
20 Quotes About Black Love That Will Make You A True Love Believer

Black love deserves celebration. And it deserves celebration for multiple reasons. Because of our history, love for each other has been a necessity to survive. By choosing each other, we literally do it for the culture by continuing folklore and manifestations of our human intellectual achievements. Our genetic makeup has always been grounded in resilience — the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties and toughness. Black love creates balance, space, growth, and change making for a fundamental part of our identities.
That's why seeing Black love represented is so crucial. From the big screen to real-life examples, we have to empower Black women and men to cherish each other above all. Truth is, we all want that Dwayne Wayne-Whitley, Michelle-Barack, Beyonce-Jay-Z, Malcolm-Betty, Tamia-Grant, Synclaire-Overton love that withstands all things.
One of the most profound quotes we love is from John and Karen Clicksales, a couple of over 40 years. When talking about Black love, they said:
"Black love has a unique quality because of the world we live in, both past and present. Black love is the acknowledgment of making sacrifices. We as a couple have to adapt to one another, along with outside forces that affect one's everyday life. Black love to me can be affectionate, caring, passionate, strong, difficult, painful, cherished. Black love has sustained the test of time."
To keep the love going, we have gathered quotes about Black love that will keep hope alive and make you a true love believer.
"Black love is resistance." - Unknown
"Love is chosen by us. The love everyone has for their children is a love like no other love in the world. People want to have a better world for their children. The love starts by loving our fellow man as well as our country. This is the choice everyone has to make." - Michelle Obama
"I am grateful to have been loved, and to be loved now and to be able to love. Because love liberates." — Maya Angelou
"Being in love with someone will make you come out of your comfort zone." – Zora Neale Hurston
"You are the perfect verse over a tight beat." - Dre, Brown Sugar
"I pray that someone will love you enough to see you when you are not well, to see when you need true support, to see you when you need compassion, to see you when you need kindness. I pray that somebody loves you enough to sacrifice their life for you. I pray that type of love finds you so that you can understand why I don't want my husband to put his life on the line anymore, wearing a bulletproof vest if he don't have to, and if it's not his desire." - Tabitha Brown
"The true keys to loving someone are knowing how to care for someone, showing affection for the person, giving them respect, and being committed to making the relationship work. You also need honesty and openness if you want to succeed at love." - Bell Hooks
"It's not hard to express how you feel about love. People have been expressing their love for a long time. The realness of the love is based on honesty and how it makes you feel. Anyone can say they love someone in many different ways and make it sound unique." - Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds
"Love takes off the masks we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within." - James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time
"Love means accepting many faults and taking 'revenge' out of your vocabulary. If you love someone, let go of the pain and move on with that person." – Beyonce
" Finding love within yourself is truly an act of God. Love is about accepting everything about yourself." - Ntozake Shange
"If you are out there and you want to attract somebody, fall in love with yourself."– Tina Lawson
"To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients — care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication." — Bell Hooks
"There is one irrefutable law of the universe: We are each responsible for our own life. If you're holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you're wasting your time. You must be fearless enough to give yourself the love you didn't receive." – Oprah Winfrey
"Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston
"Everyone you meet comes with baggage, find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." - Unknown
"She doesn't belong to me. She belongs to God. I am simply the caretaker of her heart on God's behalf." - Unknown
"You deserve to be happy. Not in the arms of someone who keeps you waiting, but in the arms of someone who will take you now, love you forever, and leave you never." - Unknown
I hope you find someone who speaks your language so you don't have to spend a lifetime translating your spirit.— Dr. Thema (@Dr. Thema) 1522728296
"I hope you find someone who speaks your language so you don't have to spend a lifetime translating your spirit." - Dr. Thema
"Longevity and happiness are what it's all about. It's about figuring out how to be together happily. That's the only measurement that, I think, makes sense. Those are relationship goals: to still like the person you're with, to still want to be with the person you're with because you choose to be with them—not because it's the default, not because it's the easy thing. That doesn't mean you're happy all the time, but overall, you are happy, and you are still one team, and every day you're choosing that team. You're choosing to be together." - Tommy Oliver
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Before getting married and becoming a mother, Danielle Brooks was just fine focusing on her career.
