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When the moon is in Virgo, we heal. On February 24, we have a Full Moon in this earth sign, and this is the Snow Moon of the year. Full Moons are the time of the month for closure, culmination, and letting go. Add Virgo into the mix, and we are entering a Full Moon where deep healing and renewal are taking place. Get out in nature, connect to your inner goddess, and let go of what doesn’t resonate with your soul growth.
February Snow Moon 2024: Full Moon In Virgo
Virgo is self-sufficient, and the seeds you have been planting in your life and the intentions you have been setting for yourself, are ready to show fruition. We are moving through a time of recognition and clarity, and the answers you need to move deeper into healing and abundance are coming forth now.
Virgo is the goddess in Astrology, and during this Full Moon, do as the goddesses do. Stand in your power, focus on your well-being, and protect your energy and boundaries. It is officially Pisces Season, Virgo’s opposite sign, and as they say, opposites attract. A lot of things are coming together in the grand scope of things, and it’s all starting to make sense. Pisces is the heart, Virgo is the head, and there is a mending happening here now. Jupiter in Taurus will also be in harmony with this Full Moon, and Jupiter is loving, expansive, and full of grand gestures.
Although Full Moons are about letting go, we are gaining a lot of good fortune in the process.
What Should You Do During a Full Moon?
During Full Moons, you nurture your world and take a little bit of weight off your shoulders. It’s not a New Moon, and setting intentions aren’t meant for this time, however, creating a nice little healing ritual is. Light a candle and focus on where you want to let go in your life. Write a list of gratitude of where you feel like you are truly aligned with yourself and your well-being, and want to give thanks.
Get out in nature, meditate, and let the healing energy of the moon connect with you. With absolutely no planets in retrograde, what happens now has all the possibility to continue to grow into something more.
Read for your sun, moon, and rising sign below to see how this Full Moon will be illuminating your life.
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What the February Snow Moon Has in Store for Your Zodiac Sign
ARIES
This Full Moon for you, Aries, is about your health, your daily life, and your overall well-being. Where have you been feeling restricted from living your best life? Have you been taking care of yourself the way you want to, or are there some changes that can be made right now? You are thinking things over during this Full Moon and are ready to let go of the fears that have been keeping you away from living in your true power.
You feel like your hands have been tied recently, and this Full Moon is here to unravel them and free yourself from this limiting energy. You are more powerful than you know, and the Virgo Full Moon is guiding you to healthier spaces, routines, and mindsets. You are free to do what is best for you, Aries.
TAURUS
The Virgo Full Moon is aligning positively with you, Taurus, but there is still a lot to think about right now. This Full Moon is happening in your 5th house, which is your heart. So, emotionally, you are moving through a culmination right now and need some time to process, accept, and settle into your energy. Clarity is beaming, and it’s changing the way you are looking at things moving forward.
A lot is coming together for you, and you are ready to let go of a lot right now as well. This time is reminding you to spend more energy on the things and people that make you happy and to take your joy more seriously. Discover where your passions can take you, communicate from the heart, and be free of the stressors that interrupt your happiness.
GEMINI
The Full Moon of the month is opening a new door for you financially and when it comes to your stability in life, Gemini. Full Moons overall are about closures and culminations, but the closures you are personally moving through right now are ultimately creating a new beginning in the process. Home, family, and your safe spaces are where the energy is for you right now, and it’s about developing here. Where have you been looking to make an opportunity into something more, and how can you dedicate yourself here?
Dreams are being fulfilled during this Full Moon, and you are the one leading the way for yourself. You are feeling in tune with the energy of this Full Moon occurring in a fellow mutable sign, and you are ready for the healing and transformations that are taking place right now.
CANCER
Your guidance for this time is to rest, let go, and heal the mind, Cancer. This Full Moon is bringing in a major culmination in your life, and even though you are happy to finally close a chapter, you are still working through the energy of everything coming to a head at once. You have been piling on responsibilities and perspectives, and it’s time to let go of some of this energy for the sake of your peace of mind.
Take care of the things you have been putting off, and trust that you can. You don’t want to move forward into new experiences with old baggage, and this Full Moon is helping you lighten the load both emotionally and mentally, before moving you forward again. Talking to someone about how you have been feeling, can be a first step towards feeling a burden lifting.
LEO
This Full Moon is one of abundance and financial culminations, Leo. The work you have been doing and the seeds you have been planting are coming to fruition, and you are receiving the rewards and achievements for your efforts. Life is coming full circle for you right now, and you are happy with where things stand. This is a good time to write a list of gratitude on where you feel the abundance in your life.
