The day I closed on my first home was met with mixed emotions. On one hand, I was excited to take a big step in my life and towards my financial goals. I had found the perfect investment property that would serve as my primary residence for at least the next year—a cute little bungalow in an area that was sure to significantly increase my property value in a few years.
Yet, there was a bit of anxiety as I walked through the door. Was I making the right decision? Would buying this home be a blessing and not a curse? Would I be cleared to close, or would one final run of my credit report show something that would stop me from being able to purchase the home?
I swallowed my fears, said a little prayer, and proceeded with the process of signing on the dotted line. The home was officially mine, and getting the keys to my new abode brought a wave of pride. But as I would later discover while making my new house a home, there were many things I wished I had considered before buying my first home, and even more so now that I’m in my second one.
“Purchasing a home is a beautiful experience,” shares Lauren Cobb, realtor at Keller Williams Peachtree Road in Atlanta, Georgia. “I’ve seen real estate change the lives of many clients, including myself, by buying at the right time and within budget. It’s also a unique experience for each buyer. No buyer has the same experience as their family or peers.”
With that in mind, here are five tips I wish I'd known before buying my first home.
1.The underwriting process is thorough; they will examine everything.
The underwriting process for my first home went relatively smoothly. I had just gotten out of debt and had a great credit score. I’d been at my job for four years, so I could show consistent income. I didn’t have any student loans or car payments to consider, and I didn’t anticipate taking on any new debt. I was glad I had worked hard to get my finances in order before going into underwriting. But it’s not always that easy, and here’s why.
Once you get pre-approved, you should generally expect your lender to ask for one month of pay stubs, two months of bank statements, and two years of W-2s to start the underwriting process. This can vary depending on the type of loan you’re going for, where your income comes from (W-2, your own business, etc.), and the industry you work in. During this time, you shouldn’t take on any new credit as they will compare your original credit report to the one pulled right before closing.
In HGTV host Egypt Sherrod’s book Keep Calm, It’s Just Real Estate: Your No-Stress Guide to Buying a Home, she shares that “banks approve you for your mortgage based upon your credit score and savings at the time of approval. Your approval is contingent upon those items remaining the same through closing.” In other words, any new additional debts will impact your loan from closing. Even something as simple as using Afterpay or Klarna will be treated as an installment loan, and you will be asked to provide documentation for that transaction.
I recommend not making any major purchases before you close on your home as it can determine if you get a final approval to close and the interest rate. This will make your process much smoother, and you will be more likely to see the sweet words “Please see your attached final CD,” letting you know that you’ve successfully cleared underwriting and are approved to close.
2.Property taxes and insurance can significantly increase your monthly payments.
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One of the main reasons that many of us buy a home is that we’re hoping to escape the neverending rent increase that we’re presented with at the end of our lease. While a fixed-rate mortgage offers predictable monthly payments, what’s not often shared is how property tax and insurance increases can impact your mortgage payments.
I admittedly was caught by surprise when last year my mortgage went up by $400 because the county assessed my property value to be higher than years prior. If you purchase a home in an area where homes increase in value at a faster rate than others, you may find that the increased equity that you’re celebrating comes at a price, and depending on your budget that price may make or break whether or not you can still afford the home.
One way to combat rising property costs is to look into your state’s homestead exemption laws. According to the National Association of Realtors, the homestead exemption, at its core, “reduces the taxable value of a homeowner's primary residence, meaning a portion of the home value will not be taxed. This reduction results in lower property tax bills.” This exemption only applies to your primary residence and the requirements vary from state to state, but if you do qualify, it can save you from extreme hikes in property taxes and thousands of dollars over time.
3.Your mortgage impacts your debt-to-income ratio, affecting your ability to qualify for other credit.
In an ideal world, your mortgage would be less than the cost of rent you were proverbially shaking your fist over. But in reality, that’s not always the case. Due to high interest rates, the increasing cost of homeownership, and the type of home you’re looking for, you may find yourself paying more than you were before in rent (but hey, at least it’s going toward something that could potentially be an asset one day, right? Right?!).
