Since starting my workout journey, I have tried almost everything to reach my health goals – HIIT, cardio, etc. Fortunately, I quickly realized I am a weightlifting warrior who likes to throw in yoga occasionally. Now, in true “new to this, not true to this” fashion, I hopped on YouTube to learn some simple yoga moves and their alternatives I could practice during warm-ups and post-workout stretches.
After nearly two months of practicing different poses, I remember one day, I suddenly felt “different.” I did not cry, but I experienced what felt like a release, and when I was done, my back and shoulders felt lighter. Additionally, my spirit felt a little more at ease. Since I did not fully understand what happened, I decided to tap on an expert’s shoulder.
Divinity Gaines is a yoga instructor, dancer, personal trainer, and content creator. In our talk, she explained the release I experienced and shared the best poses for an emotional release. “When we talk about yoga, people associate it with just poses, but it is much more,” Divinity explained. “Yoga possesses eight limbs.”
The eight limbs of yoga, or Ashtanga, are:
- Yama (Self-restraint)
- Niyama (Observance)
- Asana (Movement and posture)
- Pranayama (Breath)
- Pratyahara (Withdrawal of senses)
- Dharana (Concentration)
- Dhyana (Meditation)
- Samadhi (Union)
When explaining to me the "why" behind my emotional release while doing yoga, Divinity noted that the physical movement of my practices is the limb called asana. She continued, “The emotional release you feel is just that. We hold tension within our bodies throughout. We have energy channels on both sides of us. These channels run through our bodies, and people associate different energy points with their chakras. And yoga opens those channels.”
Not all emotional releases look the same; therefore, you do not necessarily have to worry about an “ugly cry” while doing poses. For example, sometimes, an individual will experience samadhi, which is “ultimate bliss.” However, regardless of your pose, you will not experience that release if you are not breathing throughout.
“If you are using your pranayama (breath), then you will experience that release,” Divinity stated.
Divinity GainesPhoto courtesy of Divinity GainesTop 5 (Physical) Yoga Poses for An Emotional Release
Even though you can practice many yoga poses for an emotional release, Divinity has provided her top five poses to get us started.
1. Lizard Pose/Utthan Pristhasan – The lizard pose is a deep hip flexor opener perfect for someone experiencing high stress and can release unconscious trauma. It deals with your second chakra – Svadhisthana (sacral chakra), which is linked to confidence, survival instinct, creativity, and a feeling of generosity.
Begin on all fours in Downward Dog, ensuring your feet are hip-width apart and your chin stays tucked under your chest. Next, step your right foot forward to the outside edge of your right hand, entering a lunge position. Next, lower your left knee to the ground and press into your hips, keeping your arms and back straight. Then, slowly lower onto your forearms, keeping your back flat and your head aligned with your spine. Finally, press up onto the ball of your left foot as you straighten your left leg. Hold the pose and then repeat on the other side.
2. Pigeon Pose/ Eka Pada Rajakapotasana – The Pigeon Pose is another hip flexor opener that deals with our second chakra. It can be an intense emotional release and tension release.
Start with your knees under your hips and your hands slightly before your shoulders. Bring your left knee forward and out to the left, position your left foot in front of your right knee, and rest the outside of your left foot on the floor. Slide your right leg back, straighten the knee, tuck your toes under, and push through the fingertips to lift your torso and lengthen the spine. Keep your hips squared, press your tailbone down and forward, open the chest, and gaze up.
3. Supta Baddha Konasana – For anyone experiencing anxiety, stress, or a scattered mind, then the Supta Baddha Konasana is an excellent move for you. It stimulates your sacral chakra, which is associated with your sex organs, and root chakras, which are responsible for your sense of security and stability.
Lie on your back. Bend your knees, keeping the soles of your feet on the floor. Next, open your knees out to either side, bringing the soles of your feet together. Your arms can be in any comfortable position—out in a T shape, overhead, relaxed by your sides, or resting on your thighs are some options. Stay here for several minutes as gravity works to deepen your stretch. Breathe naturally throughout the pose. To come out of the pose, reach down and help your knees come back together. Then roll over to one side and use your hands to support you as you sit up.
4. Camel Pose/Utrasana – The Camel Pose is for anyone with a hurting heart. It involves your heart chakra and heart opener. For example, if you recently experienced a breakup and want to release that pain, then try this move.
