

First and foremost, thank you for staying home to help flatten the curve. We are living in unprecedented times with the weight of the pandemic weighing heavily on every person in the world. Despite this momentous occurrence, life is still happening. Nails are lifting, wigs are shifting and hair is growing everywhere.
How you choose to groom or not to groom during self-isolation is between you and Jesus. But we know that many women relish in keeping a body free of unwanted hair, so it's our job to help you get it done. We checked in with wax guru and owner of Pretty Girls Get Waxed, Kejuana Curry, for some tips and tricks for grooming at home since all salons have closed due to COVID-19.
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Kejuana founded Pretty Girls Get Waxed when she felt there wasn't a trendy, professional and fun, full body waxing center in Memphis, TN. "We provide quality hair removal without the pain and hassle, featuring our very own Signature Hard Wax created by our founder. Our wax centers employee the best licensed professionals to not only deliver superb service but to educate our clients on proper skincare."
With that in mind, please be careful and safe because we ain't got time for burns, scars or injuries. The wax guru is sharing some hot tips ahead!
To Wax, Shave or Use Depillatory Cream - That Is The Question
Pretty Girls Get Waxed
"If you have the guts to wax yourself and you're in need of a wax warmer, you can use a crock pot to heat your wax. If you don't have a crock pot, you can also use an essential oil plug in. (Recommended: Pretty Girls Get Waxed's Signature Hard Wax, for professional and non-professional use)
"If you want to shave, I highly recommend that you don't. Shaving is the worst way to remove hair from your body. Shaving can easily cause irritation, ingrown hairs, discoloration, and changes the texture of your hair to a more coarser state. Regrowth happens quickly, and because hair is cut off at the surface, regrown hair is blunt, not tapered, so hair will be thicker. Before you shave, I highly suggest you 'trim' with scissors ONLY!
"If you just have to use a depilatory cream (which I do not recommend) you'll be much better off stoping by Target and purchasing some hair removal wax strips like Flamingo Wax Strips. Again, this form of hair removal is much better than any other. Depilatory creams are heavily compacted with chemicals that can irritate the skin and burn the skin as well. Because they don't completely removal the hair from the root, you run the risk of ingrown hairs as well. Over time, the creams seep into your pores and cause inflammation and boils.
"'Quarantine Clean' isn't so bad if you know what to do. As an esthetician, I would never recommend anyone to use shaving or depilatory creams. They simply are not good for the health of your skin."
How To Wax At-Home
"If you're bold enough to wax yourself, there's a great easy-to-use hard wax on the market that is beginner-friendly. You can purchase a 2lb bag of wax and all the supplies you need to complete the task at prettygirlsgetwaxed.com. Waxing is going to be the healthiest form of hair removal. It removes the hair from the root so it grows back much slower. Because it is being pulled from the root, it thins the hair so when it does grow back in, it's finer and thinner.
"DIY waxing can be easy and very beneficial! Some great exfoliants are sugar, salt, coffee and baking soda. Mix it with your cleanser or water and apply the paste to your skin, rub it in and then rinse!"
Self-Grooming Hacks
Pretty Girls Get Waxed
"The most important thing to keep in mind when grooming yourself is yourself. Always do as much or as little as YOU feel comfortable with. Some people prefer having hair on them and that's OK. Groom yourself to your liking."
Brows
"One tip for grooming your brows is to brush the hairs up instead of brushing them horizontally. You get a better shape when you brush upward."
Bikini Line
"One tip for grooming your bikini line is more, more, more. Less is NOT more! More is best. Put on your underwear and gather them at the top, then remove all the hair that you can see. You always want to take off more just in case some [hair] tries to peak through!"
Legs
"One tip for grooming your legs is always do it! Silky smooth legs are always in! Wax your entire legs consistently and watch less and less hair grow each time!"
For more tips from Kei The Wax Guru, follow her on Instagram.
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Are You & Your Partner Financially Compatible? Here’s How To Tell.