Truly take the time to soak in the good that surrounds you in life and know that it is here to stay. This Full Moon is reminding you that you are worthy of all you seek in life and that your value is not determined by anyone else but yourself. Everything's coming together for you right now, better than you may have hoped.
VIRGO
The Virgo Full Moon is here, and the power is in your hands right now, Virgo. You are in a powerful place to receive, and you are creating something out of nothing. You are tapping into your inner strengths during this Full Moon and are feeling personally invigorated for what is unfolding for you now. Full Moons are about letting go, and you are letting go of insecurities and self-doubt.
There is no room for doubt where you are heading, and rather than catering more to that energy, you are ready to claim what you are ready to manifest in your life. You are starting from square one in many ways right now, and you are seeing things come together for you in a way where you feel like it is truly possible for you. The past is the past, the present is a gift, and the future is better than promised.
LIBRA
This Full Moon is a time of deep closure for you, Libra. The Full Moon is happening at the very bottom of your chart in your 12th house, and you are moving through a culmination that is changing your priorities and goals moving forward. There is a lot to learn and investigate during this Full Moon, and you are doing the work. Enlightenment is beaming, and your mind is opening to everything that once seemed impossible to you before.
You are focused on what you want rather than what you don’t, and you are letting go of the rest. Your sharp focus serves you well in life, and there is a lot of gratitude for where things are and where you feel capable of leading them. What’s leaving your life is what you have wanted to be released from, and you have more space to allow more abundance and positivity into your life now.
SCORPIO
This is a more emotional and eye-opening Full Moon for you, Scorpio. You are coming full circle, and you are ready to release some emotional burdens that have been weighing you down. With this Full Moon happening in your 11th house of friendship, community, and your hopes and dreams, this is a good time to spend some more time with your soulmates, friends, and trusted community.
Life is reflecting to you what you have been feeling within, and you are ready to address your emotional world more deeply. The people in your life are coming in, and there is support around you when you need it right now. Feel all the feels, but don’t let yourself attach to any outcomes. You are free to be, and life is coming into balance for you right now, Scorpio.
SAGITTARIUS
Celebrations are in store for you, Sagittarius. This Full Moon is happening in a public area of your chart, and you are getting out there and showing up. This is a time when you are ready to have some more fun, let go of worries, and enjoy the gifts life has presented to you. You are also focused on your career and professional goals right now, but you are enjoying what’s coming into focus for you, and there is more to celebrate than be concerned about.
You have the right people in your life to succeed, and you are stepping forth into your dreams. This Full Moon is a good time to let go of being too serious or overly concerned with your achievements and to enjoy more what you have done for yourself and your life and the people that have been there for you through it all.
CAPRICORN
There is a lot to think about during this Full Moon, Capricorn. This Full Moon is happening in a fellow earth sign, so you are flowing well with the energy right now, but there are also a lot of different options presenting themselves that you hadn’t seen before. This is a time of diving deeper into your emotional world and discovering what your heart has been trying to tell you. More adventure wants to come into your life, and this is a good time to open your mind and consider all possibilities.
New doors don’t open for no reason, and the reasons for recent experiences in your life are coming forth right now. Honor where you are and what headspace you are looking to move into, and make sure you are protecting your peace of mind. This is the time to broaden your horizons and trust your gut instincts more.
AQUARIUS
This Full Moon is an awakening for you, Aquarius. You are a more mental sign and aren’t one to get too caught up in your emotional world. However, with this Full Moon occurring in a very emotional and transformative area of your birth chart, you are moving through an eye-opening time right now. This Full Moon is about letting go of perfection and honoring progress instead. Divine intervention is coming in, and where you have been committing yourself and prioritizing your energy is being reviewed right now.
You are seeing where you can dedicate more of yourself and where you can let go so that you have more space and freedom to feel like yourself and like you are aligned with your true intentions and goals. There is some re-working you are doing this Full Moon, and you are healing where healing has needed to take place.
PISCES
A lot is happening for you during this Full Moon, Pisces. This Full Moon is occurring in your opposite sign, Virgo, and you are going through an emotional whirlwind. Things change, and that’s because they are meant to. Your guidance for this Full Moon is to take the culminations that are presenting themselves right now in strides and to trust that your heart will always lead you in the right direction and to the right people who are meant for you.
