a sexy physique, and a lucrative career, yet for some ridiculous reason he’d convinced himself he could never be with a woman like me? I was floored. Typically, I’m not forward with men in the initial stages of dating. It’s important I feel highly desired and sought after before I explode candidly. But the world was going to absolutely know that day: “I like you. You’re someone I’d like to get to know. And you’re absolutely perfect for me.”
He sighed and relaxed his shoulders. I felt empowered, quelling his feelings of inadequacy. (Or temporarily, I shall say). I’d soon learn that if a guy was harboring major insecurities, the idyllic lines to boost his ego are merely fleeting.
Pumped up on an extra dose of courage, later that day, he asked for my number. And I delightfully obliged.
We spent a good amount of time expressing our mutual feelings towards each other and perused through calendar dates to see when our schedules would match up. He lived in Las Vegas, but working as an audio engineer for major events necessitated him to spend most of his year traveling across the country and internationally. Still, I was determined to make it work.
And yet, it didn’t work. Despite my insanely busy grad schedule, I was ready to trek to Vegas or whichever country he visited, except his insecurities overflowed like putrefying lava. I probed to see how involved he was with his baby mama. Ya know, normal stuff. Somehow, he took that as a jab.
“You don’t want to date me because I have three kids, huh?” Again, he left me confused and exhausted because I was absolutely ready to become a bonus mommy to the right one.
Despite the endless times I cleared up what he thought was a problem, boom! another insecurity flared up. Coddling a mid-thirties man, who had thee lowest self-esteem I’d ever encountered was dooming.
A few months passed and winter had descended upon the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah. I’d just left a snazzy art gallery Chiwetel Ejiofor hosted for his independent movie premiere. Park City is a magical and frosty cold, picturesque town in January. Most of the festival events are situated on densely packed Main Street. I stepped my leather boots outside onto the icy, uphill sidewalk, with a platonic male friend in tow. My phone rang–it was audio engineer bae. I noticed his name and pushed decline.
“You ignoring me now when you could’ve easily picked up the phone?”
What in the hell?! I peered around on both sides of my street, cautiously nervous.
I hopped into the black SUV. The festival traffic moves slower than molasses. You could gingerly walk down the street and still beat a moving car. As the driver slowly peeled away, I glanced to the opposite side of the art gallery street; there I saw old bae, forlornly staring at me, saddened with puppy eyes in his hooded Parka. I was busted. In my defense, however, I hadn’t heard from him in months, and us dating was certainly a never-ever-going-to-happen-closed case.
How was I supposed to know he’d been watching me from 150 feet away? No human in their right mind would expect an immediate answer, but he did.
“Hey, sorry, but it’s really hectic; I gotta hurry to this next event.” I apologized despite not owing him one. If he’d crossed my mind at any point up until now, it’d be futile. His recurring insecurities ate at him and thus, swallowed any attraction or potential traction for us.
By the time my plane landed in sunny Los Angeles, he unfriended me on IG. Exhausted from the nonsensical mental gymnastics, I unfollowed him, too.
Finally, we agreed: the feeling is mutual, boo.
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