Your lender may approve you for a higher monthly payment, but it’s not until you move into your lovely abode and attempt to apply for new credit or even refinance months or years down the road that you learn that with a higher monthly payment, you’ve also increased your debt-to-income (DTI) ratio. This is a number that lenders use to determine if you’re a good candidate for credit approval, and even a couple of hundred dollars can push you beyond the DTI they’re comfortable with approving.
If your income is increasing and you’re not taking on other debt, this may not be an issue for you. But as we all know, life happens, so it’s always good to be prepared and to plan accordingly in case you find yourself in need of credit in the future.
4.Ask the seller for a credit to help lower your out-of-pocket costs.
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One thing that held me back from buying sooner was assuming that I would need a lot more cash available for closing. While you should always be prepared to pay the estimated closing costs shared with you by the lender, it’s good to know that the final amount may be higher or lower than what is on the final Closing Disclosure (CD). One way to potentially lower that amount is to negotiate a seller credit.
A seller credit is money that the seller gives the buyer at closing, usually lowering your out-of-pocket closing costs. The main way to negotiate this is to use your inspection report to get an estimate of the cost of any repairs that the report highlights. For example, when I purchased my home, I knew from the inspection report that the HVAC was 18 years old and would need replacement soon. I reached out to a few different HVAC companies to get estimates on the cost of replacing the unit and used the highest estimate to negotiate with the seller to cover the cost of replacing the HVAC. I did the same with a few other needed repairs, and the seller agreed to contribute a $10,000 seller credit to cover these costs. This reduced my closing costs from $24,456 to $14,456.
Sometimes, the seller will even offer a credit upfront to incentivize the buyer to go under contract, especially if the home has been on the market for some time and/or they are looking to sell quickly. While these deals aren’t always easy to find, nor are sellers required to provide them, it’s good to know that it’s a possible option in case you’re looking for a way to lower your out-of-pocket costs.
5.Negotiate with the seller to buy down the interest rate.
Anyone who has been home shopping in the last couple of years can attest that current mortgage rates are high compared to rates during the pandemic, which, according to Investopedia, reached as low as 2.65% in January 2021 for 30-year, fixed-rate mortgages. Even a small increase in your mortgage rate can significantly raise your monthly payments and potentially price you out of your desired home. But there’s good news!
Similar to a seller credit, you can potentially negotiate a rate buydown with the seller. A rate buydown allows the buyer to secure a lower interest rate by having the seller pay the lender to reduce the interest rate. For example, you may have locked in a 7.5% fixed interest rate with your lender, but thanks to your realtor negotiating a buydown with the seller, they are willing to contribute enough money to lower your rate to 7%. Sellers are sometimes motivated to do this as it can often be cheaper than lowering the price of their home. A lower mortgage rate can significantly reduce your monthly payment and save you thousands of dollars over the lifetime of your mortgage.
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Navigating the home-buying process can be overwhelming, but understanding these key factors can help you make more informed decisions and save you thousands of dollars in the long run. Keep these tips in mind to ensure a smoother, more rewarding home-buying experience.
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A Cosmic Guide To Love In 2025: What The Stars Have In Store For Your Heart
The most important lesson we are learning about love in 2025 is change. Many major Astrological transits are happening this year, and these will last for years to come. As we walk through this new year, we are being asked to let go of the things we can’t control, and give more grace to the things we can. This is a year of a new perspective on love, finding gratitude in the little things, and watching as the universe supports us and the dreams we build for ourselves here.
At the beginning of the year, we are being shown how significant 2025 will be for love. From March 1, 2025, until April 12, 2025, Venus, the planet of love and relationships, will be retrograde. Venus goes retrograde approximately every 18 months and hasn’t been retrograde since the Summer of 2023. With love taking a step back at the beginning of the year, we move through a time of understanding the emotional world better and letting go of trying to control outcomes here.
What Does 2025 Have in Store for Love?
It’s time to refocus your relationship priorities overall, and with this retrograde happening in both Aries and Pisces, Aries being the first sign of the zodiac and Pisces being the last; there is a chapter we are closing and a new one we are walking into.
