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Keeping that fire and desire burning in a relationship is a task, but it's one that needs to be conquered if you plan on keeping "bae" hooked and latched. We all can get a little comfortable around our significant other once we've broken down all of the "how to impress them" barriers. But one things for sure, routine can be quite boring. If we want to keep our partner on their toes, then we need to make sure we are always switching up the tempo in and outside the bedroom. The imagination is a vivid playground and appealing to it is a sure way to have them begging for more of you.

Finding a healthy balance between work and play can sometimes feel like we're pulling teeth, but I can bet you remember the exact feeling of when you first met that special one and how excited you would get physically and mentally when you were ready to see them. Those feelings can be prolonged when we learn to implement ways to keep our partner's interest piqued and our climaxes peaked too.

When it comes to trying to keep things spicy, it simply goes back to the things that we may find unconventional but are easy to apply. Let your imagination run free and whatever comes to mind, go with that.

Here are a few essential aspects that you should implement to keep your them reminded of why they're yours.

Public Pleasure

112 couldn't have said it any better: "We can do it anywhere." Conventional places definitely get the job done but if you want to ignite a fire in your partner's heart and their nether regions too, you better use your imagination and get creative from time to time. Don't be afraid to take it back to the old days. Ride out with your partner to a beautiful place, park the car and head to third base. If you're a homebody, you've always got the shower, the patio and the kitchen to make things insanely hot. The element of surprise is a sure bet to get them at attention.

Sensual Games

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Hide and Seek is not just for kids. If you're looking to stimulate their mind and body, give your partner a run for their money by making them work their way to your well-deserved treasure. A scavenger hunt will certainly do the trick. When they come over excited to see you, prepare a few notes for them to find when they enter the door and lead them all the way to their honey. Trust, bae will be ready and anxious by the time they reach you, looking and smelling delightful of course. A good ol' fashioned card game of strip tease or sexy dice are an easy way to bring a fun and playful aspect back to any relationship that's a bit lackluster.

Sex Toys

Toys, how many of us have them? Toys, the ones we can depend on. If all else fails, you can try everything from vibrators, swings, cuffs, plugs, gags, and more if you want to add some flavor to your sexual menu. It's OK to get creative and think outside the "Box", literally and figuratively. When it comes to pleasure, the foreplay up to the actual act is sometimes the best part of sex. When you add toys to pleasure yourself and your partner, you learn what truly satisfies each other and tap into limitations, boundaries, and sexual stigmas that you may want to get rid of.

Role Play

Honey, you have to become your lover's favorite actress. Go completely out of your comfort zone and get fully into character of whoever or whatever you're trying to portray. A clutch moment would be to have bae meet you at a bar, let them know your location, and where you will be seated and let the fun begin. When your boo arrives, you will be fully in character as your alter ego, a stranger that they've never met before but that's ready to go to them for the night. Explore your fantasies, dress up for them or explore something kinky that you both may have been hesitant to try. It's all about making the moment count, so think outside the box and let the games begin.

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