With the sun and Saturn currently in your sign, you have the confidence and strength to overcome what has been, and you are ready to move deeper into love and connection. Partnerships strengths and weaknesses are coming to the forefront right now, and you are ready for things to come full circle here overall.
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Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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Not to mention the fact that so many folks literally don’t read (you know, past skimming) anymore — and yes, I have stats to prove it. I recently read that back in 2022, reportedly, a little over 48 percent of people read one book over the course of that entire year (that is not a good thing and proves that book reading is on a steady decline). Meanwhile, the amount of time that is spent on social media: 2.5 hours on a daily basis. That’s 150 minutes of listening to folks just say…whatever. And if you listen to it long enough, you could actually start believing it as gospel.
This includes what I am going to touch on today: the belief that if someone really cares about you, they should constantly reassure you. Y’all damn near are gonna have me join the world of social media again, just to address this one fallacy. For now, though, I’ll settle for making some points via this article — because as you can see from the title, I don’t agree with that conclusion at all.
In fact, I personally believe that thinking this way is a pretty big relational orange — if not red — flag.
Reassurance. And What It Does for a Child.
GiphyIf you’ve read enough of my content, you know that I am big on word definitions — and when it comes to the word “reassurance,” the meaning alone explains why this article has the title that it does:
Reassurance: something, such as information, praise, or an action or gesture, that soothes, comforts, or restores to confidence
Reassurance restores confidence. Bookmark that, please. I will certainly circle back to that point before I am done.
Okay, so when it comes to, say a child, there is absolutely a place for reassurance. That’s because they are still in the process of significant self-development and so they need reassurance in order to feel safe, secure and loved. It’s also a way for them to establish trust in others.
However, did you know that many mental health experts say that if a child deals with, say anxiety, constant reassurance can actually be counterproductive because they can start to rely on external validation to emotionally stabilize them instead of learning how to remain calm and relaxed on their own (yeah, bookmark that too)? Some other ways that constant reassurance can become potentially problematic is it can cause kids to create problems that don’t exist, to overthink and to jump to the wrong conclusions (hmm…very interesting).
And so, already, we’re seeing something pretty interesting, right? Although reassurance has its place, too much of it, even for kids, typically ends up doing more harm than good.
Let’s keep building.
How 'Lack' As a Child Can Manifest As an Adult
GiphyOkay, so we just touched on how constant reassurance can be counterproductive for an anxious child. Now what about when that child grows up? If they never learned how to properly and effectively deal with their anxiety, what then? Well, this is where attachment styles can very easily come into play — especially since one of them is literally called “anxious attachment style.”
Anxious attachment style is rooted in insecurity. It typically stems from experiencing the type of dysfunctional upbringing that resulted in one or both parents being unpredictable or inconsistent in their caregiving approach and techniques. As a result, the child deals with things like fear of abandonment or rejection and, without healing from that, they become an adult who is pretty much the exact same way.
In relationships, it can manifest in them being extra clingy, codependent, super jealous, controlling or — catch it — someone who is always looking for validation and reassurance.
Hmph. Did you catch that? Did you really catch that? Needing constant reassurance in a relationship IS NOT something that should automatically come with a relationship. In fact, if you’re someone who has this type of need or even expectation, there’s a really good chance that what you actually need is therapy — not for your partner to work harder to make you feel better about yourself or the relationship.
Which brings me to my next point.
Relationships Can Be Therapeutic. They Aren’t Therapy, Though.
GiphySomething that some of my clients will tell you that they’ve heard me say, more than once I might add is, “PARENT and PARTNER are not palindromes.” A palindrome is a word (line, sentence, etc.) that is the same whether it is spelled backwards or forwards — and while, of course, parent and partner couldn’t qualify as being that, what I mean is there are far too many people who think that partners should pick up where parents left off and/or dropped the ball — and that is a super unhealthy approach to relationships. Come to think of it, not only is it unhealthy but really unfair as well.
This is exactly why I’m not big on phrases like “the princess treatment” in adult relationships. A princess is the daughter of a king while a queen is the wife of one. For a grown woman to expect a man to do what a father did for her as a child without accepting that as an adult, there are far more responsibilities as a wife that comes into play? Yep, that is toxic thinking.
And you know what? So is expecting your partner to overcompensate for where your father and/or mother didn’t show up in the way that they should have. That is not your partner’s fault, their role or their assignment while dating you. If you feel otherwise, it really is time to speak with a professional who can help you to do a bit of “reprogramming” in your thinking because, for you to feel and/or assume that since your parents didn’t make you feel confident and secure or teach you how to value yourself, your partner should work overtime to make up for it? There is not one thing that is healthy, mature or emotionally solid about having that type of mindset.