Another significant factor that is influencing relationships this year, is Jupiter’s entry into Cancer. Jupiter brings blessings, abundance, luck, and expansion, and in water sign Cancer, brings these gifts to your emotions. Cancer rules emotional safety, foundations, close loved ones, family, support, and emotional well-being, and with Jupiter in this sign from June 9, 2025, until June 30, 2026, we experience blessings in stability within love. This is a good year for building stronger foundations in love, aligning with those who are loyal and supportive, knowing what you need emotionally, and being a lot clearer on it.
Letting Go of the Past: The Astrological Theme of 2025
Overall, the guideline for the year when it comes to love is to focus on the bigger picture and let things work themselves out without forcing them to. Magic will come in for you this year when you can assess your needs and wants, let go of illusions or smoke and mirrors, and focus on the things you want for yourself rather than what you don’t. Your focus and beliefs on love are the priority right now, and things will be coming full circle for the better.
Read below to see your personal 2025 love forecast. Read for your sun, moon, and rising signs.
What Does Your Zodiac Sign Say About Your 2025 Love Life?
ARIES
2025 is one of the more significant years for you, Aries. A lot of the major transits are happening in your sign, which includes Venus retrograde in Aries at the beginning of the year, Neptune in Aries from March 2025 until 2039, and Saturn in Aries from May 2025 until 2028. Not to mention, Chiron, the wounded healer is currently in your sign until 2027.
What this means for you when it comes to love, is that you have learned a lot about where you want to be here, and it’s the year to implement more of these tools and knowledge of the heart.
This year for love is about honoring your integrity and what you need personally to thrive in life and creating that space to let it in. You need someone who will be there for you through whatever you are experiencing in life and not someone who adds to these challenges. This year is a time of rising above, and choosing better for yourself.
TAURUS
2025 for you when it comes to love, is all about perspective and taking better care of your heart, Taurus. Uranus, the planet of change, rebellion, progress, and upheaval, has been in your sign since 2019, and this year you get a break from all of the surprises. From Jul. 7, 2025, until Nov. 7, 2025, Uranus leaves your sign and enters Gemini, giving your mind and your heart some time to breathe.
This year you are being given the opportunity to see things for what they are, rather than what you fear them to be. You are able to see your relationship dynamics clearer, allowing you to feel more confident in what you are building and creating for yourself in this area of your life. What you are working on this year is letting go of overthinking, and allowing things to play out the way they are meant to in love.
GEMINI
This year you are feeling in balance when it comes to love, Gemini. Relationships are important to you in life overall, as you are a relationship-oriented sign, but it can be difficult at times to keep the balance and perspective here. This year, with lucky Jupiter in your sign until June, you have the opportunity to be blessed with some fortunate circumstances personally and within romance.
You are feeling yourself this year, and this is attracting you success and new opportunities within love.
Uranus will also be in your sign this year from Jul. 7 until Nov. 7, and some surprises are in store for you. Pay attention to what happens in your love life during this period, as similar themes will be coming back around for you when Uranus officially enters its Gemini transit from 2026 - 2032. Overall, this year is about balancing what’s coming and going in love, and finding your peace within your inner confidence for it all.
CANCER
2025 for you, Cancer, is about stability in love. You are growing emotionally from the ground up, and are feeling a sense of support, confidence, romance, and receptivity in your love life this year. You are one of the lucky signs of 2025, and this is due to Jupiter, the planet of blessings, entering your sign from June 9, 2025, until June 30, 2026. While Jupiter is in your sign, your life expands and you are able to see the gifts of your world that may have been harder to come by previously.
This is a year of spending more time with your loved ones and feeling more heard and supported emotionally. Safety and security are especially important to you this year, and you are only entertaining the people who feel that way about you and provide that. Many Cancers will be expanding their families this year or developing a long-term relationship, and overall this is a year of feeling stronger when it comes to love.
LEO
When it comes to love this year for you, Leo, it’s about trusting your intuition and listening more to what your heart is telling you. There are not many major transits happening in Leo in 2025, which means there is a lot of room to grow, but you may be feeling a lack of support or encouragement to do so. A lot of Leos are taking a step back to look at where they are currently in love, and yearning for some change and a new direction here.
Neptune will be in your 9th house of adventure for most of this year, and you are being asked to get inspired and do things differently, but don’t take unnecessary risks in love that may not serve you in the long run.