With nearly half of all marriages that end in divorce citing finances as the nail in the coffin to deading their relationship, financial compatibility is one aspect of long-term compatibility that doesn't get talked about enough. Beyond the circular 50/50 discourse and whatever hot-button issues regarding providers and the like, at its core, financial compatibility is about how well your financial behaviors, values, and long-term goals align with those of your partner.
More than it is about how much money a person makes or doesn't make, financial compatibility focuses on how you think about money, how you spend your money, and most importantly, how you plan for the future with your money. Think, questions about money mindsets, spending habits, debt, budget, etc. Are you a saver and he's a spender? Do you see money as a tool for freedom? Does he see it as something to hold on tightly to as a means of survival? Can you talk about your financial goals and plans openly?
Knowing if you and your partner are financially compatible can save a lot of heartache, a lot of headaches, and a lot of money in the end. Keep reading for a few key indicators to pay attention to and learn whether or not you and your partner are truly aligned financially.
Signs You’re Financially Compatible
1. You can talk about money without judgment.
Conversations about money aren't something you dread. You're able to talk to your partner freely and openly about money matters, like debts, bills, the budget, etc., even when it is uncomfortable. There is an understanding that talking about money doesn't have to be something you're on the defense about, instead it's an opportunity for transparency, clarity, and solutions.
2. You respect each other's money personalities.
What is a money personality? According to Ken Honda, author of Happy Money, a money personality is our "approach and emotional responses to money" and there are seven money personalities we can fall under. These personalities can help us understand our own relationship with money, as well as our partner's. For example, maybe you're someone who likes to treat yourself to a fancy dinner once a month and your partner is someone who believes ordering takeout and not cooking meals at home is a cardinal sin.
When you can respect each other's money personalities, neither approach is subjected to judgment and shifts can be made in each other's spending habits as needed and from a place of love versus guilt or shame.
3. You agree on what it means to have "financial security."
Whether it’s building a stacked emergency fund, paying off debt before putting a downpayment on a home or being able to splurge on a baecation without checking your account balance before the bill arrives, your definitions of what it means to be financially secure are in sync, or at least compatible enough to reach a compromise.
4. You are not each other's "financial parent."
You’re not constantly teaching, fixing, or stressing out over what the other person is doing with their money. Although I fast-forwarded through a lot of the most recent season of Love Is Blind, I did pay attention to Virginia and Devin and money seemed to be a recurring theme in their conversations. It was clear Virginia had her ish together when it came to money and her financial plans for the future and Devin was not quite on her level.
Though she said no at the altar for additional reasons, I could also see how sis could eventually get very tired of being her partner's second mama, so to speak. And that's the thing about being your partner's "financial parent," eventually, you could end up feeling like you are one-half of a "parenting" or "teaching" dynamic with your partner instead of feeling like you're equals in a partnership.
5. You make financial decisions with each other in mind, not for each other.
Whether it’s booking a trip, deciding which debt to tackle first, saving up for a big purchase, or planning out your next move, there’s a mutual respect for each other’s input. Those shared goals might look like wealth, freedom, stability, or just a debt-free life that feels soft and secure.
You don’t have to be chasing the same bag in the same exact way, but you do need to be aligned on the vision. What you're building should feel like a joint venture with shared effort and purpose, not one of y’all making major money moves like you're still single. Making financial decisions is not just about where the money goes, it's about where you’re going together.
6. You're aligned when it comes to the big stuff.
Financial compatibility extends to the long-term of money management. The legacy, structure, and shared responsibility that comes with decisions like shared accounts, estate planning, having babies, or even blending families. Will you split bills or combine income? Who’s taking time off if you have a child? How do y’all feel about generational wealth or investing for your family’s future? You and your partner have had the real conversations.
These conversations can’t wait until after the wedding or until after a baby’s here. They’re the foundation for how you function as a unit, and if you're not aligned, or at least willing to get on the same page, that incompatibility can cause friction in the end that love alone can't fix.
Love is cute and all, but building an empire together? That’s the real flex. Tap into our new series Making Cents to see what financial compatibility really looks like when love and legacy go hand in hand.
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