And that is why I am also good for saying that, although relationships can be therapeutic (healing), they should never EVER be seen as therapy. Therapists are trained to deal with the mental and emotional challenges that people have. On the other hand, no one should expect their partner to have the knowledge and expertise that professionals do — and while we’re here, partners also shouldn’t trust that someone who needs the assistance of a therapist to become whole (again) would know exactly what steps are required for that to happen.
So yeah, if you’re someone who thinks that being loved means that someone needs to constantly make you feel good about yourself or secure in the relationship — you probably do have an anxious attachment style. See a professional to get that confirmed, though. Because no one should have to make you feel valued or worthy. That is an inside job.
And this brings me to my final point.
It’s Not Fair to Want Someone to Love You More than You Do
GiphyFor this last point, something that Christ once said immediately comes to mind:
“No one puts a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment; for the patch pulls away from the garment, and the tear is made worse. Nor do they put new wine into old wineskins, or else the wineskins break, the wine is spilled, and the wineskins are ruined. But they put new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.” (Matthew 9:16-18 — NKJV)
A lot of times, Christ spoke in parables because it was easier for people to get where he was coming from (Matthew 13:13). Anyway, along these lines, what would be the point in pouring a liquid into a bottle that has a hole in it? It’s not built to contain and maintain the fluid and so, no matter how delicious the drink may be, no matter how many times it’s poured into the bottle, the bottle is never going to remain full — because it has cracks in it.
BOOKMARK THAT.
My fourth baby’s daddy (check out “Why I Named The Children I Aborted”), while we were in the process of our “exit interview” (which is what I choose to call it) of our dynamic, he said something that has always stayed with me: “Shellie, your biggest problem is you receive compliments are revelations when they should be seen as confirmations.” Hmph. The irony of HIM saying that is kind of a trip and yet, at the time when we were experiencing each other, he was exactly right. I should’ve never had such a low sense of self-worth that whatever a man said to me had me so in awe that I either felt extremely grateful or became super addicted to his validation.
And y’all, that is exactly what needing constant reassurance looks like — because why does someone need to keep telling you that you are beautiful, keep saying that you are wonderful, keep letting you know that they want to be with you — keep restoring your confidence in yourself and in your relationship with them?
In other words, why should they work harder at making you feel good about yourself and solid in your relationship than you are willing to? Isn’t that just like pouring liquid into a broken bottle?
There is someone in my family tree who I had to distance myself from because he kept venting to me about his marriage and the fact that his wife was just like this. Sadly, it was never (and I do mean NEVER) enough that he chose her — whenever she felt some type of way about herself, here she came looking for him to fill her voids. After a couple of years of the nonstop needs for reassurance, he was worn out from doing it and I was exhausted from hearing about it. He was too scared to call her out and she was too unaccountable to get the real help that she needed. Whew. Toxic on top of toxic.
So Shellie, what are you saying — that we shouldn’t expect compliments, affirmations, support and encouragement in our relationships? Chile, if that is what you got out of this, you are choosing to think that way because that couldn’t be further from where I am coming from.
Again, you’ve got to remember what reassurance means: it’s about restoring confidence. A compliment is “an expression of praise, commendation, or admiration” yet if you already know that you are pretty, smart, funny, whatever, someone telling you that isn’t “building your confidence;” it’s cosigning on something that you are already aware of. Encouragement is about inspiring or stimulating someone and so yes, of course, the right partner is going to want to see you win in life and so they are going to offer up influence and motivation to help you — but what if they aren’t there?
Shouldn’t you be able to encourage yourself? ABSOLUTELY. However, expecting them to restore your confidence due to things that have nothing to do with them or because you simply lack self-confidence? That is not how relationships are to go. If you aren’t sure of yourself (which is a foundational definition of confident), get to the root of why and then figure what you need to do to become sure — that way, your partner doesn’t have to constantly “fill you up;” actually, what they do will be surplus instead of void-filling because your “bottle” will be unbroken.
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I’m telling you, if you pay attention to the relationship side of socials, at least twice a day, someone will talk about how they think that a relationship should entail receiving constant reassurance. Lies on top of lies. No one should think that love means trying to make someone else feel sure about themselves because they don’t know how to do so on their own.
And this is why I say that expecting constant reassurance is an orange, if not red, flag.
Because when you already feel good about yourself, there is no need.
And if you don’t, figuring out how to is an inside job — FIRST.
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