Place your knees hip-width apart in kneeling, and tuck your toes. Engage your inner thighs, draw your lower belly in and up, and roll your shoulders back. On an inhalation, lengthen through both side waists, and lift the chest. With the lower body stable, on an exhale, start to come into your backbend, lifting the chest without crunching the neck or lower back. As you lean back, find your blocks or heels with your hands – or you can do this one side at a time by circling one arm up and behind you. Keep your inner thighs engaged, firm the shoulder blades into the back, and stay for a couple of breaths. Use your inhalation to help you back up, then sit on your heels with a neutral spine for a moment.
5. Inversion Pose – The last pose releases trauma, promotes emotional growth, and re-toxifies your blood. These poses allow your blood to circulate. An Inversion Pose is any move where your heart is higher than your head, such as a headstand.
Although yoga is a great tool to help with emotional release, incorporating other activities, such as therapy or journaling, can also help.
Divinity Gaines is a former NBA dancer turned Yogi. Her website offers a mind and body release program and a 21-day fitness challenge (all levels welcomed). In addition, she teaches yoga at Core Power in Hollywood on Mondays and Wednesdays.
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Now that our good sis is leaning into this new chapter and her new forever, let’s take a look at Meagan and Jonathan’s relationship history.
June 2022: Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin Finalize Divorce
Meagan ends her 9-year marriage to producer and preacher DeVon Franklin. The split is a major transition for Good, who had been in a relationship rooted deeply in shared faith and public life. She takes time to focus on healing and rediscovering herself after a highly publicized marriage.
March 2023: Jonathan Majors Faces Legal Troubles
Jonathan Majors is arrested in New York on domestic violence charges after an altercation with his then-girlfriend. The incident generated widespread media attention, putting Majors' personal life under public scrutiny. As his legal situation unfolds, Majors remains mostly silent about his dating life.
April 2023: Rumors of a New Romance Begin
Speculation about Jonathan’s' romantic life resurfaces in April 2023 when sources hint at a budding relationship between him and Meagan Good. The news was surprising to many given his ongoing legal issues and Meagan’s recent divorce. They were reportedly spotted at several private gatherings together, though neither confirms the relationship publicly at this stage.
In an interview with PEOPLE, Meagan said, “Someone saw us somewhere going to a movie and then kind of reported it, and it was like, 'Should we shut it down or not?' And I was like, 'No, because people have a perception of you that's not true. A perception of who you date that's not true.' So if this is what it is then at some point they're going to find out.'”
May 2023: First Public Outing
The couple was seen together for the first time publicly in Los Angeles. They were photographed holding hands, which quickly sparked dating rumors. Their appearance together came as a surprise given the backdrop of Majors' legal battle. Friends of Good reportedly expressed concern but also indicated support for her choices during this period.
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June 2023: Confirmed Relationship
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September 2023: Majors Refers to Good as "The Missus"
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In a speech, the Eve’s Bayou star said, “We’re just so happy to be here with y’all tonight, celebrating us, celebrating the moves we’re making, celebrating the way we love and support each other, the way that we shift the world. Let’s enjoy ourselves!”
“So many beautiful Black faces. I love us, y’all! We are so beautiful! That’s all I got. I’m just happy to be here and I love y’all!” After delivering her speech, she handed the podium over to Majors. “Babe, you want to say anything?”
Majors then said, “Y’all heard the missus, so that’s what it is.”
November 2023: Solidifying the Relationship
On November 29, 2023, as Major's trial commenced, Good demonstrated her unwavering support by accompanying him to the courtroom, where they entered hand in hand. Throughout the trial, she continued to make appearances, steadfastly standing in solidarity with the actor, conveying a message of unity and unwavering commitment.
According to a source close to the couple, Jonathan's challenging experience has strengthened their bond. Meagan's unwavering courage and resilience have been a constant source of support for him, solidifying their relationship further. In the front row of the courthouse, the actress took a reserved seat behind him. As they entered and exited the courtroom, she repeatedly placed her hand on his back. Additionally, Good's mother joined them as the trial commenced.
February 2024: Cohabitation
According to a reliable source via PEOPLE, Good and Majors' bond remains strong and filled with love. Their relationship deepened, as they moved into the charming Greenwich Village neighborhood of New York City together. The couple shares a 3-month-old Belgian Malinois puppy, adding to their shared happiness. In addition, the source revealed that Majors and Good embarked on a memorable cross-country road trip from Los Angeles to New York City, making a heartwarming stop in Texas to visit Major's mother. This journey further solidified their connection and highlighted their unwavering commitment to each other.
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March 2024: Red Carpet Official
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November 2024: He Put A Ring On It
At the EBONY Power 100 Gala in Los Angeles, Majors and Good happily announced their engagement while speaking to PEOPLE. "We're thrilled," the actress exclaimed, displaying her stunning diamond ring. Majors beamed, "It's a time of pure joy."
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