“I did not want children,” Brooks shared on the first episode of Pregnant Pause, a new podcast for Black women at the intersection of motherhood and ambition. “I was one of those women who believed I was not gonna be married and I was not gonna have kids, and I was ok with that.”
But after meeting her now husband Dennis Gelin, The Color Purple actress had second thoughts about building a family. And one moment in particular rocked her world and changed her mind.
While playing the role of Sophia in The Color Purple on Broadway and playing Tasha “Taystee” Jefferson on the Netflix series Orange is the New Black, Brooks shared she struggled with severe acne and decided to get on Accutane. However, because it is a potent teratogen, meaning it can cause significant harm to a developing fetus, experts warn the retinoid medication should never be taken during pregnancy due to the high risk of severe birth defects. When Brooks found out she was pregnant while taking the medication she realized she did, in fact, want a child.
“I will never forget, when I saw that pregnancy test, I broke down,” she said. “And it wasn’t out of fear. I broke down because I realized I wanted to be a mom, and that option was no longer on the table in this moment. And it shocked the hell out of me.”
Brooks eventually had her daughter Freeya in November 2019, and got married in 2022. Today she juggles her career with being a wife and mother and got real on how hard it can be but how necessary it is to pull back at times.
“There are moments in motherhood, in marriage, in life that you need stillness,” she said. “And I’m learning that that is ok and beautiful.”
Watch her full interview on the Pregnant Pause Podcast here, or listen to the episode on Apple, Spotify, iHeart or where you listen to podcasts.
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"I'm Not Your Therapist": David Banner Gets Real About Grown Folks & Loving Black Women Out Loud
David Banner didn't come to the xoMAN podcast to play.
With his salted goatee and signature Banner stare, he's got the internet in a bit of a chokehold, and rightfully so. In one of the most recent episodes of the xoMAN podcast, the rapper, producer, activist, and unapologetic truth-teller kept it all the way real with our host Kiara Walker. The 51-year-old got deep about ego, healing, and what it really means to love Black women out loud.
And another thing he makes clear? The fact that he's done trying to fix people who don't want to fix themselves.
"Sometimes we feel like we can change things with people. People are grown. That's why most of the things I do focus on kids. Cuz grown-ups, they talk stuff, but done made up their mind about the people that they want to be, you know. And I don't really have time to--I'm done with that, trying to change people and be people therapists," David shares matter-of-factly.
Adding, "This is something that is slightly rude, but I do it a lot. I'll tell people that I really care about, 'I'm not your therapist.'... I'm not your therapist. That one ain't for me. I am not trained for that, you know what I'm saying?"
Can the church say amen?
When Kiara slid in a question about what would make him happy in a partner right now, David didn't hesitate, sharing, "Somebody that wants me and doesn't need me. And that's financially, that's spiritually, that's mentally. Somebody that's doing the self-work. They got their own things going on. Somebody that I can miss sometimes... I would love that."
David, who's known for playing up the piercing intensity of his stare, can crack a megawatt smile that takes your breath away in an instant, and he did just that, radiating as he talked about his appreciation for the way Black women have been showing up for him lately.
"As hard as I play sometimes, I am really honored with the way that Black women are loving on me right now. I act like I'm unfazed but it's sweet. And they're very vocal about it... I do what I do to honor the Black woman and I'm glad that they're taking it the right way because I'm very serious about what I do."
Still, don't expect the Fight Night star to get comfortable with all the praise. To him, it's not something to be marveled, but to be expected. He's a man doing what he feels a man should do.
"The only thing about it I hate that people make it something special when it's just what a man is supposed to do... A man is supposed to look you directly in the eye. What is a man hiding that he can't? You know what I'm saying? If you are a woman, you're supposed to want to be around a man that's going to protect you... So it's like for me, I try not to marvel in the things that I am supposed to do as a man."
And we all collectively swoon.
Watch the full episode of xoMAN featuring David Banner on YouTube here and see why it is this conversation and his particular brand of salt and pepper still have the people talking.
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