It can be easy to get lost in the fantasy of love rather than the actual reality you’ll live in here, and taking more time to understand yourself, your relationships, and the dynamics in your love life will be necessary. Overall, your heart is healing this year and you are moving away from the past and creating your new future.
VIRGO
This year when it comes to love, you are going through changes that are aligning you closer to your goals and dreams here, Virgo. You are focused on making things work that you want to see bloom, and also letting go of putting effort into people that aren’t reciprocating the same energy. With the North Node entering your sister sign Pisces and the South Node moving into your sign from Jan. 11, 2025, until Jul. 26, 2026, you are doing a lot of letting go over the next year.
However, with the North Node being in your 7th house of love, new doors and gifts are also opening up for you and your partnerships. The more you can let go of perfection and overworking your mind and your heart, the more blessings you will experience when it comes to love this year. In 2025, you also have two Eclipses in your sign, and there are overall a lot of changes Virgos are moving through this year. Your main guidance for love is to stand by the things that serve your heart and release yourself from what burdens it.
LIBRA
Love is coming to fruition for you this year, Libra. You have been through a lot in your personal life these past few years, and walking into 2025, you are ready for some positive change. This is a year of feeling in balance with your personal goals and dreams, and what you are experiencing romantically and financially as well. Relationship dynamics are serving you and your sense of abundance, and many gifts are coming your way in love this year.
With Neptune, Chiron, and Saturn all being in your 7th house of love, your love life and partnerships are the main focus for you in 2025.
You are moving through changes, overcoming previous obstacles, and bringing back the dreamy energy here. With Chiron in the 7th, you are still doing some healing of the heart, but with Neptune now entering, it all feels a little more romantic and spiritual at the same time. This year is about believing in the impossible in love, taking care of yourself, and allowing someone else to take care of you as well.
SCORPIO
This year is all about opportunity when it comes to love, Scorpio. You have your eyes on the prize and are focused on what you want for yourself, but also how you want to show up for love as well. You have goals and intentions that you are setting for your love life this year, and a lot of them reflect the passion and strength you are feeling as you enter the year. Vesta is in your sign this year until September, and you have a spark within you that is a magnet for success and love. You are walking forward confidently and are feeling inspired, sexy, and magical this year.
This is a very sensual and powerful year for you, and this energy is being reflected in the relationship experiences you are having. Jupiter also enters your 9th house of adventure halfway through the year, and there is something special about the trips you are taking and the risks you are taking in love. Overall, this is a year of doing things your way and attracting love to you through your inner confidence and charisma.
SAGITTARIUS
This is a beautiful year of feeling balanced and abundant in love, Sagittarius. There is a lot of energy coming in and you are giving a lot of love as well. This sense of synergy you are feeling within your love life this year has a lot to do with Juno, the asteroid of soulmates, in your sign from Feb. 19 - Apr. 15. Your people are coming in and you have options this year, Sag.
This is a year of feeling loved for the inspiring, outgoing, and unique being you are, and meeting more people who match your energy.
Saturn also enters your 5th house of romance this year, and you are learning a lot through your experiences with others. You are learning how to be more confident in who you are and what you want for yourself and also recognizing the importance of making more time for fun and playful experiences. This is the year to see love as a more light-hearted experience and to not take yourself too seriously.
CAPRICORN
You are letting things come to you when it comes to love this year, Capricorn. You are feeling beautiful, capable, and worthy, and you are receiving the gifts that come from this sense of confidence and patience. This past year, you were setting a lot of new goals for yourself and your relationships, and in 2025, you are experiencing the results of these efforts.
Jupiter moves into your sister sign Cancer from June 9, 2025, until June 30, 2026, and enters your 7th house of love, partnerships, romance, marriage, and harmony. Your love life and experience of it all are expanding this year, and benevolent Jupiter is sending blessings to this area of your life. This is a year of things coming full circle for you in love, and you feel less confused about it all and more sure of yourself and what is becoming for you here.
AQUARIUS
Love is a highlight for you this year, Aquarius. You are coming together with another, and many Aquarius’ will be forming new relationships or growing within a strong relationship. You are experiencing the fruition of your dreams in love, and are also able to heal and let go of past emotional experiences that have been overwhelming for you in the past.
The North Node enters your 12th house of closure this year, and you are motivated towards change, cleaning house, and releasing the cobwebs of the past.
You are walking into new emotional experiences with less baggage and self-doubt, and are experiencing a fresh start in love. This is a year of asking for what you need emotionally and receiving it. Love is coming in for you in harmonious and magical ways, and you are rewriting your story in love in 2025.
PISCES
You are moving through a lot of changes when it comes to love in 2025, Pisces. This is a year of closure, healing, and giving yourself a fresh start, and the way you enter the year will be a lot different than the way you end it. The North Node of Destiny enters your sign this year, and the South Node of Karma enters your 7th house of love. So, a lot of your focus this year is on your personal goals and path, and there may be some neglect or lack of focus on your relationships.
This can create some discord with those close to you, and your guidance for this year is to try to balance the personal successes and wins you are experiencing, with the love changes that also need your attention right now. Know that what leaves your life this year is being replaced by something better, and also know that your healing doesn’t need to have a timeline and you can take as much time as you need to grow. Overall, you are turning a new page in love in 2025.
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'Love Is Blind''s Iyanna McNeely Finds Love Again As She Shares Engagement News
One of our favorite Love Is Blind alums is newly engaged!
Iyanna McNeely took to Instagram on Tuesday, Dec. 17, sharing, "A weekend of surprises, wonder, and happy cries. ✨ Something sparkly, something special, someone forever. ✨." She shared five photos from the weekend of her engagement on social media. The last image shows her gazing lovingly at her fiancé, whose name she has not yet revealed, as he lifts her into the air. The proposal seems to have taken place at the Civic Opera Building in Chicago, based on the pictures.
The comment section was flooded with congratulatory messages. Mallory Zapata, to whom McNeely's ex-husband Jarrette Jones initially proposed on Love Is Blind, extended her congratulations, commenting “Congratulations!!! 🎉🍾 ❤️.” Xanthi Perdikomatis, recognized from The Circle and Perfect Match, also expressed her admiration, stating “You look stunning 😍.” Iyanna replied, “Oh all the love 🥹. I feel it. Thank you everyone .”
The Georgia native started sharing posts on social media with her fiancé earlier this year, but has not revealed his identity. He isn't tagged in any posts, and mostly remains hidden. In a November post, only the top of his head is visible as he crouches behind McNeely while she takes a mirror selfie. In an October video, his face is completely covered by a mask.
We totally understand why Iyanna is being protective of this new love given the way her last marriage ended. Iyanna was previously married to Jarrett, who proposed to another woman before proposing to her. The couple met in the second season of Love Is Blind and had a rocky start. Despite the initial challenges, they were married in the show's finale.
Iyanna later accused Jarette of cheating on her during their "unhappy" marriage. In an episode of herFeel in the Blankpodcast, Iyanna confessed,
"Jarrette cheated. I found out three days before After the Altar. I received an email with very specific details." The former couple announced their split in August 2022, sharing the news in a joint Instagram statement in which they said their lives were "going in different directions."
The program coordinator officially filed for divorce in October 2022 through the Circuit Court of Cook County. Their divorce was finalized in November 2022. Jones confirmed the news in a statement, expressing that they would remain friends and wishing Iyanna well.
Iyanna's candid testimonials and inspiring life story made her a crowd favorite. She revealed her difficult childhood, growing up as an only child and being kicked out of her home at 18. Later, at 22, she was adopted by her godparents. Despite facing numerous challenges, Iyanna remains remarkably resilient, stating, “I had so many odds against me. I should not be this okay.”
It’s also evident that she’s been doing the work to become the best version of herself for her new partner. Over the years, she’s shared wisdom on social media like, "Know who you are. Know your worth. Surround yourself with mutually beneficial, reciprocal, and enriching relationships. And most importantly, GROW. No matter how exhausting. Because at the end of the day, it's for YOU."
She came through with another word sharing, "It's good to be loved. But it's profound to be seen, heard, valued, and understood. Not just on the obvious days, but as a lifestyle." And also, “This is your friendly reminder to take a look back at how far you've come and give yourself the praise, acknowledgment, grace, and love that you deserve."
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